Lie, cheat, and steal if you have to. I'd bribe medical staff just to get the best experimental treatments if you can't get there via legal means.
I’m 35 and I may suddenly have lost the rest of my life
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Re: I’m 35 and I may suddenly have lost the rest of my life
#32Colonoscopy was a pretty fast and painless experience for me. The prep drink I had to take the day before was the worst part.
Being worried is definitely not a reason to put it off!
Re: I’m 35 and I may suddenly have lost the rest of my life
#33With much sensitivity to the physical and emotional turmoil the author must be experiencing right now, I disagree with his advice: > Stop just assuming you have a full lifetime to do whatever it is you dream of doing. Rare and catastrophic events like this that can severely shorten your life are ones you should not plan for. If they occur, that's very unfortunate, and maybe you'll still have a contingency plan that c…
In this case, living for "expected value" only makes sense if you live enough times to exploit the central limit theorem. If you review actuarial tables, you can see that at 35 (and male) you have 0.93% chance of not living to see your 40s. That is small... but it isn't vanishingly small. (source: https://www.ssa.gov/oact/STATS/table4c6.html)
Re: I’m 35 and I may suddenly have lost the rest of my life
#34With much sensitivity to the physical and emotional turmoil the author must be experiencing right now, I disagree with his advice: > Stop just assuming you have a full lifetime to do whatever it is you dream of doing. Rare and catastrophic events like this that can severely shorten your life are ones you should not plan for. If they occur, that's very unfortunate, and maybe you'll still have a contingency plan that c…
Your odds of being the 0.00001% are very low, but someone has to be it. He's just saying recognize that. Recognize that all your hopes, dreams, fears, assumptions, etc. can literally be gone in an instant and live accordingly. I know it sounds ridiculously cliched, and of course you never think it will happen to you, but let me assure you that life really can be taken from you at any time, so live it with that realit…
Right; the problem being with a rate that low is that there really isn't much to do about it, unless you pretend its much more likely than it actually is. Living accordingly, given all other potential for error in your life that actually is likely to occur, is really to change nothing at all.
Re: I’m 35 and I may suddenly have lost the rest of my life
#35> Don't assume you have a lifetime to pursue your dreams.
But will this change our perception of people in their 20s-30s that do pursue their dreams and are behind in their careers and finances?
At what point is a quarter/mid-life crisis not just an acceptable adult YOLO?
The author has some initial regrets on building up their savings and network, and I wonder if additional perspectives will be made by me posting this
Re: I’m 35 and I may suddenly have lost the rest of my life
#36Any amount of unexplained rectal bleeding is reason enough to schedule an appointment with a doctor. The doctor is likely to recommend a colonoscopy. Removal of polyps (a likely source of bleeding) reduces the chances of cancer developing and can only be done during a colonoscopy.
I'm almost ashamed to ask but what's "explained rectal bleeding"? An unusually large/solid movement causing direct damage?
It's possible to swallow something indigestible that then comes out in poop - sometimes this could cause bleeding. If you have anything inserted in your anus for any reason this could also cause bleeding.
Re: I’m 35 and I may suddenly have lost the rest of my life
#37PSA for anyone reading this: Colorectal cancer for younger people seems to be on the rise. They don't seem to know why. My father had colon cancer and was not expected to survive it. I think he was 69 when he was finally diagnosed. He had put off seeing a doctor because he thought it was "just old age" and it was quite advanced by the time he was diagnosed. He did survive it and died, iirc, just short of his 89th or…
Oh we know why! It's just not acceptable to talk about it: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3311490/ Asking people to take responsibility for this one simple thing is taboo. (I have a Colonoscopy just last week as part of a routine exam at my age. The procedure really isn't that bad. A couple hours on the toilet during the prep, and that's about the worst of it).
Obesity is merely one factor. I have read a number of articles on this and even written at least one (I get paid to ghost write health articles). My understanding is, no, they don't really know why.
Furthermore, how to not be obese is not really a solved problem. Suggesting that fat people are merely irresponsible is pretty lousy. Most fat people have tried to lose the weight. Some have tried incredibly hard and done rather crazy-sounding things, to no avail. We don't really understand that problem space either. Some people are able to lose the weight and keep it off. Others fail and fail and fail while trying like hell.
Re: I’m 35 and I may suddenly have lost the rest of my life
#38It's never too late to turn to the Dharma. I lost a child recently and the only hope I can find out of it has been to study what the Buddha taught.
> if we start thinking about impermanence now, while we still have time to find skillful means to deal with it, then later we will not be caught unaware. Even though in the short term the contemplation of death and impermanence might cause discomfort, in the long term it will actually save us from greater suffering. [1]
Re: I’m 35 and I may suddenly have lost the rest of my life
#39With much sensitivity to the physical and emotional turmoil the author must be experiencing right now, I disagree with his advice: > Stop just assuming you have a full lifetime to do whatever it is you dream of doing. Rare and catastrophic events like this that can severely shorten your life are ones you should not plan for. If they occur, that's very unfortunate, and maybe you'll still have a contingency plan that c…
Life is random, from birth to death. We probably should not live it with fear or hard expectations. I remember reading on Twitter about an entrepreneur that was killed instantly from an avalanche on Mt Everest. Who could predict?
Just do the best you can, try to be kind, and use sunscreen.
Re: I’m 35 and I may suddenly have lost the rest of my life
#40Any amount of unexplained rectal bleeding is reason enough to schedule an appointment with a doctor. The doctor is likely to recommend a colonoscopy. Removal of polyps (a likely source of bleeding) reduces the chances of cancer developing and can only be done during a colonoscopy.
I'm almost ashamed to ask but what's "explained rectal bleeding"? An unusually large/solid movement causing direct damage?
If someone stabbed you in the rectum, the bleeding is explained. You should still probably get it looked at.