Standard advice to learning a set of new personality traits: pick one each morning to choose to embody for the day & focus on it.
How I do it: associate the set of traits with an identity somewhat separate from my own. She's essentially a clone of my personality, except she identifies as a woman & embodies the following personality traits: gentleness, patience, valuing relationships based on emotional support available through them, emotional thinking, relational thinking, intuitive. While these traits are considered stereotypical female traits, I don't view them that way. I think the process I went through would've worked the same if I'd chosen to associate those traits with an animal or, as Buddhists do, some kind of humanoid deity.
She develops her own beliefs, behaviors, emotions, and motivations that emerge from her core values. I'm ultimately aware she's simply a part of my brain...a set of neural networks encoding a set of traits...so it's easy for me to adopt her perception as my own.
That's how we learn together. It's a collaborative relationship. We can practice new ways of communicating in my head. It's the difference between having a two-sided conversation aloud where you're using your own voice for both sides versus using a different voice for each side.
It's sometimes easier to hear ourselves when we hear what we're saying coming from someone else.
How was that? Are you not entertained? ;)