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Re: Ask HN: Novelty addiction is ruining my life and career. What should I do?

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> I realised that the only thing that motivates me in software engineering is learning new things and trying new fancy toys, not building something working and useful I used to feel this way as well, but at some point things changed for me and I began to care deeply about the impact of a technology far more than what components it was assembled with. The obsessive, myopic phase is good for awhile because it gives you…

Looks interesting. Impact matters, of course. The problem is that there are not many impactful tech companies headquartered in Switzerland, where I live (except maybe in finance, but they are just big, not doing new things), and not many big companies accept remote developers, but it's worth looking for opportunities.

Not sure where in Switzerland you are, but Google has a pretty big engineering office in Zurich. :-)

But yes, good point. This may not apply in your case. I wish you luck...the search for motivation and purpose is fundamental to identity.

Re: Ask HN: Novelty addiction is ruining my life and career. What should I do?

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> The problem is if the aptitudes don't get used they agitate. Deeply. I really wish your response was higher up just for this line. It really hit home for me in helping me understand more about myself. Thanks for the response.

You're welcome, hanniabu. Glad you found it useful. Lately, I've been learning how helpful it is for all of us when we can share our experiences. I sense there's a lot of underutilized or unrecognized talent in the world. The potential for positive change is enormous if we could unleash it all!

Yeah this thread as a whole was great and seems there were more than a few out there that were having the same problem, and that's not including people that didn't comment. It's threads like this that makes HN a great community, where somebody can come in desperation and ask a serious question like this and be met with sympathetic and helpful responses.

Re: Ask HN: Novelty addiction is ruining my life and career. What should I do?

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Interesting. My answer is an emphatic yes to all of those questions. In the back of my mind I've always suspected that I would be diagnosed with ADHD, but never talked to anyone about it. In the end I just chalked it up to being a different kind of person and catered my life around my behaviors instead of trying to force my behaviors into some ideal notion. Looking back at the age of 40, my life has been much richer…

I've come to appreciate my ADHD, as well. I realized that it was the spark in my personality everyone seemed to always recognize but never be able to put their finger on. My intensity, my creativity, my wit (I don't mean to brag here, I'm no world-class comedian..), etc. are all part of a charm that I believe directly come from my impulsive, no-filtered ADHD brain. It has also caused me to be less risk adverse and ta…

Adverse: preventing success or development; harmful; unfavorable. Averse: having a strong dislike of or opposition to something.

So, I'd say you are less "risk averse". (Trying to be helpful, not a grammar nazi... I hope)

Re: Ask HN: Novelty addiction is ruining my life and career. What should I do?

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You say you write good code in a number of languages but honestly I highly doubt it. If you really haven't stuck it out on any project for the long haul how could you possibly know that your code is any good? In my opinion one of the most important features of good code is long term maintainability.

My Scala code: https://github.com/atemerev/FXCore/blob/master/src/main/scal... My Java code: https://github.com/atemerev/pms/blob/master/src/main/java/co... (saved me probably man-years in my consulting projects). Code samples for Javascript, Matlab, Haskell and Go available on demand. :)

I think you missed my point entirely. Code looking pretty, being nicely formatted, and having comments is certainly part of but not nearly the whole picture in what makes good quality code that is easily maintainable through the ages. If you've never really stuck it out long term on a project, you have never felt the pleasure or pain of your previous work.

Re: Ask HN: Novelty addiction is ruining my life and career. What should I do?

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My Scala code: https://github.com/atemerev/FXCore/blob/master/src/main/scal... My Java code: https://github.com/atemerev/pms/blob/master/src/main/java/co... (saved me probably man-years in my consulting projects). Code samples for Javascript, Matlab, Haskell and Go available on demand. :)

I think you missed my point entirely. Code looking pretty, being nicely formatted, and having comments is certainly part of but not nearly the whole picture in what makes good quality code that is easily maintainable through the ages. If you've never really stuck it out long term on a project, you have never felt the pleasure or pain of your previous work.

This particular code serves me well (in my consulting efforts) since 2008 and 2011. As for maintainability, I still clearly understand it and it can be immediately used everywhere.

If, by maintainability, you mean "looking at the mess I did some years ago in some large project and see how it turned out", then yes, I avoided such projects and large teams. Most of my code was written either by me alone or as a part of 2-3 persons team.

Re: Ask HN: Novelty addiction is ruining my life and career. What should I do?

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I've come to appreciate my ADHD, as well. I realized that it was the spark in my personality everyone seemed to always recognize but never be able to put their finger on. My intensity, my creativity, my wit (I don't mean to brag here, I'm no world-class comedian..), etc. are all part of a charm that I believe directly come from my impulsive, no-filtered ADHD brain. It has also caused me to be less risk adverse and ta…

Adverse: preventing success or development; harmful; unfavorable. Averse: having a strong dislike of or opposition to something. So, I'd say you are less "risk averse". (Trying to be helpful, not a grammar nazi... I hope)

I.. did say less risk-adverse. Did I miss something?

Re: Ask HN: Novelty addiction is ruining my life and career. What should I do?

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Don't give up. Find ways to use your superpowers, because you have: ADHD superpowers that I'm aware of includes hyperfocus, immunity to exam stress, being one of those: "when the going gets though, the tough gets going" etc. While it is a real enough problem it has some remarkable upsides as well. You have to live with the downsides even though you can make them less visble and annoying, but also be aware of your sup…

This is interesting. I feel I am verging towards that end of the sectrum (I assume its a spectrum). I never though if it as a disability, just stuff I am good at / bad at. If that is the case why does it have such a negative stigma attached and is treated as a problem (like I say I am verging that way, but I don't see myself as ADHD, so maybe my perspective on it is off). Many people proudly proclaim they are "not go…

It's not really a spectrum but a collection of symptoms whereby if one exhibits many or the majority of them in enough frequency, intensity, and duration as to negatively impact their life, one can say to be ADHD.

There are different subtypes (not sure if they are in the DSM but they are often referred to in other literature), e.g. hyperactive vs non-hyperactive. Sometimes, though, the hyperactivity exhibits itself in ways that are non-obvious.

I think the negative stigma comes from what many (myself, included) believe to be an over-diagnosis in young children. It seems to be used as a catch-all for children who are difficult to handle, who aren't good at sitting still in class, etc. This over-diagnosis causes a lot of people to think the disorder isn't real.

Secondly, a lot of people will try to fake their way into an ADHD diagnosis (especially at the college-level) to gain access to the amphetamines. This makes it difficult for those with the actual disorder, as we are scrutinized heavily and often made to feel somewhat criminal when we pick up our prescriptions at pharmacies that have had issues with this in the past. I won't say it's overly common, but it does happen. I've been told they were out of stock before because I tried dropping off a prescription at 3am once. I had it in my wallet and had meant to drop it off on my way out with friends. On my way home, the subway stop I get off at (I live in NYC) is where my 24/7 pharmacy is. I didn't think anything of it, I'm just dropping it off to save myself a trip in the morning.. well, the pharmacist looked at me.. 3am, clearly had a few drinks.. and he gave me the "we're out of stock" line. Magically it was re-stocked at 7am.

And lastly, there is a stigma in the US, in general, when it comes to mental illness. These aren't things people can see, for one. And, perhaps more importantly, our mental selves are what we view as our actual selves, so people can have a hard time admitting to themselves that they have something about their mind that is considered abnormal. Other people have a hard time accepting it because they simply can't relate - how do you explain to someone what it's like to be ADHD?

You might tell them that you forget things a lot, feel impulsive, etc. and they simply say "Yeah, everyone is like that though, you just need some discipline and will power dude." What they fail to recognize is that, yes, everyone does feel that way sometimes. Just like everyone feels anxious sometimes. What makes it a disorder is the frequency, intensity, and duration of the feeling(s). Many people just can't accept this, especially in the US it appears. Our attitude is "pick yourself up by the bootstraps" or "be a man" or "put yourself together - no one's gonna do it for you. I certainly didn't need medication!" and there's a lack of empathy because they simply can't understand.

Re: Ask HN: Novelty addiction is ruining my life and career. What should I do?

#199

I have found people like you really useful to know because you have had contact with such a broad range of techs that when I have a problem, I can quiz you and get some killer pointers for where to look next. I wouldn't want you to change, just to find your place in the world and satisfaction in being naturally you. Its like you have pockets full of keys and really good at finding new keys just no locks to use them w…

Yeah, I've got the opposite problem. I'm naturally conservative and dislike novel things because I figure they're a flash in the pan. I'm very cynical of new hype, and prefer tested technologies. My enormous blind spot is that I then miss legitimate trends, and I can completely fall behind in the industry. I also find myself not learning new tricks and techniques that would improve my workflow, and have to take time…

You nailed it with Infiniband by 10 years.
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