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My mother in law is currently $150,000+ deep on a Facebook romance scam. I believe she's about to send him another $200k or so when her house is sold. Instead of living out her retirement in relative comfort, she will be scraping by on social security. Adult services can't help, because moonshot-level stupidity is not a mental disorder. She can't live with us, as she can no longer be trusted. She can't live on her ow…
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No, they won't. We can take over her finances if she is declared mentally incompetent . She's not mentally incompetent - she understands everything, but she just disagrees with the crucial bit: that the dude doesn't love her and is scamming her. As the judge told us yesterday : we are walking a fine line, taking over another person's autonomy, but it's not illegal to fall in love and do colossally stupid things.
But wouldn't that mean that you and your SO would inherit these debts when she dies, and there's nothing you can do about this? That's truly awful :(.
Reminder that most advance-fee scams do not originate from Nigeria. Such articles like this one stereotype Nigeria in a falsely negative manner. >While Nigeria is most often the nation referred to in these scams, they may originate in other nations as well. For example, in 2006, 61% of Internet criminals were traced to locations in the United States, while 16% were traced to the United Kingdom and 6% to locations in…
Microsoft published a research paper on "Why Nigerian scammers say they're from Nigeria". Was that research paper a stereotype that painted Nigeria in a false and negative manner? https://www.microsoft.com/en-us/research/wp-content/uploads/...
Those who've been in the game for a while, have the ability to collect money from any country the "victim" feels comfortable sending money to.
Also, about the intentional grammatical error. It's not intentional. Many of them aren't educated. In fact, most learn to use the computer and internet on the job.
One thing I never quite understood. These "Nigerian prince" scams can originate from any developing nation where the exchange rate makes for very lucrative prospects. Ie, Chile, Egypt, Romania, Kazakhstan, China, India, Thailand, etc etc. Why do a disproportionate number of these scams seem to originate from Nigeria?
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Reminds me of: Go to a bank. Get a job there and work there for years and years learning the place from the inside, and also learning how all of the processes and procedures are done, earning everyone's trust and respect, and simultaneously building up a 401k with matching while also going up the career ladder and taking more and more positions with more responsibility and more pay until one day you finally decide th…
Motherfucker, thats called a job!
My mother in law is currently $150,000+ deep on a Facebook romance scam. I believe she's about to send him another $200k or so when her house is sold. Instead of living out her retirement in relative comfort, she will be scraping by on social security. Adult services can't help, because moonshot-level stupidity is not a mental disorder. She can't live with us, as she can no longer be trusted. She can't live on her ow…
I think shes gone senile. Go see a doctor.
The whole situation is beyond surreal.
One thing I never quite understood. These "Nigerian prince" scams can originate from any developing nation where the exchange rate makes for very lucrative prospects. Ie, Chile, Egypt, Romania, Kazakhstan, China, India, Thailand, etc etc. Why do a disproportionate number of these scams seem to originate from Nigeria?
Also other countries have different scams. I ran an import export and frequently pakistan scammers looking for an business visa would try to fake a business with you.
They would waste hours of your time before dropping the act, annoucing they cant pay $ 10k and really just want to illegally work in your country.
Way worse.....one guy did actually show up after conning another guy successfully. Turns out he was legit in business but wanted to inspect wares first before wiring a ton of cash. That was a shock when he showed up on my doorstep. Imagine the nigerian prince dude you told to get lost ringing your doorbell 6 months later!!!!
Good ol alibaba chats...
One thing I never quite understood. These "Nigerian prince" scams can originate from any developing nation where the exchange rate makes for very lucrative prospects. Ie, Chile, Egypt, Romania, Kazakhstan, China, India, Thailand, etc etc. Why do a disproportionate number of these scams seem to originate from Nigeria?
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I don't fully understand your situation, and it must be horrible and frustrating and painful, but there must be some way you can get through to her?
The first day he messaged her, we told her it was a scam to take window's money. Four months later, when we discovered she had been talking to him in the intervening months, we showed her a few websites that detail exactly how the romance scam works (matching her situation exactly ). Last weekend, when we found out all of her money was gone, we had the police and adult protective services come out and tell her point…
It's something about cognitive dissonance.
I wonder if there is a known way to convince someone who is in this state. Cult debunkers and such might have thoughts?
Reminder that most advance-fee scams do not originate from Nigeria. Such articles like this one stereotype Nigeria in a falsely negative manner. >While Nigeria is most often the nation referred to in these scams, they may originate in other nations as well. For example, in 2006, 61% of Internet criminals were traced to locations in the United States, while 16% were traced to the United Kingdom and 6% to locations in…
> Such articles like this one stereotype Nigeria in a falsely negative manner. Err, the author actually WENT to Nigeria to meet her actual Nigerian scammer -- and others doing the same. What stereotype? She doesn't say that most Nigerians or only Nigerians do such things -- but that's what happened to her.