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A scammer stole $500 from me and in the end begged me not to tell his parents

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Re: A scammer stole $500 from me and in the end begged me not to tell his parents

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Post by hoodoof »

Tell his parents is precisely what you should do. That's what would lead to possible behavior change. Letting him get away with it validates the behavior and teaches that it's OK and he will be able to talk his way out of such things again.

It does everyone a disservice to not tell his parents.

The author got manipulated twice. First convinced to hand over his money and then convinced not to tell the parents.

The scammer player the author like a guitar. Right there is the psychopath's first big lesson - "people listen when I cry".

The genius of the scammer/budding psychopath being that the blogger thinks he "won".

Re: A scammer stole $500 from me and in the end begged me not to tell his parents

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Post by somedangedname »

hoodoof wrote: post #11

Tell his parents is precisely what you should do. That's what would lead to possible behavior change. Letting him get away with it validates the behavior and teaches that it's OK and he will be able to talk his way out of such things again. It does everyone a disservice to not tell his parents. The author got manipulated twice. First convinced to hand over his money and then convinced not to tell the parents. The sca…

Plus he's been educated about the dangers of scamming from interlinked accounts. If he does try this again it won't be as easy for the next victim to get their stuff back.

Re: A scammer stole $500 from me and in the end begged me not to tell his parents

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Post by reefoctopus »

mhluongo wrote: post #10

It's the fact that the author paid in bitcoin that made this work. Most other online payment methods can be easily reversed with evidence of fraud. We deal with this sort of stuff all the time running cardforcoin.com. Social evidence is a great fraud deterrent. Edit: My mistake, I reversed the payment direction. All the author needed to do was call Apple to have the cards cleared and replaced.

PayPal is just as bad in my experience. I was sent pirated software. They ruled against me and let the scammer keep the money.

Re: A scammer stole $500 from me and in the end begged me not to tell his parents

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Post by dbg31415 »

greenshackle wrote: post #4

I don't do these sort of trades but if I did I'd try: Buyer sends 1/4 of the BTC Sellers sends 1st card Buyer sends 1/2 of the BTC Seller sends 2nd card Buyer sends 1/4 of BTC That way the risk is shared, and both parties stand to lose at most 1/4 of the value (if seller defects after receiving the first payment, or buyer defects and fails to make the last payment).

Noterized letter of intent works too for domestic sales. Not anonymous but keeps people honest, and gives you option of small claims court.

Re: A scammer stole $500 from me and in the end begged me not to tell his parents

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Post by lisper »

> As I prepared the cards to ship them to him I sent him photos I uploaded via my open source image hosting service: PictShare. This fact is very important later on.

I think I must have missed something. I read the whole story and I still don't see why the photos of the cards mattered.

Re: A scammer stole $500 from me and in the end begged me not to tell his parents

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Post by josu »

lisper wrote: post #15

> As I prepared the cards to ship them to him I sent him photos I uploaded via my open source image hosting service: PictShare. This fact is very important later on. I think I must have missed something. I read the whole story and I still don't see why the photos of the cards mattered.

>His IP address from opening the image I sent him (also confirmed his location)

Re: A scammer stole $500 from me and in the end begged me not to tell his parents

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Post by [deleted] »

lisper wrote: post #15

> As I prepared the cards to ship them to him I sent him photos I uploaded via my open source image hosting service: PictShare. This fact is very important later on. I think I must have missed something. I read the whole story and I still don't see why the photos of the cards mattered.

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Re: A scammer stole $500 from me and in the end begged me not to tell his parents

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Post by vacri »

hoodoof wrote: post #11

Tell his parents is precisely what you should do. That's what would lead to possible behavior change. Letting him get away with it validates the behavior and teaches that it's OK and he will be able to talk his way out of such things again. It does everyone a disservice to not tell his parents. The author got manipulated twice. First convinced to hand over his money and then convinced not to tell the parents. The sca…

Telling the brother seems to have done the same function as telling the parents, since that's the point at which the behaviour changed.
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