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Re: Crying

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Post by dsmithatx »

Snargorf wrote: post #94

She wrote, "Retrospection involved re-categorizing things that happened to me and re-evaluating past actions and decisions, which led me to feel ashamed, slighted, or self-pitying (I became a feminist during the time I was logging, and I reacted strongly to injustices that I became aware of)." So becoming a feminist literally made her cry. Meanwhile, at the other end of the spectrum, the happiest demographic in Ameri…

The important question is how did they determine the people were happy?

If you believe in fairy tails and that you are one of the few choosen righteous who gets eternal happiness you might very well believe you're happy all the time. You might also be full of a lot of shame/guilt put on you which causes you to say you're happy when you're really not.

Re: Crying

#132

Post by crymer11 »

piyush_soni wrote: post #125
distances wrote: post #55

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Kind of the same for me. More baffling for me, however, is the range of discrete emotions she was able to categorize. If I tried, I would probably end up with buckets "upbeat", "fine", and "down". I found this article very fascinating.

If we go by the name (Robin), it's a he. :)

Robin is a name used by both sexes, e.g. Robin Wright and Robin Williams. Additionally, the author's website indicates they belonged to an organization for women.

Re: Crying

#133

Post by saint_fiasco »

hwhatwhatwhat wrote: post #122
further_tech wrote: post #63

I'm gonna be hated for this, but I do believe her post demonstrates how terrific things could be done with more woman in CS. She has mixed our analytical culture with femininity, creating a truly remarkable piece. I may be wrong, but I don't see a straight white male exposing in this same manner.

If I understand you correctly, I can see what you mean about emotional openness being a more feminine trait, and understand your implication that homosexual males may lean more towards that behaviour too (stereotypically, at least) - but I really don't understand what race has to do with this?

If mixing our analytical culture with feminity resulted in a surprisingly insightful article that wouldn't have been written otherwise, it's possible that mixing it with gayness will produce some other surprising insight.

Obviously we won't know until it happens, just like we didn't know there were insightful things to be found about crying before a woman wrote this article.

Re: Crying

#134

Post by brador »

Zelphyr wrote: post #121

So many people here admitting they cry with an undertone that they feel various levels of bad for doing it. @donatj even said his wife makes fun of him when he cries. We have got to make this a non-issue. Its so insane to me that in Western culture someone isn't allowed to express a perfectly normal aspect of their physiology. Its like shaming someone for puking. It may not be pleasant but not doing it is way worse.…

Maybe crying is seen as an intense emotion for rare occasions so when someone seems to be crying every weekday or over trivial things it demeans the powerfulness and impact of crying.

Also because of it's reservation for truly impactful events random crying can seem fake or artificial. 'Attention whoring' as the kids like to call it.

You cry at a funeral, you cry at getting a parking ticket. If you cry at both you're kinda putting them on the same level eh?

Re: Crying

#135

Post by [deleted] »

further_tech wrote: post #63

I'm gonna be hated for this, but I do believe her post demonstrates how terrific things could be done with more woman in CS. She has mixed our analytical culture with femininity, creating a truly remarkable piece. I may be wrong, but I don't see a straight white male exposing in this same manner.

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Re: Crying

#136

Post by piyush_soni »

crymer11 wrote: post #132
piyush_soni wrote: post #125

Earlier quoted context omitted.

If we go by the name (Robin), it's a he. :)

Robin is a name used by both sexes, e.g. Robin Wright and Robin Williams. Additionally, the author's website indicates they belonged to an organization for women.

Yeah, I just confirmed and came back here to write it. It's She. At the risk of sounding sexist, that relieves me a bit :)

Re: Crying

#137

Post by jazzyk »

tfigueroa wrote: post #88
notduncansmith wrote: post #83

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Another guy here. I've found that as I age, I've become more emotional (and simultaneously better at dealing with it). I never cried in movies as a child/teenager, but nowadays I find myself choking up during particularly emotional moments in movies, shows, and life. Sometimes I just look at my son for a minute and the same thing happens. I try not to cry around people, even my family, but more because I'm conscious…

Having a kid. That did it for me. I've always been an empathic person, but some chemicals changed when I had a child, and now a crappy movie trailer with the right cuts and a soaring soundtrack can get me teary.

This x 1000!. I can't believe how much my children changed me- and I am a pretty tough guy otherwise. Glad to hear I am not the only one.

Re: Crying

#138

Post by mylons »

donatj wrote: post #13

I am a big burly guy with a beard - and I get overwhelmed and cry regularly. Not even from sadness, just from general emotion. For example last night I watched the trailer for Overwatch[1] and got so excited I started tearing up. I don't know why, anything that triggers ANY sort of strong emotion in me brings it on. Always has. My wife makes fun of me for it. I don't see anything wrong with it. [1] https://www.youtub…

I did the same thing last night! I fired up the overwatch trailer for my girlfriend and started crying quite a bit. Then I put on the Soldier 76 clip, and cried even more.

How much did you cry during the last episode of Game of Thrones? I was gasping for air between the sobs!

Re: Crying

#139

Post by thedz »

brador wrote: post #134
Zelphyr wrote: post #121

So many people here admitting they cry with an undertone that they feel various levels of bad for doing it. @donatj even said his wife makes fun of him when he cries. We have got to make this a non-issue. Its so insane to me that in Western culture someone isn't allowed to express a perfectly normal aspect of their physiology. Its like shaming someone for puking. It may not be pleasant but not doing it is way worse.…

Maybe crying is seen as an intense emotion for rare occasions so when someone seems to be crying every weekday or over trivial things it demeans the powerfulness and impact of crying. Also because of it's reservation for truly impactful events random crying can seem fake or artificial. 'Attention whoring' as the kids like to call it. You cry at a funeral, you cry at getting a parking ticket. If you cry at both you're…

> Maybe crying is seen as an intense emotion for rare occasions so when someone seems to be crying every weekday or over trivial things it demeans the powerfulness and impact of crying.

Yes, I think that's the issue. Crying should not just be for rare events or an indication of extreme emotional distress. People cry for all sorts of reasons.

Re: Crying

#140

Post by brador »

thedz wrote: post #139
brador wrote: post #134

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Maybe crying is seen as an intense emotion for rare occasions so when someone seems to be crying every weekday or over trivial things it demeans the powerfulness and impact of crying. Also because of it's reservation for truly impactful events random crying can seem fake or artificial. 'Attention whoring' as the kids like to call it. You cry at a funeral, you cry at getting a parking ticket. If you cry at both you're…

> Maybe crying is seen as an intense emotion for rare occasions so when someone seems to be crying every weekday or over trivial things it demeans the powerfulness and impact of crying. Yes, I think that's the issue. Crying should not just be for rare events or an indication of extreme emotional distress. People cry for all sorts of reasons.

Then what do you do for the rare events?
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