So how has the US tradition of engagement diamonds survived the (entirely proper and welcome) amelioration of sexual stereotypes? I'm living in a bubble, I know, but huh? I've been married four times. I've never given, or received, an engagement ring. I've never even been explicitly engaged. I don't even recall that the topic ever came up. I suppose that it was just part of mutual selection process ;)
Diamonds Suck (2006)
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Re: Diamonds Suck (2006)
#502Earlier quoted context omitted.
Wow. It's very difficult to respond to you civically. We've been together for a long long time. It is amazing what people you don't know on the internet will assume about you. There was no alternative before this article. Cubic is cheap and tacky. Diamonds are overpriced and awful. Lab diamonds not much better. This article has a real alternative. That's a huge contribution to all diamond haters everywhere.
> There was no alternative before this article. You know, you don't need an engagement ring to get married. Much less one with a shiny stone of any kind.
> You know, you don't need an engagement ring to get married
You also need a partner who wants to get married to you. Where does HN get it's perfectly compatible partners from? A difference in opinion is not unexpected - not everyone is equally pragmatic. Also,things that are considered "deal-breakers" are far from universal.
Re: Diamonds Suck (2006)
#503Earlier quoted context omitted.
> If we're dead-set on continuing to use pretty rocks as signals Why do we need signals? Why does the social contract of marriage need an expensive down payment on essentially nothing? These are things modern cultures should be distancing themselves from. The down payment should be for a house or apartment, or just anything useful.
> Why do we need signals? Signals are an essential aspect of human behavior. I don't think trying to eliminate signaling is a productive goal. You yourself brought up the "social contract" of marriage. A contract is not very powerful if there aren't consequences for breaking it. So that's one crucial signal: we are committed enough to this relationship to spend money on something which is only useful as a signal. The…
only immature people with little real relationship experience would consider this childish signaling worth a dime. the only signal being passed is bowing to peer pressure just because you don't want to stick out
Re: Diamonds Suck (2006)
#504Earlier quoted context omitted.
Wow. It's very difficult to respond to you civically. We've been together for a long long time. It is amazing what people you don't know on the internet will assume about you. There was no alternative before this article. Cubic is cheap and tacky. Diamonds are overpriced and awful. Lab diamonds not much better. This article has a real alternative. That's a huge contribution to all diamond haters everywhere.
> There was no alternative before this article. You know, you don't need an engagement ring to get married. Much less one with a shiny stone of any kind.
Stoneless rings are common in other countries. Tattoos are up and coming. A bit more painful, but still cheaper than a diamond (and much more permanent).
Re: Diamonds Suck (2006)
#505HOLY SHIT THIS CAME JUST IN TIME. THANK YOU.
Time to get my money back from this down payment I've been making, bwahahaha. My gf will love this, she's not fancy in the slightest. In fact, she'll be impressed that I got something that looks better than a diamond and a portion of the cost. You've improved everyone's life because of this site.
Hey, if you ever want to make this site fancier, I'll design/code it for free. My portfolio is https://dsgn.io and my other project live on https://the-inc.co.
Thanks again!
Re: Diamonds Suck (2006)
#506I'm the OP - surprised to see this at the top of HN today, but happy to post a quick update: My wife and I have been happily married for ten years now. She loves her ring, and it has held up extremely well. (She just had the band resized, absolutely no issues with the stones.) No one has ever thought it was anything other than a diamond ring, which includes several years of daily scrutiny from crazy New York City bri…
Should have commented under your comment! Here's my post: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=12949728
Re: Diamonds Suck (2006)
#507Earlier quoted context omitted.
Are you teaching me a lesson? Or trolling? Real question. Because your approach isn't very constructive. The guy apologized and maybe he thought his advice was good. I admit though it was blunt and the part about divorce was rude.
Ok, at this point I have to comment. For one thing, I never said he would get divorced. I said "if you get divorced". For another thing, if you are going to divulge details of your personal relationship online, you should not be surprised or get upset if someone comments about it. If it's a sensitive issue for you - keep it to yourself. This isn't your journal. I take my apology back. I did absolutely nothing wrong,…
> people seriously need to develop thicker skin.
You should heed your own words...
Re: Diamonds Suck (2006)
#508Earlier quoted context omitted.
> There was no alternative before this article. You know, you don't need an engagement ring to get married. Much less one with a shiny stone of any kind.
> You know, you don't need an engagement ring to get married You also need a partner who wants to get married to you. Where does HN get it's perfectly compatible partners from? A difference in opinion is not unexpected - not everyone is equally pragmatic. Also,things that are considered "deal-breakers" are far from universal.
So why does only one partner get a ring? Why, typically, the female one? In same-sex marriages, how do partners determine who gets the ring? Flip a coin? Damn.
Re: Diamonds Suck (2006)
#509Imho, wedding rings are overrated. And they will just get lost in a few months/years. Having a super cheap ring is fine.
The same deal with ultra expensive weddings. But remember, this is just my opinion. I am more in agreement with Epicurus.
Re: Diamonds Suck (2006)
#510Ha! Great Post/Website. I personally run a personalized jewelry store, AuGrav.com, and have recently posted on why NOT to go for a diamond ring! As you mentioned, it's more of an emotional/sentimental value rather than the investment value. #GetPersonalized
Cheers!
http://www.augrav.com/blog/how-to-propose-your-love-without-...