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Re: Ask HN: How to stop overthinking everything in my life?

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Post by [deleted] » Sun, May 28, 2017, 1:57 AM UTC

xor1 wrote: post #58

DanBC wrote: post #49

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Someone who knows nothing about psychiatry, psychology, pharmacology, abuse, trauma, personality disorder etc feels able to speak about a psychiatric diagnosis, and makes a post that contains literally nothing that's correct. You can safely ignore the post. If you want information about personality disorder you'd be better off reading "Meeting the Challenge, Making the Difference". http://www.emergenceplus.org.uk/new…

Why do you and that link keep referring to "personality disorder" in the singular, as if there were only one personality disorder and not multiple? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DSM-5 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cluster_B_personality_disorder... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Category:Cluster_C_personality... Please educate yourself before you accuse me about knowing "nothing". Also, please don't tell me that you co…

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Re: Ask HN: How to stop overthinking everything in my life?

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Post by dnh44 » Sun, May 28, 2017, 5:02 AM UTC

Your parents and grandparents worked hard to put you in the situation you are in now. If anything the expectations for you are much higher than everyone else.

Are you sure you're not self-sabotaging because you're subconsciously afraid of failure and by not trying you always have a good excuse when things don't go well?

You have to stop with the guilt. You're the carrier of your family legacy; take responsibility and apply yourself.

If that doesn't work, hurry up and get married and have kids. You may not have a problem sabotaging yourself but surely you wouldn't do that if you were responsible for children.

Re: Ask HN: How to stop overthinking everything in my life?

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Post by JSeymourATL » Tue, May 30, 2017, 3:31 PM UTC

Food for thought...

> the self is despised for one reason or another that varies from person to person and usually or always smacks of hidden perfectionism. > https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/feeling-our-way/201512/...

I know someone similarly described (priveledged background)-- who volunteered for military service, the experience stretched him both mentally & physically. His enlistment became a time of truly transformative personal growth.