She’ll Text Me, She’ll Text Me Not
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She’ll Text Me, She’ll Text Me Not
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#2Waiting for a particular person's attention is like overeating: it made sense in hunter-gatherer tribes, but it's not the best idea in modern cities.
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#3> One area where there was a lot of debate was the amount of time one should wait to text back. Several people subscribed to the notion of doubling the response time. (They write back in five minutes, you wait 10, etc.) This way you achieve the upper hand and constantly seem busier and less available than your counterpart. Others thought waiting just a few minutes was enough to prove you had something important in your life besides your phone. Some thought you should double, but occasionally throw in a quick response to not seem so regimented (nothing too long, though!). Some people swore by waiting 1.25 times longer. Others argued they found three minutes to be just right. There were also those who were so fed up with the games that they thought receiving timely responses free of games was refreshing and showed confidence.
Until that last sentence, I had to wonder what's wrong with people. Who enjoys these games? If I'm available, read your message and have time to answer, you'll receive an answer immediately. Pretending to be busy, upper hands - I get the idea, yet I really don't think it's preferable to being yourself.
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#4any book,blog recommendations for this sort of content ? social psychology , communication dynamics etc ? thanks
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#5If your attraction to someone is determined by whether they have a 1 minute or 10 minute response time, then maybe you should reexamine your priorities.
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#61) for me one of the merits of text communication is that it's asynchronous: there is a space to delay message processing for as long as recipient needs. Setting yourself to expect immediate response under such circumstances is bound to cause frustration.
2) intentionally delaying the response just for the sake of making yourself more desirable sounds very manipulative to me, and I'd be very inclined to stop pursuing emotional connection with person who does this.
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#7> One area where there was a lot of debate was the amount of time one should wait to text back. Several people subscribed to the notion of doubling the response time. (They write back in five minutes, you wait 10, etc.) This way you achieve the upper hand and constantly seem busier and less available than your counterpart. Others thought waiting just a few minutes was enough to prove you had something important in yo…
Also, doubling response time every time is essentially exponential backoff, a strategy I mainly use when trying to let an uncomfortable discussion die gracefully.
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#8My strategy when I meet a girl I like is to exchange numbers, but have no intention of contacting them. The girl always has to contact the guy first. It's just how it works.
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#9If your attraction to someone is determined by whether they have a 1 minute or 10 minute response time, then maybe you should reexamine your priorities.
You're assuming that attraction is rational and a matter of choice. Think about it. Isn't the world is wonderful because it isn't?
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#10The best time to search for funding is when you don't need it.
The best time to search for a job is when you don't need it.
The best time to search for a partner is when you don't need it.
I got my current girlfriends after two years of being single and realizing that being single is okay.