What no one talks about when running and selling a business
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#2"I looked at her “like a little girl” when we were having a conversation."
Almost all of the examples of 'having a hard time around other people' amount to their self perceptions not necessarily the authors actions.
It's impossible to 'look at someone like a little girl'. It's mostly likely that these people either feel insecure, or, they project certain qualities upon the author.
I have a very 'straight face' and because of lack of emotional response, people have asked 'why am I angry at them?' when I had not even a whiff of such emotion. I was literally deeply contemplating what they were saying!
Now - it there may be other tons of behavioural signals - and it's possible the author was treating someone as a little girl, i.e. not paying attention, being dismissive, condescending without knowing it - which would then give a different characteristic to that persons opinion.
And it's easy for someone to create feelings when a successful person 'pulls up in a Tesla'. Any hint at bragging/humble-bragging in any way might be taken the wrong way.
But it's a good article, at least it's good to have some self-reflection/self-awareness.
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#3This kind of thing is why anyone who says the answer to all unemployment is "make a startup" shouldn't be taken seriously. Hell, the first thing they say is that they basically cut everyone but a couple people out of their life. Most people are not prepared to do that, and quite frankly, they shouldn't in order to put food on the table.
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#4I also sold my startup. same story as far as revenue, exit etc. I'm not sure that selling your company was the reason for your social issues.
I've had the best year of my life post acquisition - spending more time with family, friends and thinking what's next. constantly thinking about what's next, it's actually annoying that I can't turn it off.
The "how much did you make" question is super annoying and it happens but generally those around me are respctful and understand that I still plan to work and in many ways will need to. Not enough to do nothing, enough to choose something meaningful and not waste our precious time.
My only advice to you is don't be afraid to reconnect with some old friends and embrace new ones, especially friends of friend who don't know much about your exit and ask to hang out with you because of who you are when they interact with you sans knowing your financial history.
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#5"I looked at her “like a little girl” when we were having a conversation." Almost all of the examples of 'having a hard time around other people' amount to their self perceptions not necessarily the authors actions. It's impossible to 'look at someone like a little girl'. It's mostly likely that these people either feel insecure, or, they project certain qualities upon the author. I have a very 'straight face' and be…
> It's impossible to 'look at someone like a little girl'. It's mostly likely that these people either feel insecure, or, they project certain qualities upon the author.
It's definitely possible to have a look in your eyes and facial expression and body language that clearly says "I'm not taking you seriously right now."
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#6Material things do not make people happy, at all.
This! This is the found God moment everyone needs to come to. We will all die. You had better get your eternity in order. Answer that call within, and go find the true "why" that is eating at you on the inside. Read Acts 2:38.
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#7"I looked at her “like a little girl” when we were having a conversation." Almost all of the examples of 'having a hard time around other people' amount to their self perceptions not necessarily the authors actions. It's impossible to 'look at someone like a little girl'. It's mostly likely that these people either feel insecure, or, they project certain qualities upon the author. I have a very 'straight face' and be…
>I have a very 'straight face' and because of lack of emotional response, people have asked 'why am I angry at them?' when I had not even a whiff of such emotion. I was literally deeply contemplating what they were saying!
Well I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one with this problem.
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#8> But the rest of the world doesn’t give a fuck about you or your experience.
That's true whether or not your are successful.
In any case, the only people who are genuinely happy about your success are your parents.
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#9Unfortunately, I no longer have very many friends. I worked so hard in my 20s and early 30s that I let my closest relationships lapse in the name of making money. It’s tough to keep friends around when you’re either working, or work is on your mind 24/7.
One of the unfortunate side effects of hustle/grit/what have you, that I myself experienced and can relate to the author.
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#10Unfortunately, I no longer have very many friends. I worked so hard in my 20s and early 30s that I let my closest relationships lapse in the name of making money. It’s tough to keep friends around when you’re either working, or work is on your mind 24/7. One of the unfortunate side effects of hustle/grit/what have you, that I myself experienced and can relate to the author.
On the other hand, most friendships die out when people reach their late 20s (career, moving elsewhere, kids, marriage) so it might have been inevitable even if you didnt do a startup.