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I fell in love with an assassin (2008)

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Re: I fell in love with an assassin (2008)

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Post by jacurtis »

ainiriand wrote: post #5
2T1Qka0rEiPr wrote: post #2

> leading a secret double life – as an assassin These things always make me chuckle

Like: meet [name], actress and model.

I don't think it's quite the same.

She could have been living a double life and not been an assassin. They aren't synonymous. People live double lives where they have multiple families, or other things. A double life isn't only reserved for assasins, so the clarification is actually quite important.

The author was explaining that he just found out that his girlfriend was living an alternative life in addition to the one he knew. Then he clarifies, what the "double life" was, it was as an assassin.

Re: I fell in love with an assassin (2008)

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Post by learc83 »

moron4hire wrote: post #18
wavefunction wrote: post #16

Earlier quoted context omitted.

She was just a mass murderer. I don't see any indications of sociopathy. I bet most people could be turned to this life given her circumstances and environment.

She accepted payment from a friend to murder the friend's boyfriend's other girlfriend. Not only that, she decapitated and dismembered the body. Did we read the same article? Having a "just doing a job" attitude about killing other people is sociopathic.

If what she said about killing the first person was correct, she felt remorse. She had a conscious, she just forced herself to ignore it until killing stopped bothering her.

Historical genocides, and massacres show that either there are a lot more latent sociopaths out there than we ever dreamed of, or normal people can become desensitized to killing.

Re: I fell in love with an assassin (2008)

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Post by wumbolad »

kstenerud wrote: post #33

"But what happens if your new girlfriend has a much darker and more sinister secret than having slept around a bit?" And what, exactly, is wrong with "having slept around a bit?"

Despite all the progressive bullshit about how sleeping around is totally okay, some people still don't want to date a slut or a man-whore. Don't be so offended.

Re: I fell in love with an assassin (2008)

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Post by jacquesm »

thret wrote: post #21
jacquesm wrote: post #17

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The two biggest mistakes people tend to repeat are thinking that (1) it can't happen here and (2) if it does happen here I'll be different.

It's our society that is better, not our people.

Societies are not on some kind of monotonically increasing slope, they can regress and they can do so with astonishing speed.

Re: I fell in love with an assassin (2008)

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Post by DougN7 »

kstenerud wrote: post #33

"But what happens if your new girlfriend has a much darker and more sinister secret than having slept around a bit?" And what, exactly, is wrong with "having slept around a bit?"

Much higher chance of STDs. I was recently reading something like 1 in 5 Americans has at least one. No thanks.

Re: I fell in love with an assassin (2008)

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Post by balfirevic »

wumbolad wrote: post #34
kstenerud wrote: post #33

"But what happens if your new girlfriend has a much darker and more sinister secret than having slept around a bit?" And what, exactly, is wrong with "having slept around a bit?"

Despite all the progressive bullshit about how sleeping around is totally okay, some people still don't want to date a slut or a man-whore. Don't be so offended.

You're mixing up personal dating preferences with something being "not okay". For example, I don't want to date highly religious people, but if I called their faith "a dark and sinister secret" people would rightly say I'm being a jerk.

Re: I fell in love with an assassin (2008)

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Post by Sleeep »

wumbolad wrote: post #34
kstenerud wrote: post #33

"But what happens if your new girlfriend has a much darker and more sinister secret than having slept around a bit?" And what, exactly, is wrong with "having slept around a bit?"

Despite all the progressive bullshit about how sleeping around is totally okay, some people still don't want to date a slut or a man-whore. Don't be so offended.

Being a slut or a man-whore is not the same thing as "sleeping around a bit." If you're dating someone whose in their 30s, there's a good chance they've had a few sex partners, that doesn't mean they are slut, or "give it away for free," or whatever. They may even have been raped.

Sleeping around is perfectly ok on a personal level. Filtering your own sex partners by the criteria you choose is also perfectly ok. Both are taking personal control of your own sexuality even though they may seem conflicting to you.

(Personally I strongly prefer someone whose sexually experienced, but that's just my preference.)

Re: I fell in love with an assassin (2008)

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Post by greenshackle2 »

kstenerud wrote: post #33

"But what happens if your new girlfriend has a much darker and more sinister secret than having slept around a bit?" And what, exactly, is wrong with "having slept around a bit?"

Higher risk of STDs, higher risk of cheating.

There's nothing morally wrong with sleeping around if that's your deal, doesn't mean I have to want to date people who sleep around.

(I happen not to mind because i) I have a high sex drive, people who've slept around usually do too so we're a good match, and ii) I'm not very jealous, I'd consider an open relationship with the right person. But there are legitimate reasons to worry about it.)

Re: I fell in love with an assassin (2008)

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Post by nojvek »

Sleeep wrote: post #38
wumbolad wrote: post #34

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Despite all the progressive bullshit about how sleeping around is totally okay, some people still don't want to date a slut or a man-whore. Don't be so offended.

Being a slut or a man-whore is not the same thing as "sleeping around a bit." If you're dating someone whose in their 30s, there's a good chance they've had a few sex partners, that doesn't mean they are slut, or "give it away for free," or whatever. They may even have been raped. Sleeping around is perfectly ok on a personal level. Filtering your own sex partners by the criteria you choose is also perfectly ok. Both…

Some people have usually 5-10 partners by the time they are 30. Some people have 50+.

Some enjoy casual sex like eating at a new restaurant. Some enjoy long lasting relationships.

I dated girls who had a lot of casual sex. I thought that’s what I wanted. I hated it. They saw sex and love as different things. I didn’t.

I’m with someone who’s only been in couple of long relationships before and I love it.

It’s just personal preference.

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