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To Stay in Love, Sign on the Dotted Line

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Re: To Stay in Love, Sign on the Dotted Line

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I don't get it. The title of the article is "To Stay in Love, Sign on the Dotted Line," but there's absolutely nothing in it that supports the title. All it is is about an unmarried woman whose been in a relationship for only 3 years saying a scheduled conversations and paper an pen (or keyboard in this case) helps her have relationship communication. The title should really be "communication is helpful for my new re…

Precisely. I kept waiting for a paragraph beginning: "and now, ten years into our marriage..." But it never came, since this couple isn't married and hasn't even been dating that long. Clickbait titles like this are common on the internet, but I expect better from the New York Times. This article is bereft of anything remotely newsworthy. Perhaps their new slogan should be "All the news that's fit to print, plus some…

I actually wouldn't mind it if it was an op-ed with a title such as "how I learned effective relationship communication." But with that title I am expecting something of substance.

Also saying they were drinking beers while doing it has the implication that they needed alcohol to be able to have such important conversations. Not saying that's the case, I'm saying it gives the impression.

Re: To Stay in Love, Sign on the Dotted Line

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

Why do you keep persisting in quoting that 30% number when it's been repeatedly demonstrated to be misleading? You don't need to rationalize your choices with bad statistics, or worse, by deriding those who choose to make a different choice.

It's not misleading. It's undetailed/undecomposed. Which is to say, yes, there are some people for which it is on the high end, and other people for which it is on the low end. But the best evidence I've seen puts the bell-curve window at 30-50%. When you wish to talk about the institution in generalities, you cannot help but describe it according to all its participants. I'm talking about marriage, not white college…

Why are you in a romantic relationship at all then? Non-marriage romantic relationships have a -MUCH- higher failure rate. At least be ideologically consistent.

You should probably just break up with your girlfriend now because you have some very serious commitment issues.

Re: To Stay in Love, Sign on the Dotted Line

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

It's not misleading. It's undetailed/undecomposed. Which is to say, yes, there are some people for which it is on the high end, and other people for which it is on the low end. But the best evidence I've seen puts the bell-curve window at 30-50%. When you wish to talk about the institution in generalities, you cannot help but describe it according to all its participants. I'm talking about marriage, not white college…

Why are you in a romantic relationship at all then? Non-marriage romantic relationships have a -MUCH- higher failure rate. At least be ideologically consistent. You should probably just break up with your girlfriend now because you have some very serious commitment issues.

Read this: https://www.good.is/articles/domestic-partnerships-should-be...

Why is your thinking so binary? (Also, false dichotomy fallacy.) Have you been so brainwashed by the all-consuming institution that you have become blind to any other option? I have no issues with commitment, just this institution and its unreasonable expectations of lifetime commitment or else. Especially makes less sense if you don't have kids.

Re: To Stay in Love, Sign on the Dotted Line

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Mid thirties, unmarried, only "kid" is a dog ... this is amusing to me. It describes the average, self-important, liberal-voting person today.

This is terribly unhelpful. Can you at least elaborate on what you mean?

It wasn't meant to be helpful. It was just an observation of a certain kind of person.
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