Loneliness Is a Warning Sign to Be Social

Post by Swizec » Tue, Aug 23, 2016, 12:37 AM UTC

bogomipz wrote: post #65

Swizec wrote: post #3

I miss being alone so much I could cry. It wasn't long ago that I could get up in the morning to my empty apartment, stay in my apartment all day (I worked from home), and only see people when I felt like it. Throwing massive parties for 50+ people every month or so works amazingly well for both socialization and increasing your social standing. Nowadays I work from an office with a bunch of other people around me at…

What are you referring to here? "this prevalence of forced-upon social contact makes me too tired to build a real social network"

Post by ShIxtan » Tue, Aug 23, 2016, 12:40 AM UTC

hiou wrote: post #70

foobarbecue wrote: post #57

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For us introverts, socializing is exhausting in a way that's very different from being physically tired or just sleepy. For me, it's a similar sort of exhaustion that comes from doing a tedious task for a long time. The kind of exhaustion you might experience if you had to write the same sentence out on a piece of paper by hand a thousand times. Wouldn't you think twice before signing up for such an experience? I oft…

Introvert is total bs. All those introverts are spending tons of time socializing online and then are burnt out once it comes to additional socializing outside of their phone.

Post by ori_b » Tue, Aug 23, 2016, 12:49 AM UTC

ikeyany wrote: post #42

pmoriarty wrote: post #31

As I've gotten older I've become more and more picky about who I want to spend time with. It used to be, when I was a lot younger, that I would be pretty indiscriminate: as long as someone wanted to spend time with me, and they were nice enough, and we could find something to do together that we enjoyed, like watching a movie, playing a game, or just hang out and talk about something (usually meaningless), that would…

> as long as someone wanted to spend time with me, and they were nice enough, and we could find something to do together that we enjoyed, like watching a movie, playing a game, or just hang out and talk about something (usually meaningless), that would be enough. But the things you described are meaningful. Watching movies, playing games, and spending precious time doing "pointless" things are what life is about, in…

Post by et-al » Tue, Aug 23, 2016, 1:47 AM UTC

Swizec wrote: post #50

et-al wrote: post #25

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> When I come home, there's my girlfriend. Sure I love her and I definitely can't afford my own rent, but sometimes I just wish I could come home to an empty apartment, you know? This may be naïve, but have you and her talked about this? I understand it may be possible for her to interpret wrong, but it sounds like something that you two can work out without needing to rent a separate apartment.

It's more like, if I'm going to have roommates anyway, I want it to be my girlfriend. And I do enjoy living with her, it's just that I also miss being alone. She'd probably spend a lot of time at my place, or vice-versa, anyway so it definitely makes sense to live together. It's also one of those things that are nearly impossible to back down from without harming the relationship once you reach this stage.

Post by catalinbraescu » Tue, Aug 23, 2016, 2:15 AM UTC

Retra wrote: post #66

BurningFrog wrote: post #43

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Having your girlfriend be your entire social life is one big single point of failure. It's a bit like having your life's savings only in stocks of your employer.

If a poor man is happy, who are you to tell him to get richer? For me, being in the same situation, my partner is often more company than I need or want. And I only see them on weekends.