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Silicon Valley CEO Pleads ‘No Contest’ to Abusing His Wife

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Re: Silicon Valley CEO Pleads ‘No Contest’ to Abusing His Wife

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Post by http-teapot »

smallgovt wrote: post #11

Reading this made me want to throw up. Absolutely horrible. But then while listening to the video, I realized the recording sounded a lot like what I would hear when my parents beat my siblings/myself as kids for doing something wrong. This made me wonder: Is hitting your kids any less morally despicable than hitting your spouse? Why does such a large section of society think it's OK to hit your kids and not your spo…

> Is hitting your kids any less morally despicable than hitting your spouse?

> Why does such a large section of society think it's OK to hit your kids and not your spouse?

It's not OK. Beating your kids is not OK. Beating your wife is not OK. Beating anyone is not OK.

Resolving to violence is weak.

One of the cases is when adult tries to explain something to kid but kid can't understand. Adult gets frustrated and starts beating kid. I was not a smart kid and my father was not particularly great at explaining things. He never beat me but verbally and vocally felt that way.

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Post by valuearb »

smallgovt wrote: post #11

Reading this made me want to throw up. Absolutely horrible. But then while listening to the video, I realized the recording sounded a lot like what I would hear when my parents beat my siblings/myself as kids for doing something wrong. This made me wonder: Is hitting your kids any less morally despicable than hitting your spouse? Why does such a large section of society think it's OK to hit your kids and not your spo…

My dad spanked me with a wooden stick. I think it was good for me.

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Post by valuearb »

maerF0x0 wrote: post #7
mbrumlow wrote: post #6

I first would like to say this is a horrible way to treat anybody and hope that Neha Rastogi gets all the support she needs to deal with this situation. That being said, does even the spousal abuse have to be related to software in Silicon Valley? Just listening to the video was so surreal. Lots of spouses fight over things but what a "bug" is or is not? It's just crazy that this is what came out of Silicon Valley.

Couples mostly fight over inane things. I only read 1/2 the article but it sounds like they're both quite sick. Him a seemingly sociopath (as many CEOs are) and her some kind of dependence disorder (codependence?) . Why in the world would she bail out someone who has abused her? They both need treatment.

Why would she bail him out? They have kids, he has the money, she still loved him and hoped he would now change, etc. People make decisions based on hope all the time.

Re: Silicon Valley CEO Pleads ‘No Contest’ to Abusing His Wife

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Post by valuearb »

maerF0x0 wrote: post #13
aanm1988 wrote: post #10

Earlier quoted context omitted.

No, she needs help. He needs to get tossed in jail.

Jail will be part of his recovery (as long as he isnt badly beaten or raped). But I also think he deserves mental health care. Counseling or something.

Beaten or raped? He got 30 days in Silicon Valley jail not prison. He will likely get put in special custody with benefits, and probably get out early, maybe within a week or two.

He will learn nothing from this, and is likely even angrier at his wife. He will get joint custody and find ways to torture her emotionally.

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Post by alasdair_ »

smallgovt wrote: post #11

Reading this made me want to throw up. Absolutely horrible. But then while listening to the video, I realized the recording sounded a lot like what I would hear when my parents beat my siblings/myself as kids for doing something wrong. This made me wonder: Is hitting your kids any less morally despicable than hitting your spouse? Why does such a large section of society think it's OK to hit your kids and not your spo…

>Is hitting your kids any less morally despicable than hitting your spouse?

The only time I have ever (and will ever) hit my children is when they are around the toddler age and try to do something very dangerous that I've repeatedly tried to get them not to do.

For example: trying to pry the safety cover off of an electrical outlet in order to insert a fork, running towards traffic, pushing their siblings near the top of the stairs etc.

A two year old doesn't have the mental ability to fully understand why such things are bad and so in the past I've given them exactly two quick spanks to the bottom so they understand the severity of what they were doing. It's extremely rare that this happens but I'd prefer to do that than risk missing an attempt that could end in disaster.

Beating is, of course, always out of line.

The difference between this and a spouse is that the spouse is obviously able to make their own decisions.

Re: Silicon Valley CEO Pleads ‘No Contest’ to Abusing His Wife

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Post by lemonsqueeze »

http-teapot wrote: post #21
smallgovt wrote: post #11

Reading this made me want to throw up. Absolutely horrible. But then while listening to the video, I realized the recording sounded a lot like what I would hear when my parents beat my siblings/myself as kids for doing something wrong. This made me wonder: Is hitting your kids any less morally despicable than hitting your spouse? Why does such a large section of society think it's OK to hit your kids and not your spo…

> Is hitting your kids any less morally despicable than hitting your spouse? > Why does such a large section of society think it's OK to hit your kids and not your spouse? It's not OK. Beating your kids is not OK. Beating your wife is not OK. Beating anyone is not OK. Resolving to violence is weak. One of the cases is when adult tries to explain something to kid but kid can't understand. Adult gets frustrated and sta…

It's only ok when we are beating North Korea

Re: Silicon Valley CEO Pleads ‘No Contest’ to Abusing His Wife

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Post by rmellow »

valuearb wrote: post #24
smallgovt wrote: post #11

Reading this made me want to throw up. Absolutely horrible. But then while listening to the video, I realized the recording sounded a lot like what I would hear when my parents beat my siblings/myself as kids for doing something wrong. This made me wonder: Is hitting your kids any less morally despicable than hitting your spouse? Why does such a large section of society think it's OK to hit your kids and not your spo…

My dad spanked me with a wooden stick. I think it was good for me.

Why is this downvoted?

I know a number of people (at least 5 off the top of my head) who are genuinely thankful for being physically punished as children and claim they are better people for it.

This is a legitimate claim.

edit: for clarity.

Re: Silicon Valley CEO Pleads ‘No Contest’ to Abusing His Wife

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Post by bobwaycott »

maerF0x0 wrote: post #7
mbrumlow wrote: post #6

I first would like to say this is a horrible way to treat anybody and hope that Neha Rastogi gets all the support she needs to deal with this situation. That being said, does even the spousal abuse have to be related to software in Silicon Valley? Just listening to the video was so surreal. Lots of spouses fight over things but what a "bug" is or is not? It's just crazy that this is what came out of Silicon Valley.

Couples mostly fight over inane things. I only read 1/2 the article but it sounds like they're both quite sick. Him a seemingly sociopath (as many CEOs are) and her some kind of dependence disorder (codependence?) . Why in the world would she bail out someone who has abused her? They both need treatment.

Fuck, mate. You really don't understand the world of abuse.
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