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Maybe they have a reputation system in which I've gained a good standing and you haven't. Have you considered that your attempts to game their system have actually been regarded as abuse?
All major email providers do similar things because this is exactly the setup you'd have if you were a spam operation. Email is just something that you shouldn't try and do yourself on a small scale.
For comparison: the sidelining of XMPP by corporate interests was awfully disappointing; the centralisation of social networking feeds is downright heartbreaking. But none of that should put us off trying and trying again. Everyone with an interest in how the Internet protocol stack works in context should try running their own mail service, it's a fantastic and low-cost way to gain insight.