"The legal verdict on whether sex is non consensual still often rests on the perspective of the alleged perpetrator rather than the experience of the victim." I'm not sure I entirely understand this quote to its fullest. It is being argued that it is the experience of the victim that matters if sex is consensual. Isn't this quote logically wrong? Consensual by definitions means both parties agreed. But is the author…
(Well, sort of. Technically it's the perspective of "reasonable person" in the alleged perpetrator's position, which is a well-defined legal fiction. As Wikipedia notes correctly but unhelpfully, "the 'reasonable person' is not an average person or a typical person".)
The author is correct: Rape cases, by their nature, do tend to revolve around discussions of what the accused reasonably believed about the other parties consent. The mistake is in suggesting that there's anything we could (or should) do to change it.