Earlier quoted context omitted.
because in a workspace the culture is one of inclusiveness, the onus on you is to be inclusive, I'm sorry to say, that's going to require some awareness on your part. But don't worry, it will likely just make you a better person overall.
A workplace is not required to ensure you're not offended, only that you're not sexually harassed, harrases in general, or discriminated against (if a protected class). A workplace can also not force inclusiveness. I fear that the swing in PC culture is going to cause more harm than good for "inclusiveness" now that the pendulum has swung too far.
Leaked Apple emails reveal employees' complaints about toxic work environment
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#172Earlier quoted context omitted.
>Still, rape jokes are not acceptable. Perhaps, but it's not something that is obviously unacceptable. I would put it on the same level as making a joke about an intruder coming to bomb/shoot everyone. Certainly it's in poor taste, but that's the level of humour you find everywhere.
Rape jokes are obviously unacceptable.
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#173Earlier quoted context omitted.
Not to diminish any of the other claims but I found this one to be a bit of an eye roller - Describing another incident, she wrote, "I was walking back to my cube from the break room and passed a group of managers exiting a meeting. The Area Manager told me to smile as I walked past." "While this is a small thing, it was notable as this is one of the most commonly reported forms of subtle sexism." No matter how hard…
By asking/telling someone to smile, one is basically saying, "You should look more pleasant for my benefit." I can't see asking someone to smile being appropriate in a workplace setting unless the person is in a customer-facing role and it affects job performance. The sexist part is that it seems to happen far more often to women than to men.
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#174"It's a stressful environment---people have to blow off steam."
"Is X comment really that offensive?"
"Joking around is important to office culture."
"The real damage is punishing people who said the offensive thing when he/she didn't mean anything by it."
It's really not that complicated. Act professionally at work. Working at a job isn't easy, but part of the responsibility of work is to _act_ professionally, and delivering genius code doesn't give anyone a pass to act unprofessionally. When you feel an impulse to talk or joke about physical appearance, politics, religion, sex, gender, rape, racial issues, nationality/ethnicity, etc., just hold your tongue! Or write it in a little book and save it for when you're at the bar with friends. If you do say something, and inevitably get that little "I shouldn't have said that" prickle in the back of your brain---simply immediately apologize and move on! If you don't get that prickle, and a co-worker or manager says something, just take it at face value that what you said was not professional, because professional actions never raise the possibility of personal offense. That is the bare minimum you are required to do.
If you're a little more social justice oriented, you might even become aware of the ways women and minorities are treated unfairly, and take special actions to fix this. Take notice the next time you're in YAAMM -- "yet another all male meeting" -- and think about whether there are any women who could contribute but were not invited. If you hear a good idea, give credit to the originator when you repeat it. It's actually not that hard.
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#175It's almost hard to read the comments on here. "It's a stressful environment---people have to blow off steam." "Is X comment really that offensive?" "Joking around is important to office culture." "The real damage is punishing people who said the offensive thing when he/she didn't mean anything by it." It's really not that complicated. Act professionally at work. Working at a job isn't easy, but part of the responsib…
Re: Leaked Apple emails reveal employees' complaints about toxic work environment
#176It's almost hard to read the comments on here. "It's a stressful environment---people have to blow off steam." "Is X comment really that offensive?" "Joking around is important to office culture." "The real damage is punishing people who said the offensive thing when he/she didn't mean anything by it." It's really not that complicated. Act professionally at work. Working at a job isn't easy, but part of the responsib…
Going to such extremes to guarantee never offending anyone is a great way to wind up unhappy and alone at work. It's fine if that's what you want - when I don't like talking to my coworkers in the first place I happily implement that strategy.
Chances are that anyone using that strategy and isn't also miserable has a fair number of unspoken assumptions about acceptable behavior, and isn't actually using that strategy. They're just slightly more guarded than in their normal behavior.
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#177Earlier quoted context omitted.
Wake me up when men are raped at the same rate as women and then we can talk about treating everyone the same.
So sexism is okay until men and women are raped in equal amounts?
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#178Earlier quoted context omitted.
It's called gallows humor. It's a defense mechanism, a response to what one sees as a hopeless situation. Not saying it is or is not appropriate in this situation, but it's not much different than saying "I'd rather die than go to that meeting" or "this is hell" or "if I have to maintain that legacy codebase, just shoot me now".
In that case the jokes made at Apple could be in the same class.
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#179Earlier quoted context omitted.
Not to diminish any of the other claims but I found this one to be a bit of an eye roller - Describing another incident, she wrote, "I was walking back to my cube from the break room and passed a group of managers exiting a meeting. The Area Manager told me to smile as I walked past." "While this is a small thing, it was notable as this is one of the most commonly reported forms of subtle sexism." No matter how hard…
By asking/telling someone to smile, one is basically saying, "You should look more pleasant for my benefit." I can't see asking someone to smile being appropriate in a workplace setting unless the person is in a customer-facing role and it affects job performance. The sexist part is that it seems to happen far more often to women than to men.
Perhaps not.
http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/smile-it-could-mak...
Tone of voice and mannerisms tell a much fuller story, though.
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#180The time that I worked at Apple was brutally hard work. If we're talking about work environment, I think many people reading that article have no concept of how difficult a job it is, how high are the expectations, and how many hours the average engineer is putting in there. This is a very difficult job which can be extremely stressful for a long duration of time. As a society we tend to laud grueling hard work rathe…