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Go seek out a good conversation. About anything. What you should be doing now is finding ways to dream bigger.
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This works for me: - Vitamin D... 4000 IU per day - 8 hours sleep - Lift weights 5 days a week. Yoga for 20 mins everyday - low carb/sugar diet - Decided on ambitious purpose in life Saying you have no motivation is making it worse. I started saying something like "I'm imoroving my motivation..."
I get 50,000 IU every week like it says on the bottle. I sleep around 8 hours a day. I lift weights 3 times a week and I play football 1-3 times a week. Saying I'm improving my motivation would be a lie. I'm not improving it and I can't lie to myself.
I'm seriously starting to think this was a troll post. Here's why:
- Entropy increases with time (body and muscle decay, etc)
- Yet you clearly stated you are getting better each day OBJECTIVELY (lift weights, football, earning money, etc) And by the way... there is only the current day. Everything else is an idea/memory/abstraction
- Then you say it is a lie that you are not motivated. Utter bullshit. The lie you are living is the idea that you would be lying by allowing yourself to be happy.
Feelings and thoughts do not matter, behavior does.
You clearly pointed out you have no big Mission or goals. You have your answer right there. Make an arbitrary decision to make your family, friends and community better in a massive way. DONE.
The difference between happy people and unhappy people... is that happy people just decide to tell themselves they are happy.
You're not motivated because you did not get what you wanted (leadership position) and you identify yourself as being superior to those whom are in your position (dumb, working on useless things). Motivate yourself by either pulling up those around you or leave for what you really want to do.
he's just another self-important code monkey who has deluded himself into thinking he's a an under-appreciated genius, if only these idiots he's surrounded by would recognize him for his true greatness. yeah, sure he is. it's more likely he will end up like most unreasonably arrogant mediocre people, too afraid and self-deluded to do anything of consequence his entire career. wait until he realizes how much mundane,…
This sentence alone signals that you are not ready to be a leader. Contrary to what you probably think right now, being a leader sucks in many ways:
- You should be empowering to those around you. This starts by being constructive instead of judgemental. Find out what are their strengths and weaknesses, and tell them how you think they can improve instead of poking at their weak spots. You should strive to always keep this attitude, even when under pressure and/or during bad personal times.
- You must be a good listener. Try to understand your team member's motivations and desires, and how they think/react to what's coming to them. Be prepared to accept that other people's thought processes are very different from yours, and your job is to understand them instead of trying to change them. Even if you possessed the absolute truth about everything, trying to shoehorn that truth into their minds wouldn't work. They need to see that truth by themselves, so you can only try to steer them towards finding it. In some cases the way to do that is by providing arguments. Other times arguments won't do it and you must show them. Later on, once you're actually seen by them as a leader you'll be able to appeal to trust. Don't overuse that though because you are not perfect and will make mistakes, which will erode your trust if you used that to impose your opinion onto others.
- You should be prepared to deal with the worse bullshit that's thrown to your team. You don't need to deal with all bullshit, but your team should be confident that you'll be first in line if/when shit hits the fan, and that you'll do your best to cover them.
- You should lower your expectations about others. You must demand the highest standards from yourself, but not from others. Do what you can to help them improve instead.
- Don't overreact when you get stabbed in the back (which will happen at some point). Attribute any bad situation to ignorance/stupidity before malice. Always try speaking with people first, and over time you'll develop a "sense" to discern bad actors from misunderstandings. In any case, being stabbed is an opportunity to improve that "sense", and is always a better situation than initiating work-warfare against a person who acted in good faith.
In case you haven't noticed, you don't need any "leadership position" to put all that to practice. You can start doing it right now, and I assure you that leadership will follow naturally. People will start turning to you when they need help. People will start wanting and valuing your opinion much more. This will make you feel important and purposeful, but it will also be stressful and demanding. Be up to the task and the pay will follow.
Fuck motivation. it’s a fickle and and unreliable little dickfuck and isn’t worth your time.
Better to cultivate discipline than to rely on motivation. Force yourself to do things. Force yourself to get up out of bed and practice. Force yourself to work. Motivation is fleeting and it’s easy to rely on because it requires no concentrated effort to get. Motivation comes to you, and you don’t have to chase after it.
Discipline is reliable, motivation is fleeting. The question isn’t how to keep yourself motivated. It’s how to train yourself to work without it.
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he's just another self-important code monkey who has deluded himself into thinking he's a an under-appreciated genius, if only these idiots he's surrounded by would recognize him for his true greatness. yeah, sure he is. it's more likely he will end up like most unreasonably arrogant mediocre people, too afraid and self-deluded to do anything of consequence his entire career. wait until he realizes how much mundane,…
This reads a little negative, but you're right about discipline.
Preferably, this will be someone at work. Either someone in your job who's as stuck as you are, someone in the next layer up who needs a boost, or someone in the next tier down who needs a hand. It will be your next big challenge, to recognize that someone else needs help, to determine what kind of help that is, and to offer what you can.
Your only measure of success is whether that person succeeds.
The three benefits to taking this approach are:
1) it's easier to objectively measure whether what you're doing is working
2) you get to practice helping yourself, on someone else!
3) it will help you stop being an asshole, which is probably something you're doing
Good luck!
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I get 50,000 IU every week like it says on the bottle. I sleep around 8 hours a day. I lift weights 3 times a week and I play football 1-3 times a week. Saying I'm improving my motivation would be a lie. I'm not improving it and I can't lie to myself.
It's a lie to whom? And on what basis? I'm seriously starting to think this was a troll post. Here's why: - Entropy increases with time (body and muscle decay, etc) - Yet you clearly stated you are getting better each day OBJECTIVELY (lift weights, football, earning money, etc) And by the way... there is only the current day. Everything else is an idea/memory/abstraction - Then you say it is a lie that you are not mo…
What six primary fears? You're talking about something like I'm supposed to be aware of it. I googled it and different websites have different ones.
I don't really fear anything. Maybe I should?