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Millennials are having less sex than any generation in 60 years

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Re: Millennials are having less sex than any generation in 60 years

#21
There is a perfect storm of anti-sexuality forming in our sex-saturated society:

1) Universal, unlimited internet pornography

2) Consent is increasingly problematic

3) Parental guidance has gone from bad to non-existent, replaced by the State, which delivers clinical advice, often via perverts

4) Tinder and friends aggravating the many-females/one-male harem phenomenon, shutting many males out of the sexual market

5) Kids (males, in particular) have no money. Ask Tony Montana about that.

Careful what you wish for, kids. You might just get it.

Good and hard.

Re: Millennials are having less sex than any generation in 60 years

#23
I can throw my own theories into the stew:

A. Many Americans are overweight or obese. Overweight people are conventionally less attractive and thus less prone to having sex or being in a relationship.

B. Social media permeates all aspects of people's lives. Some people might opt out of having sex or relationships if they didn't want to risk the chance of it showing up on Facebook, Twitter, etc. and getting scolded by Mom and Dad.

C. Poor sexual education in school, usually via fear mongering. There's a bit of satire in the movie Mean Girls (2004) where a sex ed teacher says, "If you have sex, you will get pregnant, and you will die".

I'm not sure if I buy the idea that porn has that much of an impact. Porn in some form has been around for quite a long time.

Re: Millennials are having less sex than any generation in 60 years

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I'm surprised nobody has mentioned the political climate yet. Millennials aren't having sex for a very simple reason: the risk is too high. We live in an age where consent can be retroactively withdrawn. If you choose to have a one night stand and you choose your partner poorly, you run a serious risk of becoming a registered sex offender. That's a life sentence. You'll never have a normal job or a normal life after…

I don't think this really effects people's choices. Anecdotal, but I have not once ever heard of any man in real life stating any real concern this could happen, much less describing it as a reason to avoid sex.

It's an incredibly rare event -- there aren't hordes of women out there having sex and then taking it back and ruining the lives of men. There is a tiny, tiny number of pathological ones who have almost no effect on the behavior or culture of the rest of society. Most people haven't even heard of a single person who it's happened to. And it's always something that happens to someone else, and could never happen to you (you aren't a creepy rapey guy, after all), until it does. It is less likely than unluckily sleeping with someone who has AIDS, and having it transmit to you through a condom, or getting struck by lightning mid-coitus. All totally actionable reasons to avoid sex.

And you almost certainly won't become a sex offender. You could get expelled from your university if you are a student.

Re: Millennials are having less sex than any generation in 60 years

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What about the fact that so many people are overweight now? I have a lot of friends who are overweight, and have horrible dating lives. Most of the people I know at a healthy weight have plenty of sex.

That explanation would still leave open why overweight wouldn't date other overweight people?

Re: Millennials are having less sex than any generation in 60 years

#27

I can throw my own theories into the stew: A. Many Americans are overweight or obese. Overweight people are conventionally less attractive and thus less prone to having sex or being in a relationship. B. Social media permeates all aspects of people's lives. Some people might opt out of having sex or relationships if they didn't want to risk the chance of it showing up on Facebook, Twitter, etc. and getting scolded by…

I would counter C, in that arguably sex education in school is infinity more thorough now than it was 60 years ago. If anything this shows that more sex-ed lowers sex. Also porn 'in some form' has been around for a long time but there is no way you can argue that is has ever been as ubiquitous or insane as it is now.

Re: Millennials are having less sex than any generation in 60 years

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post #24

What about the fact that so many people are overweight now? I have a lot of friends who are overweight, and have horrible dating lives. Most of the people I know at a healthy weight have plenty of sex.

That explanation would still leave open why overweight wouldn't date other overweight people?

The behavior patters that lead to obesity usually go hand in hand with avoiding common hookup/dating spots (i.e clubs). Sitting on the couch eating 3 papa john's pizzas every night does not help you bang anybody, regardless of body type.

Re: Millennials are having less sex than any generation in 60 years

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

That explanation would still leave open why overweight wouldn't date other overweight people?

The behavior patters that lead to obesity usually go hand in hand with avoiding common hookup/dating spots (i.e clubs). Sitting on the couch eating 3 papa john's pizzas every night does not help you bang anybody, regardless of body type.

Only some overweight people fit that description, I certainly don't. You can be reasonably active, go out, and eat pretty sensibly and still have trouble managing your weight.

Still even the more couchpotato types are sexual people and should naturally end up forming dating scenes even if the theory of segregation turned out to be strongly true, excluding people who lose their libido due to depression etc.

(ftr, I see lots of couples with mixed body types but I'm not a millenial or living in the US)

Re: Millennials are having less sex than any generation in 60 years

#30
In aggregate or on average?

Hot people are getting laid more than ever, and the instant availability of apps like Tinder means an equilibrium is being witnessed -- the top 20% have 80% of sex.

I am willing to argue that the success of these people actively discourages other's from even attempting to participate, effectively intimidating them out of the dating pool. People's confidence is shattered before they even go face-to-face with prospective partners and they self-censor themselves.

Not only that but I am personally witnessing plenty of friends retreating from social life under crushing credit card debt and lackluster employment options -- a sea is retreating and stinking husks of self-loathing are being exposed. Anyone that survives into their 30s with a career intact is usually better off than everybody else while everybody else is relegated to childless self-pity, mild destitution, and self-diagnosed embarrassment.

There is a pall over social media and it's growing, or maybe it's just my circle of friends.

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