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Re: Why are Adults so busy?

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Post by dazc »

coldtea wrote: post #78
dazc wrote: post #43

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Having grown up in the UK I've always felt guilty about not doing anything in my free time. Partly because everyone else seems to be living such a busy and rewarding existence (or so they would have me believe). Now, living in Spain, I feel it's OK not to do anything. Just sitting in the shade for 6 hours watching the world go by doesn't make me a weirdo, like it does back home.

> Having grown up in the UK I've always felt guilty about not doing anything in my free time. Partly because everyone else seems to be living such a busy and rewarding existence In the UK? Have you been to Yorkshire?

I am from Yorkshire. Take the point though.

Re: Why are Adults so busy?

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Post by meric »

Walf wrote: post #16

Missed security . You could argue it falls under the responsibility sections, but protecting your possessions without your presence is definitely extra effort.

Easy, have less stuff. Save time shopping, save time on security, save time on disposal.

Re: Why are Adults so busy?

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Post by dazc »

mrec wrote: post #62
dazc wrote: post #43

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Having grown up in the UK I've always felt guilty about not doing anything in my free time. Partly because everyone else seems to be living such a busy and rewarding existence (or so they would have me believe). Now, living in Spain, I feel it's OK not to do anything. Just sitting in the shade for 6 hours watching the world go by doesn't make me a weirdo, like it does back home.

This post gives me hope. And a rekindled desire to learn Spanish. I just wish I coped with hot weather better.

Yes, learning Spanish is tough and July/August is pretty hot, so much so I returned to the UK for 2 months.

Re: Why are Adults so busy?

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Post by TeMPOraL »

I never realized how much free time I had until I started blowing my responsibilities off and watching TV series or playing video games.

The point is, a lot of the things we do in our adult lives are bullshit errands that exist only because of habit, custom or societal expectations. I'm in progress of trying to get rid of as much of them as possible (and automate others), to reclaim some free time for actually productive endeavours.

Re: Why are Adults so busy?

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Post by GoToRO »

It's easy. We are busy because we stay at work too much. Also todays jobs are not so fulfilling, which means you need more time to recover. Make the work day 4 hours + meal and things will be better.

Re: Why are Adults so busy?

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Post by blowski »

There was a very good radio programme on BBC Radio 4 about busyness:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b07v07pb

In a nutshell, we're busy because people value things based on the perceived effort that goes into them. This is why people are frustrated if it takes you 1 minute to update their website but still want £100. So if you appear to be very busy, you appear to be putting more effort into your work. The same applies to parenting - we think busy parents are perceived as better parents. At least, that's the argument made in the programme.

Re: Why are Adults so busy?

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Post by nextos »

mrec wrote: post #62
dazc wrote: post #43

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Having grown up in the UK I've always felt guilty about not doing anything in my free time. Partly because everyone else seems to be living such a busy and rewarding existence (or so they would have me believe). Now, living in Spain, I feel it's OK not to do anything. Just sitting in the shade for 6 hours watching the world go by doesn't make me a weirdo, like it does back home.

This post gives me hope. And a rekindled desire to learn Spanish. I just wish I coped with hot weather better.

Some areas, even in the South, are not that hot even during summertime.

Re: Why are Adults so busy?

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Post by gjm11 »

branchless wrote: post #70
jdimov10 wrote: post #13

The article doesn't really answer the question. It says adults are busy because they have too much stuff to do (duh..) But "why" is still a good question, and it remains unanswered. The answer is that, as we grow up, we tend to develop the belief that our well-being needs to be justified somehow. In other words, we start to believe that we are not by default worthy of living a good, joyful, care-free, abundant life..…

Try explaining rent to kids. We have to pay to exist? We have to pay how much? And they are right! I don't have a problem doing nothing. I don't care what others think. But I have to work far more than necessary because of the labour skiming rentiers. They are living off my back. Edit: landlords of HN unite to downvote!

I am not a landlord, but I downvoted you for complaining about being downvoted.

Re: Why are Adults so busy?

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Post by branchless »

gjm11 wrote: post #88
branchless wrote: post #70

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Try explaining rent to kids. We have to pay to exist? We have to pay how much? And they are right! I don't have a problem doing nothing. I don't care what others think. But I have to work far more than necessary because of the labour skiming rentiers. They are living off my back. Edit: landlords of HN unite to downvote!

I am not a landlord, but I downvoted you for complaining about being downvoted.

Ah well at least I don't have to pay you.

Re: Why are Adults so busy?

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Post by lgieron »

branchless wrote: post #70
jdimov10 wrote: post #13

The article doesn't really answer the question. It says adults are busy because they have too much stuff to do (duh..) But "why" is still a good question, and it remains unanswered. The answer is that, as we grow up, we tend to develop the belief that our well-being needs to be justified somehow. In other words, we start to believe that we are not by default worthy of living a good, joyful, care-free, abundant life..…

Try explaining rent to kids. We have to pay to exist? We have to pay how much? And they are right! I don't have a problem doing nothing. I don't care what others think. But I have to work far more than necessary because of the labour skiming rentiers. They are living off my back. Edit: landlords of HN unite to downvote!

That's just how the world is, you know. Back in prehistoric times, you didn't just happen to find a free shack and live in it - you needed to build it and maintain it. Right now, landlords take care of that for you - for a price.
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