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This server error is making me a little emotional.
P.S. Someone took a snapshot of that error 2 hours ago.
I used to replay the same negative thoughts as well. Here's how I broke free: Reframe all your negative thoughts. I used to obsess about past mistakes. Thought: "I wish I didn't do that." Reframe: "If I didn't do that, I wouldn't have learned that lesson to be the person I am today. Or in the position I am today." Stop worrying about problems that haven't even materialized yet and very likely never will. We waste ton…
The "chemical imbalance" theory has been losing steam for quite some time. The British Psychological Society has issued this consensus statement: There is actually no evidence for the current view – and we agree with many senior psychiatrists in saying that – we do have an overwhelming amount of evidence that even severe psychiatric breakdown is actually the end result of a complex mix of social and psychological cir…
My Psychiatrist has been telling me, for over two decades, "All my patients are different." It's one of his better stock answers to questions. I have never been truely suicidial, but I had, I guess, a panic attack in my twenties, and from the next day on I was a nervous emotional mess for years. I tried to go back to a professional school I was in, but just crossing the Richmond bridge was a feat in itself. I knew my…
People refer to the medicinal values of marijuana, but the one fact that is scientifically proven that is often left out is that having a garden and working in a garden is good for your mental health. That is not speculation.
This part is speculation. I believe a marijuana is the perfect plant to grow if you are fighting depression. First off, potentially you can harvest every 60-70 days. That means every single day you have to take care of the plants, but every day they grow significantly. Problems one day are disasters the next and if you can just stick to it every day, there's a harvest which can be rewarding monetarily or just intrinsically. If you are really good at it, you will find out that you are actually helping a bunch of people with all sorts of medical conditions. So the reward is comes fast, and then you can start again! Also, one more point, the grow lights can be another form of light therapy.
I have journaled about this stuff in the past, this is just a brief overview of my feelings of the hidden benefits of cannabis. Like the title states, this is just One Road and often the one less traveled...
You need to do it because you are passionate about the problem you are trying to solve and genuinely interested in the work you do.
You were frustrated with the rest of your life because you were looking for it to supplement your job, because you werent excited about it for the right reasons.
It's not just a problem with you, so many high level VCs are sick and tired of seeing really smart engineers come up with ideas that clutter the system with another food delivery service or the "next facebook".
When you are aiming for fame and fortune, youre aiming to emulate people who have already come up with original ideas, instead of focusing on your own originality.
That's why the bay area is filled with so many "me too" ideas while the rest of the world has multi billion dollar low hanging fruit begging to be worked on. Because they exist in neighborhoods that arent cool or hip, that do not resonate fame or fortune, when it is precisely when you leave the things you are trying to emulate that you find what you are looking for.
My "road out" was having kids and taking on a lot of responsibility (both family and business). It's worked for 7 years now and I've never felt happier and mentally healthy, even if I am super busy and under a lot of pressure :-) I never thought I'd be the sort of person to thrive on pressure but it turns out I am.
If you keep ignoring it for another 7 years by just burying yourself in work it'll certainly continue to be OK. No way one day it's going come back with a vengeance
In the short term, that's probably true. But if you do it long enough, you'd expect someone who has exercised for many years to eventually develop better eating habits :-) And so it goes.
My "road out" was having kids and taking on a lot of responsibility (both family and business). It's worked for 7 years now and I've never felt happier and mentally healthy, even if I am super busy and under a lot of pressure :-) I never thought I'd be the sort of person to thrive on pressure but it turns out I am.
I've taken this path of distraction for most of my life... It's presently as bad as it's ever been... I'm currently of the mind that the only way to cure it is to stop running and face it head on. Rip out everything that triggers it, rip out every source that adds to it. I understand that there is an element of brain chemistry that is presently considered the root cause of depression. I'm of the mind that this chemic…
I agree. But I think that's a lot easier to do when you're happy and in a good mental state than when you're not.
I didn't mean to imply that busyness is a mere distraction strategy - it's more a way to bootstrap a life-long process.
Cliff notes: guy raised in a family of over-achievers, worked himself to the bone while never taking the time to grow up emotionally, hoping achievement would fill the gap. It didn't, he had to face that fact and now that he's let go of the false hopes of success fixing his life - he's slowly but surely getting his shit together and is very glad to be doing so. Perhaps the one thing missing from this article is how c…
I too got stuck into a restricted life path because that was a very plausible and effective life drive (the neverending good student). Until it stopped. Gotta realign your priorities (emotional, familial and social balance) and it's surprisingly difficult for a while. It's hard to avoid over specification in life, it's a natural reflex to aim at what seems and feels the best, thinking the rest, scary and annoying has…
It's like wishing there was no bullying in school - human nature isn't going to change anytime soon and by learning to deal with dickheads, you learn a valuable lesson or two.
As for culture - you have to wrap your head around the average IQ of an American being 100. 100 is really, really dumb.
You probably don't talk to anyone twice as smart as the average person on a regular basis - he/she won't be able to relate to you and vice versa.
But even so, it just doesn't matter - because culture or society, doesn't owe you anything. Wishing it was different is a fool's game - there are pockets in every city that you'll feel very at home with. Once you find them, you'll look back on wishing to change society as madness - you're the highly intelligent weird-o that needs a rare environment to thrive, most people are fine, they bicker until their dying breath just fine :)