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I would say moving to Toronto where my work is. Right now my commute is ~4 hours everyday so I don't get time to do anything apart from gym once I get back home. Good news is I'm moving in 2 months, bad news is I barely know anyone in Toronto and have great friends where I live currently.
Where do you live? That commute is insane.
A sense of purpose and meaning. I grew up in poverty, managed to emigrate to the US and have struggled to get where I am and now am in a comfortable senior position in the industry. I am good at what I do but it's the same thing over and over. I go to work each day, save most of my paycheck, then use the rest to buy expensive trinkets, go to nice restaurants and take trips. I have a circle of acquaintances, hobbies,…
My upstairs neighbor is quite noisy after midnight. I would like an alternative to sleeping pills or ear plugs.
Try playing brown noise through a subwoofer (a good Bluetooth speaker, not your phone's speaker), the low frequencies can block bassy noises (footsteps, TV, etc) so your sleep isn't interrupted by a sudden sound from above.
While we're considering things that won't happen - how about working less? I love my job in software, but I think I'd have a better QoL with a 32 hour work week. I feel like my productivity wouldn't go down by 20% (but it's hard to tell without trying it for an extended period.)
after nearly burning out on the last ~42 hour job, at the current company i tried 30 hours and i love it. they do want to convince me to go full time, but for now i refused (stating that i don't think i'd be as productive and just cost the company more money without delivering another 33% of work). a lot of my colleagues and even friends at other companies downgraded to 30 hours (or never upgraded after finishing uni…
Exercise and Proper eating. Common sense, right? Yet, so many of us find it hard. I've lost more than 8kgs in the last 3 months and I feel great. I was never overweight to begin with but still I feel so much happier overall. I don't think drugs can do what 1 hour of exercise daily does to your mood and energy. Plus losing weight has it's own benefits. Once you shed those extra pounds you feel like you've been carryin…
> 1 hour of exercise daily How did you get going with that? Any pointers?
step 1: make your WHY big enough and the how will follow
First go to amazon and get one of these books: Spark or Go wild by john ratey. I prefer the audible version but either works. Listen to them, it's much easier than exercising. This will condition your mind and make your Why big enough. Soon you'll want to do it rather than have to do it.
Step 2: baby steps
You can't decide that you will exercise 1 hour daily starting from 0. Thankfully again there is a book called Minihabits. Get the audio or print version and read f it. Basically it teaches you that forming a habit is more important than doing it right. So 1 push daily for 3 months is better than 2 hours of 1 day gym in 3 months.
Step 3: track your habits
Get loopt habit tracker from app store (android) and put the widget on your home screen. Mark it daily. Even if you do 1 pushup you maintain your habit streak remember that. Once you have a 45 day streak you'll do your pushup even if you are falling asleep.
Typing this on a mobile but let me know if i can be of any more help.
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after nearly burning out on the last ~42 hour job, at the current company i tried 30 hours and i love it. they do want to convince me to go full time, but for now i refused (stating that i don't think i'd be as productive and just cost the company more money without delivering another 33% of work). a lot of my colleagues and even friends at other companies downgraded to 30 hours (or never upgraded after finishing uni…
Interesting, I was considering negotiating with my employer for part time where I'd take every Friday off - have you found 6 hour days to be better? I feel like if I took a 20% pay cut I'd want to avoid commuting for that extra day off, but I can see how shortening the workday might be more pleasant.
there are several more downsides to the 5d6h model, but i personally don't care much for those right now and i could switch any time.
most of my friends and colleagues choose the 4d7.5h work week and i think it's the better option for most people.
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> 1 hour of exercise daily How did you get going with that? Any pointers?
Sure but what you need to understand is that you need to change your mindset from I must exercise to I want to exercise and for that you need to program your brain first. step 1: make your WHY big enough and the how will follow First go to amazon and get one of these books: Spark or Go wild by john ratey. I prefer the audible version but either works. Listen to them, it's much easier than exercising. This will condit…
The amount of stress I've experienced dealing with this industry far outweighs the benefit it has provided to me.
Yet, despite being relatively low-cost and high-paying, because I self-insure, I'm marginalized to the maximum extent permitted under law and regulation. Meaning, it is only law and regulation that has provided some reprieve from quasi-oligopical exploitation.
I don't mind paying. I do mind paying 2 - 3x more than a corporation employee whose only demographic difference is being a corporation employee.
And I mind the deliberate, thorough, and jealously guarded opacity that serves to perpetuate the system.
And now, with the ACA on the ropes, I fear and expect the return of unbridled discrimination.
All the fear-mongering carping about "death lists" that we've heard? The real death-list is being on the list of self-insured. (Or, uninsured -- not infrequently the same thing, absent law and regulation to the contrary.)
Or now, once again, with an employer or other group-plan provider that doesn't have enough moxie to negotiate fair terms and treatment for its participants.