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Re: Richard Feynman on getting laid: "You Just Ask Them?"

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Post by jonny_noog »

potatolicious wrote: post #102
jonny_noog wrote: post #62

Earlier quoted context omitted.

What was the quality of the women who responded favorably to this line? :P I think it's also worthy to note that the origin makes a huge difference. If you e.g. have an underwear model trying that line on a woman, it will no doubt succeed more often than if a stereotypical truck driver delivered it in exactly the same way.

I wouldn't be so sure about that - the greatest womanizer I've ever known is a lanky, almost scrawny nerd with curly hair. What he lacks in looks he more than makes up in his personality - he's the life of the party, knows everything about everyone, a master socializer... etc. He's a shoot first ask questions later sort of guy - will never betray a moment of doubt, I think that's what makes him successful at both lif…

I'm pretty sure of it dude, looks matter, period. Although I don't think there's any denying that personality generally seems to factor more heavily in what is attractive to a woman as opposed to what is attractive to a man, Ill certainly give you that.

But as I alluded to in my previous comment, all the womenizers I have known have had more than their fair share of skanky chicks because after all was said and done, they were pretty skanky themselves. There is usually a certain type of woman who will go for "Look, girls are into honesty right? Well the truth is I have a big d!&k and want to put it in you" and I've found by and large that those aren't the most interesting kind. My strategy has been quality over quantity and it's worked out pretty well so far.

Re: Richard Feynman on getting laid: "You Just Ask Them?"

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Post by froo »

jonny_noog wrote: post #62
froo wrote: post #42

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I know a Welsh guy named Ed (very short guy) who never leaves a pub without a girl on his arm. I always wondered how he did it so I asked him and he told me his pickup line. He said: "I go up to a girl and I start off with saying hi, introducing myself as Ed, I then say to them this line" "Look, girls are into honesty right? Well the truth is I have a big d!&k and want to put it in you" He told me that the secret to…

What was the quality of the women who responded favorably to this line? :P I think it's also worthy to note that the origin makes a huge difference. If you e.g. have an underwear model trying that line on a woman, it will no doubt succeed more often than if a stereotypical truck driver delivered it in exactly the same way.

>I think it's also worthy to note that the origin makes a huge difference.

See, I would have thought so too, but Ed is about 5'4", bad teeth and a heavy smoker. One thing in his favour though, he was a snappy dresser as he wore lots of designer clothing.

I honestly thought he was joking but we were hanging out in Melbourne one evening at a pub. I decided to test him out, pointed out someone and said he should pick her up. Obviously I couldn't hear what he was saying from a distance, but you could visibly see where he dropped the bombshell (the expression on her face) and he sold it like it was the most normal thing in the world.

I honestly just thought it was perhaps Ed, because one data point does not a trend make... seems it might not be so.

Re: Richard Feynman on getting laid: "You Just Ask Them?"

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Post by froo »

froo wrote: post #41
dwwoelfel wrote: post #6

This probably only works if you're Richard Feynman.

I know a Welsh guy named Ed (very short guy) who never leaves a pub without a girl on his arm. I always wondered how he did it so I asked him and he told me his pickup line. He said: "I go up to a girl and I start off with saying hi, introducing myself as Ed, I then say to them this line" "Look, girls are into honesty right? Well the truth is I have a big d!&k and want to put it in you" He told me that the secret to…

any mods able to delete this?

it somehow duped and I was unable to remove it myself due to noprocrast kicking in.

Re: Richard Feynman on getting laid: "You Just Ask Them?"

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Post by froo »

wallflower wrote: post #78
aaronbrethorst wrote: post #12

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Not in the slightest. At the risk of destroying my chances of ever getting into YC (hi JL, PG, RTM et al!) I had astonishingly great luck with asking attractive women if they wanted to make out with me last Spring. Seriously: "hey, let's make out!" or "would it unduly offend you if I asked you to make out with me?" You're probably better off asking this sort of thing after conversing with them for a bit so you don't…

The shock & awe opener http://www.rsdwiki.com/index.php?title=SHOCK_and_AWE..._The_...

I've seen this rough method out in the wild.

http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=1197508

Re: Richard Feynman on getting laid: "You Just Ask Them?"

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Post by vidarh »

nandemo wrote: post #85
aaronbrethorst wrote: post #12

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Not in the slightest. At the risk of destroying my chances of ever getting into YC (hi JL, PG, RTM et al!) I had astonishingly great luck with asking attractive women if they wanted to make out with me last Spring. Seriously: "hey, let's make out!" or "would it unduly offend you if I asked you to make out with me?" You're probably better off asking this sort of thing after conversing with them for a bit so you don't…

Seriously, you should leave out the "would it unduly offend you" part. If you don't believe me, try an A/B test and report the results to us.

I think actually saying "unduly offend" is so quirky and strange that it won't come off as weak. It'll sound like he's having fun with it, and doesn't really care if it offends at all. In fact, he's saying he doesn't care if it offends - as long as it doesn't "unduly offend". I'm tempted to try adding "would it unduly offend you..." to a lot of things now..

Re: Richard Feynman on getting laid: "You Just Ask Them?"

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Post by vidarh »

jonny_noog wrote: post #62
froo wrote: post #42

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I know a Welsh guy named Ed (very short guy) who never leaves a pub without a girl on his arm. I always wondered how he did it so I asked him and he told me his pickup line. He said: "I go up to a girl and I start off with saying hi, introducing myself as Ed, I then say to them this line" "Look, girls are into honesty right? Well the truth is I have a big d!&k and want to put it in you" He told me that the secret to…

What was the quality of the women who responded favorably to this line? :P I think it's also worthy to note that the origin makes a huge difference. If you e.g. have an underwear model trying that line on a woman, it will no doubt succeed more often than if a stereotypical truck driver delivered it in exactly the same way.

They are NOT really responding to the line. That's the thing.

With an opener like that, what matters is attitude and confidence. If you deliver it completely normal, as if you couldn't possibly imagine it could be offensive, then most likely they will just start by laughing it off or throwing some test in your face, expecting you to fall apart.

If you show you can handle what they throw back at you, you've both demonstrated confidence, that you're the kind of guy that expects women to fall over themselves to sleep with you and so you really are honest and can say what you like, and you've made it clear to them from the start that you're after sex; you're "dangerous", not some potential guy to amuse them while they have a few drinks.

Sexual intent, confidence and the perception that you're very successful with women and don't need to by shy about what you're after means far more than looks.

Personally I'd expect that line to work better on "good quality" girls, actually. Especially pretty girls that know they look good.

If you try it on girls that don't look good enough or that seem insecure etc., you might very easily come off as thinking they're easy.

With really beautiful and/or confident girls you're more likely for them to expect guys to be shy and deferential or just plain creepy.

Of course the chance of coming off as creepy with a line like that if not delivered with the perfect attitude is pretty high.

Re: Richard Feynman on getting laid: "You Just Ask Them?"

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Post by vidarh »

sown wrote: post #73

I could never do it. I just can't. I'm too much of a coward. I think I might die if I asked.

I used to think that too. Get a coach. Seriously. Whether just a friend, or someone who is paid. Doesn't need to be about "pickup" at all - just someone to push you into going up to random strangers and strike up a conversation until you're so desensitized to it you just get used to talking to anyone and saying anything you like.

You're likely to find that having a friend physically force you to take the first step will make it immensely easier, and after a while you'll hesitate less and less.

Takes practice, like anything else, especially if you've allowed yourself to build up "barriers" against it in you mind.

Re: Richard Feynman on getting laid: "You Just Ask Them?"

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Post by gamache »

winter_blue wrote: post #31
winter_blue wrote: post #27

This seems to have happened in the late 1930s or the early 1940s (he says "while I was working on the bomb".) From what I've heard, the US was very conservative at that time; girls & women in general did not have sex before marriage. And additionally was contraception widely available at that time? The sexual revolution happened in the 60s and 70s. So, this does not make any sense. Can someone enlighten me?

This story by Freedman totally goes against what I've thought US/Western attitudes towards sex were in the 40s. (I thought the US was an uber-conservative sex-only-after-marriage & sex-only-for-producing children society.) Does anyone have any links/references to articles/papers/studies that show that the US was already laissez-faire about sex as early as the late-30s/early-40s?

Don't ever assume that the US -- or any other country -- actually practices what it preaches, especially when said country spends a lot of time preaching.

The two Kinsey Reports (Sexual Behavior in the Human Male, 1948, and Sexual Behavior in the Human Female, 1953) are the groundbreaking sexual studies of their time. See: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_Reports

Re: Richard Feynman on getting laid: "You Just Ask Them?"

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Post by yummyfajitas »

frossie wrote: post #84
barry-cotter wrote: post #72

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edit: http://www.pnas.org/content/106/22/8801.full Two recent studies directly address the question of whether greater male variability in mathematics is a ubiquitous phenomenon. Machin and Pekkarinen (19) reported that the M:F VR in mathematics was significantly >1.00 at the P ... Similarly, Penner's cross-nation analysis of the 1995 TIMSS data (20) showed that the proportion of girls scoring above the 95th percenti…

Well, I can do better than that in 5 minutes but that's because I have paid a lot of attention to this question. I think the most conclusive evidence that M/F math gaps are cultural in origin lies in international studies, where the gap ranges from negligible in progressive countries (eg. Scandinavia) to massive in less equal societies (eg Turkey). http://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/bul-136-1-103.pdf Generally…

Just curious, why do you believe Scandinavia is more equal than the US, UK or Australia?

Re: Richard Feynman on getting laid: "You Just Ask Them?"

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Post by lucifer »

The new breed http://roissy.wordpress.com/ [Note that (textual) content is NSFW.]

The author was recently featured in the WeeklyStandard, and is a 44 year old DC wonk cum [npi] PUA. The impression that he wishes to convey that he is a Sexual Terrorist fighting in the trenches against Feminism and the "Misandrist Bubble".

There is also quite a bit of noise/male_anger/general_kaka in the comments, but clearly also quite a few quite insightful and intelligent regulars.

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