Yep.
Pros 4.) Work like 32 hours a week and take as much vacation as possible and basically phone it in while they keep shoveling money your way.
You've got lots of time to look for a new gig at least.
Ask HN: Shitty job but well paid
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Re: Ask HN: Shitty job but well paid
#62Earlier quoted context omitted.
I agree that he should find another job with reasonable pay before leaving this one, especially if he is in situation you described. However, none of my three was result of idealism. I think that I am older then the average here and I have kids. As I got older, those three became more important not less. Including and maybe especially after children. Children benefit from father that interacts with them happily and n…
Of course I agree that if someone can simply move to a better working situation, they should; that seems tautological. In practice, doing this takes preparation, and you can never really know what to expect until you've already made the jump. It's important to realize that going nomad any time work goes sideways will lead to a lot of instability over a period of years. It seems a more tenable solution is to control t…
"It seems a more tenable solution is to control the response to one's working environment and then seek to control/improve the working environment, leaving the mirage of greener pastures as a last resort."
That is when the work is somewhat acceptable, but not ideal. It is not when the work is "shitty" and its shitiness affects you. Most workplaces are not horribly shitty, really. Moreover, various people handle various kind of dysfunction differently. There are dysfunctions I handle well and can adjust to, but are also dysfunctions I handle badly.
Ultimately, if it is easy to control the response to one's working environment, then it is not really bad. And really bad workplaces exist and will affect not just you, but your family and future too. If you have been unhappy in school, afterschool clubs and all employers, then I agree it is you. If you have been happy up to now and it is hell suddenly, then it is the place.
If this is the latter, then it is good idea to seek new job immediately - that is not going nomad, that is looking at possibilities you have. Not doing so out of fear can be a mistake. You wont find good workplace if you are not looking for one. At minimum, once you take steps to find another job and know what is possible, you become objectively more in control of your life and will feel less trapped. Nothing bad can come out of that.
Re: Ask HN: Shitty job but well paid
#63This is 100% the best way to keep your employees trapped. If you want to retain employees but your company sucks, paying them well above market will make it very difficult for most of them to go elsewhere. It's easy to say "Well, they can just save the extra money and get MORE freedom!" but that's very rarely how things actually turn out in practice. It is important that potential employees realize this before accept…
Sounds like a bad case of lifestyle inflation.
Re: Ask HN: Shitty job but well paid
#64So a few things. First, while it's not easy when you're highly paid, there usually are ways to get close to the same compensation somewhere else. You may have to be willing to come down, but you can usually find someone else to get you in the same ballpark. It just takes a lot of work (months). Building out a strong network is really important for this. Second, politics is a constant any time you have more than 5-6 p…
Sir, this is a thoughtful post, and thank you very much for sharing (my context mixed with your thoughts just fueled me the right way). Thank you, and keep posting!
Re: Ask HN: Shitty job but well paid
#65This is 100% the best way to keep your employees trapped. If you want to retain employees but your company sucks, paying them well above market will make it very difficult for most of them to go elsewhere. It's easy to say "Well, they can just save the extra money and get MORE freedom!" but that's very rarely how things actually turn out in practice. It is important that potential employees realize this before accept…
Sounds like a bad case of lifestyle inflation.
Eh, sort of. How long are you supposed to only utilize half of your income, or half of your half? When is it no longer "lifestyle inflation" and instead "lifestyle baseline"? In theory, everyone would live at the average market salary (better yet, average individual income, on the bet that you'll always be of at least average commercial value) and save everything else to maximize their mobility, but almost no one actually does. The arbitrage between theory and practice is where most political tricks occur.
Those resources have an expected value and a present value. At some point it is reasonable to decide to open it up a little bit more. Most people aren't going to max out their income overnight, but give them a couple years and they'll have moved to a nicer neighborhood, etc. Why? Because they could, and once you've filled some basic savings obligations, it can definitely be worth more to live somewhere better than to watch as a number you never intend to touch increments.
That said, sure, most people lack the discipline to live at a market salary instead of the salary they get paid. That's why this is a great way to trap employees. You keep clean hands and all the blame can be shifted to the employee, even though it's understood that it's very unlikely that the employee will actually account for the fact that any other position will entail a 40% pay cut.
Re: Ask HN: Shitty job but well paid
#66Earlier quoted context omitted.
Of course I agree that if someone can simply move to a better working situation, they should; that seems tautological. In practice, doing this takes preparation, and you can never really know what to expect until you've already made the jump. It's important to realize that going nomad any time work goes sideways will lead to a lot of instability over a period of years. It seems a more tenable solution is to control t…
"It seems a more tenable solution is to control the response to one's working environment and then seek to control/improve the working environment, leaving the mirage of greener pastures as a last resort." That is when the work is somewhat acceptable, but not ideal. It is not when the work is "shitty" and its shitiness affects you. Most workplaces are not horribly shitty, really. Moreover, various people handle vario…
>There are dysfunctions I handle well and can adjust to, but are also dysfunctions I handle badly.
Point taken, but this is not an acceptable excuse. You have to keep it together for your spouse and children. Lashing out at them is not acceptable regardless of what's happening at work.
This attitude of "there are just some things I can't control" is pervasive and it's very dangerous. When we have people depending on us, we cannot allow ourselves to blame externalities for our behaviors.
>Ultimately, if it is easy to control the response to one's working environment, then it is not really bad. And really bad workplaces exist and will affect not just you, but your family and future too.
Along the same lines, it's not that it's easy to be reasonably pleasant in the midst of a stressful working engagement. But it is necessary.
I agree that there are some working conditions that are total non-starters, but it's unlikely that you'd find yourself stuck there; you'd walk out on day 1 or 2 and go find a real job.
Barring such conditions, I would argue that it is frequently more efficient to change the conditions at your current employer than to gain new employment. Remember we're talking in the context of an overpaid employee here, but developing the skills to do this instead of abandoning a company before your mobility is actually limited is a very smart thing.
> If you have been happy up to now and it is hell suddenly, then it is the place.
If the change is sudden, it'd be wise to inquire as to its nature and permanence before jumping ship. Sudden negative changes usually cause a mass exodus of skilled employees, so if you're already overpaid and the market is getting saturated with the resumes of your competitors, this is probably not a good time to jump ship.
>At minimum, once you take steps to find another job and know what is possible, you become objectively more in control of your life and will feel less trapped. Nothing bad can come out of that.
This thread is about overpaid people. Going out and looking is discouraging if you don't yet realize that you're overpaid and/or how difficult it would be to replace your current employer. You learn that your mobility is much lower than you thought it was, and this understandably creates a feel of being more, not less, trapped.
It is good to have an accurate concept of one's economic position, but you won't necessarily feel less trapped.
Re: Ask HN: Shitty job but well paid
#67Earlier quoted context omitted.
You neglect the scenario in which the overpaid employee could be married with dependents. When your kids depend on your paycheck, this is not such a simple matter, and making trades for "a lot of money now" doesn't seem like such a bad deal. When you're young and uncommitted, you can afford to make moves on airy idealism. You can't when you have something important riding on it. This is true even if you have a lot of…
> When your kids depend on your paycheck, this is not such a simple matter, and making trades for "a lot of money now" doesn't seem like such a bad deal. Sure, until the gravy train ends, and it always does (layoffs, reorganizations, etc.), and you wind up looking for a new job with skills that are irrelevant or out-of-date. Unless you're within spitting distance of retirement, staying in a job that isn't growing you…
Yes, I agree that everyone should stay reasonably sharp. I don't think you necessarily need your day job to be on a "modern stack" to do this. Also, if you're overpaid for a software engineer, you may want to attempt to pivot to a managerial/leadership role where salary caps are higher. Staying at a "broken place" and making efforts to improve it is very valuable experience for that kind of career track.
Re: Ask HN: Shitty job but well paid
#68Honest question: How much $$$? Are you sure you're paid more there than elsewhere? The market is still very hot for senior developers, and most of the top companies I know of are willing to match current stock with theirs, even in the low millions (over 4 years).
Re: Ask HN: Shitty job but well paid
#69Earlier quoted context omitted.
"It seems a more tenable solution is to control the response to one's working environment and then seek to control/improve the working environment, leaving the mirage of greener pastures as a last resort." That is when the work is somewhat acceptable, but not ideal. It is not when the work is "shitty" and its shitiness affects you. Most workplaces are not horribly shitty, really. Moreover, various people handle vario…
>There are dysfunctions I handle well and can adjust to, but are also dysfunctions I handle badly. Point taken, but this is not an acceptable excuse. You have to keep it together for your spouse and children. Lashing out at them is not acceptable regardless of what's happening at work. This attitude of "there are just some things I can't control" is pervasive and it's very dangerous. When we have people depending on…
People are not gods and nobody is perfect. Your spouse, unless autistic, knows you are not ok even if you are not lashing out directly. If changing job is an option, there is nothing wron with doing it. More then excuses, (young) people I see insist on assuming they can handle everything and proceed ignoring reality.
Or to tell it honestly and directly, I prefer my husband to trust me and be happy at the job then seeing him unhappy every day and assuming I care more about salary then quality of time with me and children. I like to work too and I want to be useful to familly too.
What you advocate is effectively putting all your mental strength on employer.
These positions are not overpaid - the company pays that much because people don't want to stick around. Mostly because they are self aware and not stupid. If you are one of those who are unaffected, more power to you. However if you are, then you have to decide about prioritis - staying is about proving something to your self. It is not about family,so don't frame it as such. (It might still be ok if you realy really need to prove that thing - familly should be two way acceptance)
Also, badly managed companies don't value good workers. If you stick, they will not reward it. It is not that easy to change those companies. Again, it is ok to leave bad employer in exchange for less money. Unless you think your wife is some kid of gold digger uninterested in you.
If knowing accurate economic possibilities makes you unhappy, nothing will help you. Leaving is an option, really, and a bit less money in exchange of bit more good conditions are better for both you and other people around you.
Re: Ask HN: Shitty job but well paid
#70well if you don't need to be present all of the time and the employer doesn't have crazy IP over your work, and if you're somewhat entrepreneurial, fly low, work fewer hours and try starting your own business!
flying low is SUPER important. you will need every ounce of your mental capacity to pull this off.
spend an hour or two in the mornings on sales/networking/outreach. "work." spend your evenings building your product.