Ask HN: Why is it hard to find a wife now-a-days?

Post by val314159 » Sun, Jun 11, 2017, 2:44 PM UTC

Veratyr wrote: post #20

val314159 wrote: post #13

You want to find a girl who is: 1. ready for marriage 2. has had NO previous boyfriends 3. doesn't drink more than twice a month 4. said girl should not value money at all 5. this girl should be ok a guy who has poor social skills 6. should not have an arbitrary set of rules that excludes nearly 100% of the dating pool If you find this girl, I guarantee you she is messed up in the head. Bonus question: How come you s…

> How come you said a women "on my side" rather than "by my side"? (is she a gun or a partner?) I think this is just an honest mistake as a result of bad English rather than a reflection of his attitude towards women.

I could totally see that. However, too many "misspeaks" like this could come across as telegraphing your true feelings.

Sometimes how people say things is even more important than WHAT they say. (other case in point: "Decent" is a highly charged, loaded VALUE JUDGEMENT. I wonder if the Op is "decent"?)

Post by asshat909 » Sun, Jun 11, 2017, 3:13 PM UTC

super-serial wrote: post #6

Sounds like you like traditional women. If a girl like that didn't drink in her twenties and focused on her studies or career like you, why shouldn't she expect a guy with resources? She's a good catch. Traditional girls want to focus on family life and their kids so money ensures they could be free to do that. Since you want good catches don't accept being bald. You can get hair transplants if needed. You should tak…

The real cures for bald are "funny" or "confident". Those are attributes women REALLY want. And if your sense of humor is only ok, try "being a caring, active listener" (amazingly almost no one does this).

The asker didn't want to be wanted for their money, but to be wanted for your hair? Think about it. That's even MORE shallow.

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