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How to Have Healthy Relationships as a Developer
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#82Overall really simple changes to improve our daily life. This had me laughing: (No, changing your Vim colorscheme doesn’t count as a “different experience.”)
Ha, I broke off half way though thinking "oooh I should change my vim colorscheme!" Hehe
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#83Overall really simple changes to improve our daily life. This had me laughing: (No, changing your Vim colorscheme doesn’t count as a “different experience.”)
If you want to get freaky, install a powerline package
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#84Personally, I don't think that having healthy relationships as a developer is much different than having healthy relationships as anyone else. As with any other technical job, it can be hard to explain exactly what your job is, but a bit of humor and an ELI5-style explanation goes a long way. One thing specific to programmers is the ability to whip up a little program to help people. Someone spends an hour every day…
Agreed. It's known that one can program outside of work for a hobby (like many other jobs), but treating it like it's special probably creates the rift some may experience
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#85I don't think I really get how to have relationships. It seems a lot of developers fail bad at relationships.
I see beauty in math and algorithms. I'm sick of people, who just see such things only in dollar terms.
However, I think there is a greater cultural attack on technological professionals. I feel like we are devalued as some sort of machine that cranks out code. Many play into this as well. I don't think it is healthy.
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#86Earlier quoted context omitted.
Is there a book or a list of ways to brush an issue under the carpet? This is one of them, one of the most pernicious. The language we use, especially the language we use casually, defines how we appear. To those outside the predominantly straight white male clique of programming, repeated exposure to these casual assumptions of stereotype pile up and create a sense that those not fitting the stereotype are unwelcome…
Can we just not do this? Twisting every innocuous throwaway statement into some covert form of oppression gets really tedious after a while. "Come and see the violence inherent in the system. Help, help, I'm being repressed!"
Nope. Repeating the message in different ways is the only way to get it across, unfortunately. Throwaway assumptions really are death of a thousand cuts for people who don't fit those assumptions.
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#87>Our brains automatically group similar memories together in order to save space. As developers, years can feel like weeks if we don’t actively pursue different experiences. This hit me hard. Feels like the years have just slipped on by since I graduated university. Not particularly sure how to stop it though...maybe a few more years and I can just take a few months off and travel or something?
Try going analogue, find a hobby that doesn't involve a computer (music, cooking, hiking etc.). I find if I do even a small amount of a few different activities in a day, it feels a lot more full . A day spent coding, then going home to cook dinner and read a book always feel better than a day spent coding, then going home to browse the internet or even work on a coding side project (if I get around to those, they're…
> Try going analogue, find a hobby that doesn't involve a computer (music, cooking, hiking etc.)
I would suggest to find a hobby that involves other people.
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#88I read articles like this and always find it fascinating that none of them suggest simply stop doing what you do for work (or at least limit to a certain extent) and enjoy other things in life. You want to have a healthy life? Get away from the monitor and get outside. It's that simple no matter what you do.
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#89This pretty much applies to any technical field. Good advice.
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#90Earlier quoted context omitted.
Is there a book or a list of ways to brush an issue under the carpet? This is one of them, one of the most pernicious. The language we use, especially the language we use casually, defines how we appear. To those outside the predominantly straight white male clique of programming, repeated exposure to these casual assumptions of stereotype pile up and create a sense that those not fitting the stereotype are unwelcome…
Can we just not do this? Twisting every innocuous throwaway statement into some covert form of oppression gets really tedious after a while. "Come and see the violence inherent in the system. Help, help, I'm being repressed!"
You're right. The point is that it's not a covert form of oppression, it's de facto.
There is a straight, white male clique-iness to the programming world. Most blog posts assume the reader is a straight, white male. These are turn offs to some people, whether conscious or not.