I know I should in theory ask to see the cap table, but it seems awkward and if shown it right then I'm not sure I'd entirely know how to read it properly (along with the terms), or how to immediately negotiate from it.
Stock options have been frequently presented to me as just a standard piece of paper offered, and not a thing for negotiation. It feels easier and less scary to haggle on salary (which I do quite well at generally).
Is it even reasonable to ask for twice as many options when I'm negotiating? Or is that like asking for double the salary and not reasonable?
Is it reasonable to ask for a bonus (at an A-round startup) in terms of options after being there for a year?