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Ask HN: How to stop overthinking everything in my life?

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Re: Ask HN: How to stop overthinking everything in my life?

#31
The choices you make today will determine your future. What you are experiencing is 'the paradox of choice': Presented with many options, you choose nothing.

In this world we don't get what we deserve, we get what we take. People don't deserve divorce, traffic accidents, diseases yet it happens all the time. While you are overthinking, your life is ticking away. Think about the things that matter. Think different.

Re: Ask HN: How to stop overthinking everything in my life?

#32
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>I am a mid 20s white male who has been afforded immense privilege in life. Stop right there. You've been brainwashed by SJWs in the so-called 'educational' establishment into believing that you somehow have some magic 'white, male privilege'. It's utter nonsense. They've been psychologically abusing you your whole life, harping on about 'racism' and 'sexism' and 'diversity' and 'tolerance', while condemning you for…

Thank you so much. As a German, i grew up in a nation that has self-hate written into their core values. Only when I moved away nearly 10 years ago, I was able to see that I can actually be awesome, that the past is the past, and that I dont have to be reminded of the holocaust all the time... and that NOTHING is wrong with being German. I still hope my fellow countryman will realize that. But everytime I go there I am disappointed. And MSM is doing a great job of keeping it like that....

So I totally agree. Be proud of who you are man. Stop listening to the media bullshit. Be a nice guy, dont discriminate, help your fellow people, and live a great life.

Re: Ask HN: How to stop overthinking everything in my life?

#33
Realize that your self-destruction may reduce inequality in some minuscule way, but that it doesn't actually do anyone any good.

Far better to succeed, be happy, and give back in some way than to never achieve or never be happy out of some (IMO) mis-guided Stoicism.

Society doesn't advance by having all the fed people voluntarily starve.

Re: Ask HN: How to stop overthinking everything in my life?

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post #14

>I am a mid 20s white male who has been afforded immense privilege in life. Stop right there. You've been brainwashed by SJWs in the so-called 'educational' establishment into believing that you somehow have some magic 'white, male privilege'. It's utter nonsense. They've been psychologically abusing you your whole life, harping on about 'racism' and 'sexism' and 'diversity' and 'tolerance', while condemning you for…

Also read up on Borderline Personality Disorder and codependency. After you become educated on these conditions, the way that "SJWs" act will suddenly make much more sense. The gaslighting, projection, self-loathing, hair-trigger emotions ("triggering"), malleable/distorted/missing sense of personal identity, and compulsive lying, which are all underlying issues caused by early childhood traumas and bad/neglectful/ab…

Eli5 please? ;-)

Re: Ask HN: How to stop overthinking everything in my life?

#35
post #14

>I am a mid 20s white male who has been afforded immense privilege in life. Stop right there. You've been brainwashed by SJWs in the so-called 'educational' establishment into believing that you somehow have some magic 'white, male privilege'. It's utter nonsense. They've been psychologically abusing you your whole life, harping on about 'racism' and 'sexism' and 'diversity' and 'tolerance', while condemning you for…

You know, you sound exactly like Stephan Molyneux, the history teacher turned alt-right. He speaks exactly of the same things you do, in fact, his YouTube channel landing page is about the "red pill". I took the time to actually watch his videos to understand how so many people can be persuaded by this guy.

With no exception, these shows are about: that social justice is wrong, that demographics should keep a white majority, that the "Western civilization" is under attack, that abuses over minorities were acceptable and even somehow even some kind of favor to them, that climate change is fake, etc.

Mostly it's about finding excuses to maintain a status quo that largely benefits people who are already doing fine, which in majority are white people due to having had a headstart.

All of that supported by "facts", which is alt-right jargon for heavily biased cherry-picking.

I am very disappointed that HN users upvoted this guy. I thought this was a place for people who actually had some critical thinking.

Re: Ask HN: How to stop overthinking everything in my life?

#36
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Earlier quoted context omitted.

Also read up on Borderline Personality Disorder and codependency. After you become educated on these conditions, the way that "SJWs" act will suddenly make much more sense. The gaslighting, projection, self-loathing, hair-trigger emotions ("triggering"), malleable/distorted/missing sense of personal identity, and compulsive lying, which are all underlying issues caused by early childhood traumas and bad/neglectful/ab…

Eli5 please? ;-)

Not exactly an ELI5, but this is a good writeup:

http://archive.is/3rYqa

Re: Ask HN: How to stop overthinking everything in my life?

#37
post #21

I used to be a victim of this myself. My solution to this problem (which works very well) is to lead a life of strict routine, where every hour is allotted for doing something specific. As I stuck to the routine, this whole overthinking thing magically disappeared as I simply didn't have the time to overthink. Everything is also progressing 10 times faster as well. I can't guarantee that it will work for you too but…

What kind of tooling are you using to track the routine?

Re: Ask HN: How to stop overthinking everything in my life?

#38
post #21

I used to be a victim of this myself. My solution to this problem (which works very well) is to lead a life of strict routine, where every hour is allotted for doing something specific. As I stuck to the routine, this whole overthinking thing magically disappeared as I simply didn't have the time to overthink. Everything is also progressing 10 times faster as well. I can't guarantee that it will work for you too but…

Great advice !!

Re: Ask HN: How to stop overthinking everything in my life?

#39
post #14

>I am a mid 20s white male who has been afforded immense privilege in life. Stop right there. You've been brainwashed by SJWs in the so-called 'educational' establishment into believing that you somehow have some magic 'white, male privilege'. It's utter nonsense. They've been psychologically abusing you your whole life, harping on about 'racism' and 'sexism' and 'diversity' and 'tolerance', while condemning you for…

I can't believe this is on HN.

Re: Ask HN: How to stop overthinking everything in my life?

#40
Everyone has these problems dude. It's perfectly normal and as you get older you stop beating yourself up (to some degree) and focus on the things you do well and slowly you realise maybe you aren't the best, but that you are a high quality person, in different and interesting ways from everyone else.

It's no bad thing to experience some bad times and feel these feelings from time to time - what I've found with myself is when I get to this point I have an automatic "fuck this shit" response where I, for example, move to Japan to work full time on startup ideas. Sometimes when stuck in a rut there is no harm at that point saying "fuck it" I'm just going to make a big exciting change and see what happens.

Another example; I can't even swim really (more flailing, should probably learn) and I was in the Andaman Islands on holiday and everyone was diving and I basically panicking when I put my head in the water with a snorkel on, what was I thinking signing up for Discover Scuba. So after managing to get over that initial fear, I ended up signing up for the full PADI and then did my advanced on the same trip because I loved it so much. I cleared my mask and swam sharing oxygen at 25 meters (while looking at the under water equivalent of Avatar). That fear turned into pure excitement for life.

So if you want to be less in your analysis mode - my advice - get out of what you are doing now and make a big change, whatever is (and even if it doesn't work out) while you are trying life will taste a bit sweeter.

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