As one more random data point: I am a chatty extravert. Sometimes people imagine they are close to me when they are not.
How to make a friend fast
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#62I think I might have permanently damaged my vision with that #FFF on #000 color scheme. I still see text floating in the air.
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#63Added to my daily flash cards
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Good luck doing that in Germany without being seeing as a weird egomaniac
What a rude way to make a point. Maybe you meant something like "Interestingly, the same approach would be perceived differently in Germany I think, and would perhaps come off as egotistical"
Let's all just savor that one.
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#65You can see this played out every day in designated smoking areas. I've observed smokers tend to become friends quickly. As smoking is increasingly frowned upon, everybody who shows up in the smoking area is sort of opening up and sharing a weakness with the other smokers just by being there.
Source: two weeks into quitting.
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#66Does anyone know what is meant by "high ego identities" and "low ego identities?"
Are you feeling big and developed enough to talk to someone of the opposite sex? While ideally it would make no difference, it's certainly the truth that many of us are happier to engage socially with those of the same sex than those who aren't.
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#67You can see this played out every day in designated smoking areas. I've observed smokers tend to become friends quickly. As smoking is increasingly frowned upon, everybody who shows up in the smoking area is sort of opening up and sharing a weakness with the other smokers just by being there.
It existed before the non-smokers called it a weakness. It's called assuming you have something in common with your fellow man, and being willing to make small talk under only that pretense. Source: two weeks into quitting.
Stay strong!
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Good luck doing that in Germany without being seeing as a weird egomaniac
Yeah I'm not German (except by ancestry) and I get really uncomfortable when conversations go like that. Why is this guy trying to convince me he's such a great dad? What's his angle with that? I would definitely not take something like that as a sincere "personal disclosure" from someone I'd never met. I'd take it as more like a greasy salesman tactic.
Seems more incidental and less tactical. Leave it to the listener to comprehend that Bob has a regular day caring for children. It's also enough for the listener to share that they also have kids, etc.