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Don’t Let Facebook Make You Miserable
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#192Earlier quoted context omitted.
Or uninstall the app, the mobile website works well and doesn't slurp your battery in the background.
Unfortunately you can't on most phones ... Facebook is a system app.
Can't those be "disabled" via the app manager? I'd flash a custom ROM if I had to deal with FB being a "system app"(!).
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#193Earlier quoted context omitted.
Luckily, HN has a handy no-proscrastination feature! :)
Tell me more about this!
Copied & pasted from an old HN post:
There are three new fields in your profile, noprocrast, maxvisit, and minaway. (You can edit your profile by clicking on your username.) Noprocrast is turned off by default. If you turn it on by setting it to "yes," you'll only be allowed to visit the site for maxvisit minutes at a time, with gaps of minaway minutes in between. The defaults are 20 and 180, which would let you view the site for 20 minutes at a time, and then not allow you back in for 3 hours. You can override noprocrast if you want, in which case your visit clock starts over at zero.
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#194Is "I don't have Facebook" the new "I don't own a TV"?
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#195Earlier quoted context omitted.
Unfortunately you can't on most phones ... Facebook is a system app.
Can't those be "disabled" via the app manager? I'd flash a custom ROM if I had to deal with FB being a "system app"(!).
Not every phone can be rooted though :(
But yeah: The app can be disabled at least.
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#196As my Facebook cohort aged up into their mid-20s, my feed is all baby photos and overchurned memes that have been re-shared across 5 different sites, interspersed with relentless posts from artists I forgot I liked long ago, and ads that are trying hard to be local. Its utility is increasingly not defined by the Feed, but by being a contact list of Everyone You Ever Met Who You Don't Want To Unfriend, which has some…
I must say.... I remain on Facebook to watch my far-away friends get married and start families. It brings me small joy :)
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#197As my Facebook cohort aged up into their mid-20s, my feed is all baby photos and overchurned memes that have been re-shared across 5 different sites, interspersed with relentless posts from artists I forgot I liked long ago, and ads that are trying hard to be local. Its utility is increasingly not defined by the Feed, but by being a contact list of Everyone You Ever Met Who You Don't Want To Unfriend, which has some…
Fully agreed about Instagram. I made an Instagram account 2 years ago and I mostly followed musicians that I like and some photographers and I actually enjoyed Instagram.
Intsagram was a nice tool to see cool pictures and keep in touch with artists. It was like a hi-res Tumblr without the drama and the crap of Tumblr. Then I decided to start uploading photos and follow people in know in real life and that was the biggest mistake I did.
In addition to what you said, Instagram is really toxic. Because I followed lot's of people, my following/followers ratio was something like 350/80. I heard some people talk about how sad it is that I only have 80 followers. One time I followed someone I know and she didn't follow back, and I when I asked her why she didn't follow back, she said that she didn't know it was me (I didn't use my real name) and she thought I was some random ass loser because I didn't have many followers.
I later realized that in real life, people judge you based on how many likes you get and how many followers you have. It's now about the content, it's about how popular you are. If you don't get likes and followers you are seen as a loser/not cool.
That's what made me delete my Instagram account. Not to mention how shitty the app is when it comes to battery life. People complain about the FB app being shit, but IG is not that much better. It consumes a lot of battery life and has so many irregular activities and runs a lot in the background.
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#198As my Facebook cohort aged up into their mid-20s, my feed is all baby photos and overchurned memes that have been re-shared across 5 different sites, interspersed with relentless posts from artists I forgot I liked long ago, and ads that are trying hard to be local. Its utility is increasingly not defined by the Feed, but by being a contact list of Everyone You Ever Met Who You Don't Want To Unfriend, which has some…
Interesting take on Instagram. I'm mid-20's and I find that I don't care at all how many likes I get on Instagram, I'm much more concerned with likes on Facebook. This is one reason I prefer Instagram. As most posts are by 'celebrities' rather than my actual friends I don't feel jealousy or other negative emotions when I see cool photos. I don't pay much attention to likes on Instagram at all actually. I've recently…
You might not care about likes, but others do. As I said in my other post, people judge you and label you on how many likes/followers you get.
Instagram is really toxic.
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#199Earlier quoted context omitted.
Interesting take on Instagram. I'm mid-20's and I find that I don't care at all how many likes I get on Instagram, I'm much more concerned with likes on Facebook. This is one reason I prefer Instagram. As most posts are by 'celebrities' rather than my actual friends I don't feel jealousy or other negative emotions when I see cool photos. I don't pay much attention to likes on Instagram at all actually. I've recently…
You might not care about likes, but others do. As I said in my other post, people judge you and label you on how many likes/followers you get. Instagram is really toxic.
>> people judge you and label you on how many likes/followers you get
I would argue that they don't - you only think they do, and that's the real issue. Not judging as I've been in that mindset myself. I'm a pretty self-concious person but I truly don't think people our age care about likes. You mentioned being mid-20's which I also mentioned in my post in case this issue came up. I understand that children and teenagers care about likes (and I've seen articles with evidence to back that up) but I think by our age that's gone (or didn't ever really exist that strongly as we were too old by the time social media went super mainstream).
Edit: Thought you were the parent who mentioned they were mid-20's, just realised you are not the parent. Curious what age you are (roughly even, if you don't mind) as I think that has a lot of bearing on this conversation.
Re: Don’t Let Facebook Make You Miserable
#200I cut facebook out of my life three momths ago when I realized a pattern of my activities. Something hapened and I ranted there about my thoughts, others were offended ao they commented & we would fight not understanding each other. Then I used to ignore them and continue. Then one fine day, I sat on a bus, there was something going on about Kashmir and Indian military and I found that the guy next to me was also pos…
Been free of Facebook for more than 3 years. There's never been a single moment where I felt I was missing out. Even the staying in touch - for those that matter we found other ways to stay connected. The final straw for me was actually a girl from my elementary school who wanted to friend me. The chat went like this... Me: I have to ask you something. So we haven't seen each other for decades, the last time being wh…
Sorry, that was a pretty mean response. Maybe she scoped you out and thought you were cute? Maybe she's just trying to make new friends and remembered you being nice? Why wouldn't she just say that to you? (instead of sorry, didn't mean to offend)? Probably because your response made her go "oh crap, this guy is an a-hole - bail) That's exactly what my response would be.