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Re: Crying

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Post by Zelphyr »

So many people here admitting they cry with an undertone that they feel various levels of bad for doing it. @donatj even said his wife makes fun of him when he cries.

We have got to make this a non-issue. Its so insane to me that in Western culture someone isn't allowed to express a perfectly normal aspect of their physiology. Its like shaming someone for puking. It may not be pleasant but not doing it is way worse.

I sincerely believe we should be pushing back and HARD when we're shamed for crying. "We" being anyone because, lets face it, women are shamed for it too.

Re: Crying

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Post by hwhatwhatwhat »

further_tech wrote: post #63

I'm gonna be hated for this, but I do believe her post demonstrates how terrific things could be done with more woman in CS. She has mixed our analytical culture with femininity, creating a truly remarkable piece. I may be wrong, but I don't see a straight white male exposing in this same manner.

If I understand you correctly, I can see what you mean about emotional openness being a more feminine trait, and understand your implication that homosexual males may lean more towards that behaviour too (stereotypically, at least) - but I really don't understand what race has to do with this?

Re: Crying

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Post by danielvinson »

jaytaylor wrote: post #114

Can anyone explain how the visualization with the header '? -> ?? -> ???' (a little past the middle on the right hand side) was generated? I'd really like to know how spreadsheet data gets turned into that awesome D3 diagram!

https://developers.google.com/chart/interactive/docs/gallery...

Re: Crying

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Post by verst »

lomnakkus wrote: post #66
swah wrote: post #59

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I hardly cry (and make no attemps not to cry) but I have to concede that "Up" is very well written and its very hard to avoid getting emotional in certain parts. So, I guess the guy in this post has many triggers and I only have some, say - thinking of Up - old age and loneliness, lifelong fidelity...

Yeah, "Up" is really in a league of its own on the "tearjerker" scale -- not that it ever does it gratuitously, mind. It's just that it imitates life very well in that it can sometimes be very sad and also uplifting(!) at the same time.

"Up" definitely triggered the strongest emotions in me of any movie to date. Perhaps it reminded me of the loss of my grandma a few years earlier.

The first ten minutes made me so upset that I spent the rest of the movie fighting my body so that I wouldn't start bawling. It would have been such an intense and loud cry that I absolutely would have had to run out of the movie theater. After the movie I drove my friend home (~30 min), but I couldn't say one word to her because I was still so deeply upset that my lips were trembling.

I don't cry much, in fact, I really can't cry when most people ordinarily would. But in the rare circumstances where something can make me cry (whether it's very sad, or just incredibly beautiful) it is always with maximum intensity.

Re: Crying

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Post by piyush_soni »

distances wrote: post #55
tbabb wrote: post #41

I had no idea that people cry this much. It's like pulling back a curtain.

Kind of the same for me. More baffling for me, however, is the range of discrete emotions she was able to categorize. If I tried, I would probably end up with buckets "upbeat", "fine", and "down". I found this article very fascinating.

If we go by the name (Robin), it's a he. :)

Re: Crying

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Post by MustardTiger »

further_tech wrote: post #63

I'm gonna be hated for this, but I do believe her post demonstrates how terrific things could be done with more woman in CS. She has mixed our analytical culture with femininity, creating a truly remarkable piece. I may be wrong, but I don't see a straight white male exposing in this same manner.

This site is full of circle jerking over diversity virtue signalling. Why would you "be hated" for participating in the dominant fad?

Re: Crying

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Post by sharp11 »

This is such a wonderful blending of genres. We techies often can seem (or be?) detached from emotion. The rigor with which analytics were applied here ("real-time crying dashboard"!) is genius. So funny and so true.

Re: Crying

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Post by ghoul2 »

kstenerud wrote: post #110
drawkbox wrote: post #77

Earlier quoted context omitted.

The Boy in the Striped Pajamas[1] I should have seen it coming but it was a freight train, never did a movie hit so hard like that. War though a child's eye is worse than the adult perspective of war. [1] http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0914798/

Grave of the Fireflies http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0095327/

I could not smile for days after watching that one. One of the greatest movies ever made, but when I recommend it to anyone, I always warn them that if they are depression prone, they should not watch it at all.

So _intense_. Even years later, just reference to it gives me goosebumps.

Re: Crying

#130

Post by Disruptive_Dave »

nostrebored wrote: post #109
Disruptive_Dave wrote: post #14

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Serious question: what else happens around that time? How long does it take you to "recover" from a crying episode? Are you unable to perform other tasks during an episode? Etc. I'm genuinely curious because I've had some frustrating experiences with crying in the workplace / around work that seemed a bit unfair to me (at the time I was a young'n who still assumed "fairness" was a thing). Someone would cry at work an…

There are healthy ways to express your anger. Raising your voice at your coworkers is not one of them, and is out of line. I can't think of a time when I've had to yell uncontrollably. I can think of many times when the only thing I was capable of doing was crying.

Who said anything about raising voices at coworkers. From my perspective (which is one with zero psychology or medical training), these are two expressions of emotions. You just proved my point here. If the same situation makes one person cry and another person stone / red faced with "anger" why is one treated so tremendously different from the other? From my POV, you have two people unable to control their emotions in a work environment.
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