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Ask HN: What keeps you up at night? What do you worry about?

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I worry about getting corrupted by money and power. At first all i wanted was enough to survive. Then i found out "enough" had no physical barriers. The more money you have, the more you do to keep it or and the more you do to make more. I worry about being 40 or 50 or 60 and having as much money as a man could dream about and yet finding no peace or having no memories. I worry about looking back to when i was 25 and…

Can you change to a part-time job (and then try to earn as much as possible on those 20hours/week). Any hobbies (beside computer) ?

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> Yes I meant exercise. Have you checked with a doctor about your issue ? Can you swim (should be best for body&mind) ? Yes, my doctors told me that my system is such that is vulnerable to excessive exercise and sudden weather changes. > Do you eat healthy food ? Yep, Greek food all day and all night. > Do you get enough sleep ? Like a good looking princess. > Do you know python (or some other lang) ? Yep, I know Pyt…

Can you somehow fix the introvertness (i have no idea) ? Can you quit coffee ? I did, and now only use it on special situations.

Introversion is not something that can be fixed for the simplest reason: it's a trait not a disease. I really like being an introvert, but I need to figure out ways to make a living by surrounding it.

About quitting coffee, I thought about it and probably I should...some day!

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I worry that I'm wasting my years on a career that keeps me comfortable but doesn't really exercise my mind. I often daydream about working in academia, journalism or some other vocation where I could be paid to research, think and write. Then I snap awake and get back to writing generic web applications shuffling strings around.

I'm a tenured professor, and I came here to post that my wife and I are struggling with whether or not we should move and I should quit my career. She has a job offer, and we've had realtors over to discuss prepping our house for sale, so it's not a purely theoretical question.

Part of the issue is that I don't know what I'd do next. I'd probably watch our child for a couple of years, and then my best guess is to go get a second undergraduate degree, in comp sci, maybe a combined bachelor's-master's degree. But I don't know.

The problem is that academics is a corrupt mess on the inside, and people on the outside, like legislators, push for solutions that will only exacerbate the problems. Its as if your child had diabetes and certain influential physicians' groups started advocating that the best thing for diabetes is to eat lots of simple carbohydrates.

Yes, you theoretically have a lot of freedom in academics, but there's lots of caveats to that. Nowadays, universities only care about what brings in money, so even if you think something is important to research and you don't need money to do it, if it doesn't bring in grant dollars, it doesn't matter, regardless of citation rates. Social dynamics are about 80% of success as well--fads are rampant, and who is credited with something is wildly unpredictable (just last night, I read that something that is commonly cited in my field, even more so than Watson & Crick's DNA paper, reflects a misattribution of credit, which the author actually is explicit about in that paper. It's as if everyone attributed helix structure to Watson & Crick, but if Watson & Crick explicitly stated in their paper "hey, this isn't our idea, we got it from Smith & Jones" and almost no one remembers Smith & Jones).

I could go on and on.

The worst part about it for me is that I feel trapped. Universities tend to hire younger untenured faculty because it's cheaper, and there's only so many places to go anyway. I miss the geography of home, and feel out of place in my field and society (just hypothetically, imagine being a historian by degree, but who does research on signal processing in an archaeological imaging context--reasonable enough, right? But now solve the problem of how to do PR with the conservative legislators who think the liberal arts are useless and should be gutted). Also, I've specialized so specifically it's hard to figure out how to transition to something else (again, who would hire a historian who specializes in archeaological imaging research?)

I often feel like all I want is to do is live someplace that I like in terms of climate, and is modestly interesting. Most of the time I feel like I'd rather be putting together generic web apps in a place I love than being forced to live someplace that feels alien to me because of some freedom and security that is anything but.

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That looks to be a potential solution. Thank you. I will make sure not to have snack foods in the cabinets that are able consumed without cooking (e.g. chips, cookies, etc.) I only keep rice, pasta, and sauce in the cabinets. I could also lock the key in my mailbox before I go to sleep, then grab it in the morning.

Do you exercise ?

3 to 5 times a week, cardio (30 to 60 min.)

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That by the time I'm finally done with my student loan and credit card debt, something else will come around that will yet again prevent me from hitting my financial goals. That I even accumulated $40k worth of credit card debt in the first place. This wasn't one of my proudest decisions. That I'll never be happy with what I have and will always strive for more. That I'll lose my fiancee/wife in the process.

What are your goals ? Everybody makes mistakes, you don't have to feel so bad for the $40k. I see that you didn't expect it from yourself, right ? Why do you think you'll lose your wife ? Any bad habits (gamble, smoke, no exercise) ?

$10M invested in index funds within 10 years is my ultimate goal. This will enable me to essentially live my current lifestyle without needing to worry about work.

More immediately, saving up for a down payment and house fund ($30k for the down, $10k for the house fund) and an emergency nest ($30k) are what I'm looking at.

The credit card thing was interesting. I used to be pretty vigilant about keeping debt down especially with how high my student loan debt was at the time ($200k, now $48k) But then I discovered credit card churning. I tried to churn cards to collect airline miles, so I signed up for a few of them. I also used to get bonuses ($20k or so) that would pay off whatever debt I amassed in one fell swoop. Those bonuses eventually stopped coming (i left finance), but my spending didn't drop off. I also never did a good job at tracking them. (I do now and have for the last year.) One thing lead to another, and I eventually piled on $40k.

The ironic thing is that I eventually became a travelling consultant and now amass plenty of miles without even trying.

I'm afraid of working so hard that I'll neglect her.

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Doing a side project (open source) is what keeps me up at night. I don't know why, I just push hard myself at least there is one commit a day. Beside that, I think random things a lot. I always waste my night to think about it rather than plan or take an action. I worry about my health. My sleep time is decrease. I have to wake up in the morning and then go to office. When my sleep time is not enough, I wouldn't focu…

So you don't exercise ? How about swimming ? Should also help you with the sleep, from the exhaustion. Like try swimming for 1 hour uninterrupted and you'll be ripped/slept.

I don't swimming. I just walk to the office or store. That's my daily exercise. Anyway, thank you for recommending swimming to me. I want to give it a try.

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I worry about not being brave enough to quit my day job (developer) and develop the app that I KNOW would be successful if executed properly. Also, not being able to build a family later if I fail in my next venture. I'm 31 and feel the pressure to build a family somehow.

How many months have you saved up ? Can't you move somehow to part-time and continue doing the app on the side ? Why no family after next venture ? A friend of mine started creating a baby at 50.

I have 6-12 months saved up. I guess I could do part time but I feel like I have to go all-in on my app for it to be a success.

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So you don't exercise ? How about swimming ? Should also help you with the sleep, from the exhaustion. Like try swimming for 1 hour uninterrupted and you'll be ripped/slept.

I don't swimming. I just walk to the office or store. That's my daily exercise. Anyway, thank you for recommending swimming to me. I want to give it a try.

I'm on my first week of swimming and am really liking it (used to kickbox + run previously). Hell you can even get water-resistant mp3-player (i did). But just walking is too little.

Re: Ask HN: What keeps you up at night? What do you worry about?

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1) Climate change and the collapse of modern civilization. 2) Dying before having children or proving my worth. Living in poverty. 3) Losing face. I don't want to disappoint my family anymore. 4) The fear of diabetes and other illnesses. 5) The cultural and demographic destruction of Europe.

Is #5 really happening?
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