I approach it the same way rocket engineers did: Well now I know another way not to do it And I am a big stoic fan, the only adversity I face is that I wish to control me. I choose to not let it control me and realize that I can overcome or learn what I need to. The key to things is discipline, spend a certain amount of time focusing each day, commit to it in small batches at first and continue each day. If you go of…
Is choosing not to control oneself part of Stoicism? Would like to read about that...
The general gist of both Stoicism and Buddhism are generally the same in principle. The only things that can control us are what we allow to control us.
That doesn't really mean that we have free will or the ability to control our world. More we have the ability to change how we interpret the world we live in.
And if you approach adversity as a bad thing, you're already losing from a thought perspective. You have to look at adversity as a friend, gently nudging you along to an easier path. Or a friend that needs to be bulldozed over or through to get to the goal. Or perhaps avoided entirely.
Looking at adversity that way what you realize is the only control you have is how you respond to it.
I recommend reading Epictetus, the eponymous Marcus Aurelius, any other early stoic philosopher. Note, take some of what they say with a mountain of salt. Their views on things like the overall universe are... a product of their time.
For more things I'd say also read The Book of Five Rings by Miyamoto Musashi. And read up on Buddhism possibly with more modern views in the theravada traditions. Feel free to ignore any of the things that make no sense, even the buddha himself said to abandon any practices that turned out wrong.
I approach all of this philosophy in the style of Bruce Lee, take what works from wherever you find it. Leave what doesn't aside.
Good luck in your journey!