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Re: Crying

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Post by ksenzee » Fri, May 27, 2016, 5:46 PM UTC

Xcelerate wrote: post #23

Xcelerate wrote: post #21

Edit: I have retracted this post; it came across in a way that I did not intend it to. Thank you to those of you who explained the response I received.

Why the downvotes? Did you all read the entirety of my post? As someone who almost never receives downvotes on HN, this is frustrating. Please provide constructive criticism rather than leaving me in the dark.

I downvoted because this is an armchair diagnosis by a non-professional, based on data that wouldn't be enough for a professional to make a diagnosis.

Re: Crying

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Post by [deleted] » Fri, May 27, 2016, 5:46 PM UTC

unimpressive wrote: post #26

Xcelerate wrote: post #23

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Why the downvotes? Did you all read the entirety of my post? As someone who almost never receives downvotes on HN, this is frustrating. Please provide constructive criticism rather than leaving me in the dark.

Because people who try to diagnose other people with disorders out of the DSM over the Internet after a brief interaction with their life are generally considered to be in a state of arrogance.

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Re: Crying

#33

Post by cantadmitit » Fri, May 27, 2016, 5:48 PM UTC

donatj wrote: post #13

I am a big burly guy with a beard - and I get overwhelmed and cry regularly. Not even from sadness, just from general emotion. For example last night I watched the trailer for Overwatch[1] and got so excited I started tearing up. I don't know why, anything that triggers ANY sort of strong emotion in me brings it on. Always has. My wife makes fun of me for it. I don't see anything wrong with it. [1] https://www.youtub…

My eyes tear up really easily, and it's just strong emotion, even just nostalgia. It's very difficult to control, and the sensation is often rather nice. But my girlfriend is from Asia, where there's a serious taboo against a man crying, so it's a problem. She can't understand that I'm not sad or fearful, I'm just feeling strong emotions, often pleasant emotions.

It's a strange thing. I'm so embarrassed about it I had to use a throwaway account.

Re: Crying

#34

Post by [deleted] » Fri, May 27, 2016, 5:49 PM UTC

modoc wrote: post #28

I almost never cry. Some of my friends joke that I cry once a decade, but honestly that is pretty close to the truth. I'm not ashamed to cry, and I don't try to not cry, or anything like that, I just almost never want to cry...

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Re: Crying

#35

Post by [deleted] » Fri, May 27, 2016, 5:50 PM UTC

modoc wrote: post #28

I almost never cry. Some of my friends joke that I cry once a decade, but honestly that is pretty close to the truth. I'm not ashamed to cry, and I don't try to not cry, or anything like that, I just almost never want to cry...

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Re: Crying

#36

Post by MAGZine » Fri, May 27, 2016, 5:51 PM UTC

Xcelerate wrote: post #23

Xcelerate wrote: post #21

Edit: I have retracted this post; it came across in a way that I did not intend it to. Thank you to those of you who explained the response I received.

Why the downvotes? Did you all read the entirety of my post? As someone who almost never receives downvotes on HN, this is frustrating. Please provide constructive criticism rather than leaving me in the dark.

While it's bad manner to complain about downvotes, you're probably receiving them because your post comes across as speaking from a place of authority ("you have this condition," without any credentials "I am not a psychologist.")

Moreover, why does everything have to be a condition? Maybe this person cries more than others. Ok, so what. If they only cried once a week or something, then they probably wouldn't have been compelled to write a post about it.

This person's way of working through life events is by an outpouring of emotion, don't be so quick to label and demonize it because they deal with their emotions differently than others.

Re: Crying

#37

Post by [deleted] » Fri, May 27, 2016, 5:52 PM UTC

unimpressive wrote: post #26

Xcelerate wrote: post #23

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Why the downvotes? Did you all read the entirety of my post? As someone who almost never receives downvotes on HN, this is frustrating. Please provide constructive criticism rather than leaving me in the dark.

Because people who try to diagnose other people with disorders out of the DSM over the Internet after a brief interaction with their life are generally considered to be in a state of arrogance.

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Re: Crying

#38

Post by [deleted] » Fri, May 27, 2016, 5:53 PM UTC

Xcelerate wrote: post #23

Xcelerate wrote: post #21

Edit: I have retracted this post; it came across in a way that I did not intend it to. Thank you to those of you who explained the response I received.

Why the downvotes? Did you all read the entirety of my post? As someone who almost never receives downvotes on HN, this is frustrating. Please provide constructive criticism rather than leaving me in the dark.

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Re: Crying

#39

Post by ohitsdom » Fri, May 27, 2016, 5:58 PM UTC

martgnz wrote: post #15

ohitsdom wrote: post #10

Earlier quoted context omitted.

That helps a lot, thanks! I've mostly used Highcharts but now am going to have to dive into d3 to play around with some of this...

It seems this was made with Google Charts. https://developers.google.com/chart/interactive/docs/gallery...

Hmm, I checked the source when originally reading it and thought I saw a d3 link but you are correct. Thanks for clarifying.

Re: Crying

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Post by howlingfantods » Fri, May 27, 2016, 6:00 PM UTC

michael_h wrote: post #19

donatj wrote: post #13

I am a big burly guy with a beard - and I get overwhelmed and cry regularly. Not even from sadness, just from general emotion. For example last night I watched the trailer for Overwatch[1] and got so excited I started tearing up. I don't know why, anything that triggers ANY sort of strong emotion in me brings it on. Always has. My wife makes fun of me for it. I don't see anything wrong with it. [1] https://www.youtub…

I get a little choked up when I see paintings of horses. I have no other connection to horses. It's very quick and generally jumbled with thoughts of "Uhhhhh, what in the world is happening right now?"

Out of curiosity, have you ever checked out the paintings of Xu Beihong? He's famous for painting very expressive horses.

https://cn.bing.com/images/search?q=%e5%be%90%e6%82%b2%e9%b8...