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Re: Let's talk openly about depression

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Post by amelius »

bhickey wrote: post #50
amelius wrote: post #44

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Check this out: http://geneticgenie.org/blog/2013/02/01/think-supporting-met...

Yes, and? The entire website stinks of snake oil. The AJHG paper they cite to is talking about folate and methylation in the context of fetal abnormalities. This is a whole different beast from feeding adults B12 vitamins and hoping for the best.

> and hoping for the best

Well you are supposed to do a blood test for the metabolites that occur in the methylation pathway, to see if the cycle is running correctly. Not sure if that is mentioned on this particular site, but this is what people are doing for example on this ME/CFS forum [1]

> The entire website stinks of snake oil

You could still be right about this (or not), of course. I'd also like to see some clinical trials of this approach.

[1] http://forums.phoenixrising.me/index.php?threads/methylation...

Re: Let's talk openly about depression

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Post by foobarbecue »

throwaway676565 wrote: post #40
cylinder wrote: post #21

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I think what has happened is that people have become averse to and afraid of making set, hard plans to socializing. It's always "let's exchange numbers/Facebook and get a coffee sometime." Or I'll see you around. We know how connected we are and how easy it is, so we don't set hard plans. Better to defer the potential rejection or obligation. If it weren't so easy to connect there'd be more pressure to just set a har…

> "let's exchange numbers/Facebook and get a coffee sometime." Or I'll see you around. That's what people say to those they don't want to be around. If they wanted you around they'd call you.

Not true at all, throwaway. I hate talking on the phone and chatting online is my preferred way to arrange things. It's easy to send addresses and times precisely without worrying about stuff getting misheard on the phone, you can add more people to the chat if you like, etc.

Re: Let's talk openly about depression

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Post by badminton1 »

deadtofu wrote: post #48
badminton1 wrote: post #19

Checkout this site: http://devpressed.com/ And this excellent talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yFIa-Mc2KSk

I got really excited by this devpressed site. I have Asperger's. Plus PTSD from various stuff that happened as a result of that. So the idea of a safe place to share my strengths (and weaknesses) and try to find a job that doesn't stress me out was really exciteding. So I fired up Tor[2] and tried to register. Then the confirmation email never name. I tried resending. Set a timer. Wait 15 minutes. Try not to persever…

The same thing happened to me with the confirmation e-mail. It seems they have a problem with the registration.

Re: Let's talk openly about depression

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Post by hollander »

gc123 wrote: post #3

As someone who does the tech 9-5, I've found it difficult to make small talk/form deeper relationships with people outside of tech. Conversations often tend to die off after the initial "What do you do? Oh that's cool..." or "About that weather we've been having..." Any tips on expanding your network outside of tech?

Go dance: salsa, tango, rock'n'roll, whatever you like. If you're young, salsa or street dance may be more interesting. Dancing is connecting to people without the need to talk much.

If you really don't like to dance, try theatersport or "impro". It will help free your mind.

Big bonus: you will meet many people that are not in tech. And afterwards you go have a drink in a local bar, great moments to talk to other people.

Re: Let's talk openly about depression

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Post by hollander »

deadtofu wrote: post #48
badminton1 wrote: post #19

Checkout this site: http://devpressed.com/ And this excellent talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yFIa-Mc2KSk

I got really excited by this devpressed site. I have Asperger's. Plus PTSD from various stuff that happened as a result of that. So the idea of a safe place to share my strengths (and weaknesses) and try to find a job that doesn't stress me out was really exciteding. So I fired up Tor[2] and tried to register. Then the confirmation email never name. I tried resending. Set a timer. Wait 15 minutes. Try not to persever…

>> In the event of a critical issue or urgent matter affecting this site, please contact us at info@devpressed.com

http://devpressed.com/about

Re: Let's talk openly about depression

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Post by slindz »

deadtofu wrote: post #48
badminton1 wrote: post #19

Checkout this site: http://devpressed.com/ And this excellent talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yFIa-Mc2KSk

I got really excited by this devpressed site. I have Asperger's. Plus PTSD from various stuff that happened as a result of that. So the idea of a safe place to share my strengths (and weaknesses) and try to find a job that doesn't stress me out was really exciteding. So I fired up Tor[2] and tried to register. Then the confirmation email never name. I tried resending. Set a timer. Wait 15 minutes. Try not to persever…

I just tried to sign up with a standard email address without Tor and did not receive a confirmation email otherwise.

Best of luck to you.

Re: Let's talk openly about depression

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Post by deadtofu »

hollander wrote: post #55
deadtofu wrote: post #48

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I got really excited by this devpressed site. I have Asperger's. Plus PTSD from various stuff that happened as a result of that. So the idea of a safe place to share my strengths (and weaknesses) and try to find a job that doesn't stress me out was really exciteding. So I fired up Tor[2] and tried to register. Then the confirmation email never name. I tried resending. Set a timer. Wait 15 minutes. Try not to persever…

>> In the event of a critical issue or urgent matter affecting this site, please contact us at info@devpressed.com http://devpressed.com/about

Thanks for pointing this out! I sent an email.

Re: Let's talk openly about depression

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Post by CuriouslyC »

gc123 wrote: post #3

As someone who does the tech 9-5, I've found it difficult to make small talk/form deeper relationships with people outside of tech. Conversations often tend to die off after the initial "What do you do? Oh that's cool..." or "About that weather we've been having..." Any tips on expanding your network outside of tech?

This is a problem when people think "they are what they do". The truth is, first and foremost you are a human being, and as such life is pretty similar for all of us.

Ask someone what their current challenges in life are?

What are they passionate about?

What are they looking forward to?

The window dressing might be different but underneath we are very much alike.

Re: Let's talk openly about depression

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Post by CuriouslyC »

0xcde4c3db wrote: post #16
lowglow wrote: post #5

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Take a genuine interest in what others find passion in, and you'll find making friends is easier than you think. A good start would be replacing "What do you do?" with "What do you love to do?" or "What are you passionate about?" :) Good luck!

I find the idea that once can just consciously decide to "take a genuine interest in" something to be entirely alien. Is this something that most people are able to do? I can direct my attention toward something, but that doesn't make boring subjects interesting.

Maybe you would relate to other people better if you tried to find out _why_ they they find things interesting that you find boring.

Re: Let's talk openly about depression

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Post by hackney »

meeper16 wrote: post #25

Be Chinese.

Thoughts can be your own worst enemy if left uncontrolled. I have heard psychiatrists agree when a patient states that they cannot control them. Totally false. The thing about depression is simply that feelings are the hardest thing anyone will ever try to control in their own lives. Modern psychiatry is stupid if it thinks anything is solved with medication. Then you have bad memories. Those can be replaced if you learn to not only control your thoughts, but also stop using the word victim in it's entirety.
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