Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)
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Re: Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)
#92Earlier quoted context omitted.
why would the quality of women be higher than men on dating sites ? Is it some american cultural thing? I assumed the quality would be pretty even.
The measures of quality for men and women are different. A woman's quality is how hot she is, a man's quality is how much status, motivation, wealth, strength and awareness he's cultivated. Looks for women, energy for men. (the energy you come across with, not how much energy you have) If sex is your #1 desire and motivator in life, life is much easier for women.
You forgot height. That's most important above all else. Princess shouldn't have to ever slum it with someone below 6ft.
Re: Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)
#93Earlier quoted context omitted.
Don't bother with online dating. First of all the quality of women is much lower than any you'd meet IRL. Secondly, they purposefully set absurdly high standards. Thirdly, if physical looks aren't your strong point, you cannot really make a good impression because that is what they are going to be judging you on. What you write in your profile is close to useless If you have trouble finding women, move to a big city…
As someone who just moved to a big city and has been waiting for an excuse to ditch Tinder, what activities or events would you recommend to do to meet people?
Meetup.com always has interesting events.
Re: Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)
#94when i was young, my female friends would say just be yourself, happy, etc and someone will just come along. i did that, failed, and i said why did it go so wrong? then i considered their world view, and i face palmed myself. same thing happens, women say try online dating, its so easy! my response rate (let alone something that leads to a rl meeting) is about 1/50. not worth it. i wonder if online dating will become…
"Be yourself" is absolutely the worst dating advice a man can ever receive. Seriously, don't take dating advice from women. They give you bad advice not because they don't care for you (they genuinely do want to help and their intentions are good and pure), but their advice is bad because they don't understand what it's actually like to date women. It's not their fault either. Before everyone jumps on me for hating w…
I think when most people offer "be yourself" they actually mean "don't pretend to be someone you're not".
Re: Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)
#95Earlier quoted context omitted.
why would the quality of women be higher than men on dating sites ? Is it some american cultural thing? I assumed the quality would be pretty even.
I would venture to guess that many "higher quality" women have less trouble finding partners irl. They don't need to use online dating.
But wouldn't that mean the quality of men would be relatively higher then?
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#96Earlier quoted context omitted.
> women have less trouble finding > partners irl Sexual partners? No trouble at all. Life partners? Much trickier. Men have the sexual discernment of rabbits, but are pretty choosy about who they're willing to actually commit to. There's a non-trivial proportion of men who are only in their current relationships for easy access to sex. Men complain to their friends about not being able to get laid, women complain to…
fyi. There is no such thing as guys, and girls being friends. I know women think they have guy friends, but those are just guys that want to have sex with them. Consider this next time a female questions this line of thought. Would their best guy friend turn them down for sex, with the response of "I don't want to ruin our friendship", of course not.
I am a man that has a lot of friends who are women that I don't have sexual interest with. Especially true with older female friends. One of my old professors... She's pretty old and that'd just be gross and weird.
I think you're limiting yourself to productive relationships with only half the world's population.
Re: Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)
#97I'm a man and in my late 20's (currently mid-30's and been with my partner for a few years now) had a great time using OKCupid. I was able to average 2-3 dates per week and received replies to ~25% of my messages. Before anyone asks, I am average appearance. I don't drive (bicycle only). Things I had going in my favor: I'm white, had a flexible job (could meet whenever) and vegan diet (probably the biggest help as ve…
> Open your age range to include women who are older than you are (try as much as a decade, not just 1-2 years).
I remember an OKCupid stats review where they were talking about the age ranges opened for the genders. Women tended to do 5 years over to 5 years under, and men tended to do 5 years over to 10-15 years under. The analyst admonished the men for being ageist and not opening up higher to match... despite the women having the same range for higher ages.
Age is a weird one when it comes to love.
Re: Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)
#98Earlier quoted context omitted.
"Be yourself" is absolutely the worst dating advice a man can ever receive. Seriously, don't take dating advice from women. They give you bad advice not because they don't care for you (they genuinely do want to help and their intentions are good and pure), but their advice is bad because they don't understand what it's actually like to date women. It's not their fault either. Before everyone jumps on me for hating w…
I think when most people offer "be yourself" they actually mean "don't pretend to be someone you're not".
I don't necessarily disagree, but it's still bad advice because:
(1) The point you just made isn't clear at all and
(2) It's not actionable whatsoever and gives the wrong impression that you don't actually need to do something, when the reality is the complete opposite and you do need to make major changes to your life and approach to dating
The proper advice is to improve yourself, work on your confidence, and understand female psychology. How to do that is not trivial, but once you read and learn more about it, it's not that complicated either.
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#99Eh, sure, I guess, kinda? However, the article presents the situation as being: 1) very positive for women and 2) very negative for men. In reality, neither is entirely true. As many, many women will tell you, the unrelenting torrent of creepy messages and dick picks is by no means an unmitigated positive. Yes, you can just open your inbox and find it full, but mostly it's full of utter crap, which actively drowns ou…
Also the article makes some assumptions on what is a positive experience, based on her own feelings. Actually, having a brief exchange with someone you are attracted to that then fizzles out is not the worst thing in the world. It means they saw your profile and didn't think you were undateable. I'd take 1/10 for that amount of positive-reinforcement.
And the rejections don't hurt that much. As a man rejection from women is a part of life. To be rejected by a lack of response is about the best rejection I can think of. I mean, I still have vivid memories of being rejected by girls in high school and can't remember a single profile from a woman who didn't respond to me.
Re: Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)
#100Earlier quoted context omitted.
> women have less trouble finding > partners irl Sexual partners? No trouble at all. Life partners? Much trickier. Men have the sexual discernment of rabbits, but are pretty choosy about who they're willing to actually commit to. There's a non-trivial proportion of men who are only in their current relationships for easy access to sex. Men complain to their friends about not being able to get laid, women complain to…
fyi. There is no such thing as guys, and girls being friends. I know women think they have guy friends, but those are just guys that want to have sex with them. Consider this next time a female questions this line of thought. Would their best guy friend turn them down for sex, with the response of "I don't want to ruin our friendship", of course not.
This view likely means that, as a man, you have some work to do to find your moral base. I know this because I've been there. You don't have to go through life objectifying all women. Seek help. Good luck.