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Just in case someone misses this - this is circa 2005.
The rules haven't changed since 2005 BC. 'Cept they didn't have phones or TVs then.
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The rules haven't changed since 2005 BC. 'Cept they didn't have phones or TVs then.
I was attempting to be snarky - and not being very good at it - this whole idea of having rules for happiness sounds very cargo cult to me and of course the whole definition of happiness is extremely nebulous.
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> "Smile at and/or say hello to a stranger at least once each day" Must emphasize this - I find that a lot of times when I'm feeling very blah a surefire fix is to strike up a conversation with a stranger, or at the very least exchange pleasantries. It's depressing how socially disconnected modern life has made us - we live in the densest conglomeration of humans history has ever known, yet we've never been more alon…
I agree about this. After I read "The Game" and "Rules of The Game" by Neil Strauss (which are about being a pick-up artist) I took away the lesson that the hardest part (at least for me) was walking up to strangers and talking to them. It was amazingly liberating to do it, however. What I do is ask them some question that they could plausibly answer as a way to starting a conversation. I have had very, very, very fe…
The main thing I took away from this article were the 10 recommendations in the grey box towards the end-right-hand-side of the article: * Plant something and nurture it * Count your blessings - at least five - at the end of each day * Take time to talk - have an hour-long conversation with a loved one each week * Phone a friend whom you have not spoken to for a while and arrange to meet up * Give yourself a treat ev…
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I agree about this. After I read "The Game" and "Rules of The Game" by Neil Strauss (which are about being a pick-up artist) I took away the lesson that the hardest part (at least for me) was walking up to strangers and talking to them. It was amazingly liberating to do it, however. What I do is ask them some question that they could plausibly answer as a way to starting a conversation. I have had very, very, very fe…
Did you try this on the London Tube,ideally at rush hour :-)
Basically, if you want to start a conversation with a stranger then I'd recommend doing it in a place where they can 'escape' from you. If you corner them, say on the tube, then they have no means of leaving and hence they will feel as if your approach is hostile. And that's especially true if you are both sitting or face to face.
I recommend reading Strauss' book because it's fascinating, but the bottom line is approach people from an angle (not head on and not from behind). Make sure they've got the physical space to leave if they want to, maintain enough distance that you are not in their personal space, and if you do get chatting it can be helpful to indicate in some way that you are only temporarily there talking to them.
The main thing I took away from this article were the 10 recommendations in the grey box towards the end-right-hand-side of the article: * Plant something and nurture it * Count your blessings - at least five - at the end of each day * Take time to talk - have an hour-long conversation with a loved one each week * Phone a friend whom you have not spoken to for a while and arrange to meet up * Give yourself a treat ev…
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Did you try this on the London Tube,ideally at rush hour :-)
No. That doesn't seem like a reasonable environment to start a conversation. There's is an art to it... Basically, if you want to start a conversation with a stranger then I'd recommend doing it in a place where they can 'escape' from you. If you corner them, say on the tube, then they have no means of leaving and hence they will feel as if your approach is hostile. And that's especially true if you are both sitting…