Now I Fear Exploratory Interviewing While Employed
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#2You did nothing wrong. Keep doing what you are doing, spend some time interviewing, it's a great skill to develop. Don't feel like you're cheating on your wife, your current employer is not your wife. If at any point, they realize that they are better off without you they'll sack you, period.
If the companies you interview with really want you they'll make it worth your while. They'll adjust their offer to compensate for all the items you listed, otherwise, they just accept the fact that you can walk at any time.
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#3You did nothing wrong. Keep doing what you are doing, spend some time interviewing, it's a great skill to develop. Don't feel like you're cheating on your wife, your current employer is not your wife. If at any point, they realize that they are better off without you they'll sack you, period. If the companies you interview with really want you they'll make it worth your while. They'll adjust their offer to compensate…
Excellent point about negotiating. Definitely mention that you will take a hit with housing and taxes if you move, and have them add $12k to the offer. That is peanuts compared to the total offer amount.
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#4Funny: the recruiter was annoyed at his declination email - a phone call was apparently expected. But how does a company decline? "We do not see a fit at this time, but we'll keep your resume on file". Lol
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#5Funny: the recruiter was annoyed at his declination email - a phone call was apparently expected. But how does a company decline? "We do not see a fit at this time, but we'll keep your resume on file". Lol
That's best-case scenario, too.
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#6It sounds like the poster is happy with his position in life, and he's just figuring that out. I think favorite piece of wisdom that can be applied to this post is to listen to your gut when it tells you not to do something; not the other way around. If you're in a position in life where you're happy, try to coast for a while and enjoy stability.
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#7I don't really understand this post. The author seems to be doing a lot of handwringing for no reason. Why not just tell the new company "I'm currently employed, so it is unlikely that I would leave my job, but I would be open to it for the right opportunity, if you're still interested"? That way, you both know where you stand, and you have a better negotiating position, since you don't need to take the new job.
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#8Funny: the recruiter was annoyed at his declination email - a phone call was apparently expected. But how does a company decline? "We do not see a fit at this time, but we'll keep your resume on file". Lol
That's giving them too much credit. Most companies don't even respond. That's "industry standard", and is probably responsible for untold amounts of stress and lost productivity(on the part of the jobseeker). No idea how that came to be, but it'd be a dream come true if it were the other way around.
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#9> felt guilty enough for turning it down after they had spent time and money on me
In these cases you should never feel guilty about the time and other resource they spent on the process. If they hadn't made you an offer in the end they certainly wouldn't have felt guilty about the time/money/other you had spent.
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#10The recruiter guilting you is the recruiter acting out their anger that you didn't earn them their $25k or whatever. They get whatever exorbitant cut they do specifically because of the risk that they assume.
I backed out of a new job on a Thursday when I was scheduled to start on Monday. Recruiter was super nasty to me. It was unfortunate to back out when I did, but that's when the offer came in, and they were offering me 65k against 93k.
That kind of conflict is baked into the relationship. It's not their fault, not exactly, but it's their job to handle rejection with professionalism and grace, not by pouting.
Edit: I said "when the offer came in." What I meant was the competing offer that paid ~30k more. Timeline: Company A offers, I accept. I interview at company B. Company B offers me 30k more. I cancel with company A. Hilarity ensues.