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I’ve Had a Cyberstalker Since I Was 12

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Re: I’ve Had a Cyberstalker Since I Was 12

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post #27

Honestly, this guy needs to be thrown away in a cell and forgotten about. He clearly is not willing to stop on his own, and, quite frankly, I can't see him stopping for anything other than being locked away.

He may very well be mentally ill. This sounds like something a trump supporter might say

You were doing so well.

Re: I’ve Had a Cyberstalker Since I Was 12

#52

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> the societal pressure placed on women to be accommodating and not be rude and how this can be manipulated to constrain female agency in the world Without commenting on whether this is a fair assessment, I will observe that in order to make this case for this to be true, more evidence than a single (fictional) anecdote would be necessary, and one would also want to accurately assess whether non-women are also expect…

Strong username for this reply. If you don't think women are socialized to be accommodating you have your head in the sand. Look at profession choices, look at the plethora of anecdotal stories, and look at how parents interact with their daughters.

> look at the plethora of anecdotal stories

Early frontrunner, Least Persuasive Rhetoric of the Year

Re: I’ve Had a Cyberstalker Since I Was 12

#53

While this must have no doubt been a horrid experience, I can see why the cops would not have considered it worthy of launching a criminal investigation. This is a perfect case for civil law: causing emotional distress, harassment, defamation, etc. You should attempt to sue him and get a no-contact order if you can.

Even though having a visit from the cops would probably cause this guy to be scared into no longer doing this?

Re: I’ve Had a Cyberstalker Since I Was 12

#54
post #23

"When I got a Facebook account in 2006 he found me again and, not wanting to be rude, I accepted his friend request." It's hard to understand why, having previously already blocked this person elsewhere, they would accept a friend request from them. I suppose now, 10 years later, one can hope that people exact greater control over their online social networks.

I really hate it when people act this way, now I feel the obligation to try and read their mind and figure out if what I'm doing is upsetting them or not.

The responsibility to be socially aware is your own. The responsibility to not put people in awkward situations is your own. One of the many reasons not to flirt with people in service jobs.

Re: I’ve Had a Cyberstalker Since I Was 12

#55

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Strong username for this reply. If you don't think women are socialized to be accommodating you have your head in the sand. Look at profession choices, look at the plethora of anecdotal stories, and look at how parents interact with their daughters.

> look at the plethora of anecdotal stories Early frontrunner, Least Persuasive Rhetoric of the Year

When you ignore that nearly the entirety of the experiences that people share you're probably filtering out signal. But knowing HN some people won't be satisfied until we do a double blind study over the entirety of someone's life until they're an adult. Ooh and don't forget n must be ge 1000

Re: I’ve Had a Cyberstalker Since I Was 12

#56
post #32
post #27

Honestly, this guy needs to be thrown away in a cell and forgotten about. He clearly is not willing to stop on his own, and, quite frankly, I can't see him stopping for anything other than being locked away.

That's a pretty disturbing concept of justice

Why? This guy has, time and again, harassed this person after being asked to stop. He has shown that he does not care to follow the rules of civilized society.

Re: I’ve Had a Cyberstalker Since I Was 12

#57
post #27

Honestly, this guy needs to be thrown away in a cell and forgotten about. He clearly is not willing to stop on his own, and, quite frankly, I can't see him stopping for anything other than being locked away.

He may very well be mentally ill. This sounds like something a trump supporter might say

1. I am not a Trump supporter.

2. If he is mentally ill, then throw him in a cell with access to mental health treatment.

Re: I’ve Had a Cyberstalker Since I Was 12

#60
post #56
post #32

Earlier quoted context omitted.

That's a pretty disturbing concept of justice

Why? This guy has, time and again, harassed this person after being asked to stop. He has shown that he does not care to follow the rules of civilized society.

So there's no hope for his rehabilitation? I hardly think so. You also seem to believe that prisons exist merely to punish rather than deter and/or rehabilitate - which, incidentally, reveals the most cursory of understandings of the penal system.
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