I have been depressed a significant fraction of my adult life. I am also a biologist who abhors the medical description of this problem. I don't even like the word 'mental illness'. This shit is not an illness, its a normal response to a fucked up life! Can I get at least some acknowledgment of this fact? The sine qua non for me was an issue of Nature a few years back that focused on depression, talked about how prev…
I am close to somebody who has been strongly affected by depression. She has, in any material respect, a perfect life. She has food, clothes, a supportive family, a great job, plenty of money, etc. There is nothing "wrong" with her life. But she suffers off-and-on depression. Not just "I feel bad" depression. Crippling, "can't get out of bed" depression. Periodic suicidal ideation. Occasional suicide attempts. She kn…
I dated for 5 years a woman in the same situation as what you describe. She has money, friends, family, a roof over her head. She hasn't suffered childhood trauma or anything abnormal, but she's consistently depressed and lethargic.
I'm bipolar myself. I've been through some difficult things, but my condition makes me acutely aware of how subjective human emotions are. How much of our thinking is influenced my neurochemistry rather than rational thoughts or memories. I'm pretty stable these days, but I've had times where I would just wake up in the morning and feel happy to be alive. Energized, stress-free, and confident in my abilities. The next day, I wake up depressed and I feel like my life is shit, not worth living. A few days later I feel fine again. No major life events, no major causes of stress, just my neurochemistry being unpredictable.
I think that the overinsistence in some circles on past trauma causing mental illness is harmful. There is definitely such a thing as genetic predispositions. Some depression and mental illness just does not have a cause you can point to. It's not all about overcoming negative experiences and willing yourself out of it. Genetic defects can cause all sorts of physical problems, just think of psoriasis, asthma, acne and peanut allergies. I'm not sure why people think that the brain can't have such issues. Believe me, people with peanut allergies won't overcome that through psychotherapy and confronting their mommy issues.