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I think you might be misunderstanding authority. Authority doesn't come from lording it over people, or making the best decisions. Authority comes from submission; as long as someone submits to you you have authority over them, likewise anything you submit to has authority over you. The submissive person in the relationship has all the power; they are the one who gets to say "stop". In this case the various arguments…
> The submissive person in the relationship has all the power; they are the one who gets to say "stop". Maybe when you're into BDSM. You're right that authority comes from submission, but people submit to power . A gun, a hostage, a 51% voting majority.
Those are direct use of force, not authority or power.
> 51% voting majority
Can still be undermined by civil disobedience, if we're talking about society. Only a small minority in society (the police) use force to get you to submit. The rest submits to the authority of the law. A very small group can undermine the majority through civil disobedience, since they can outnumber the police very quickly.