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Study: Staying off Facebook can make you happier

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Re: Study: Staying off Facebook can make you happier

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kristiandupont wrote: post #117
untog wrote: post #25

Agh, this thread is just full of people boasting about their immunity to interest in Facebook. Congratulations, you're fantastic, oh that we could all be as enlightened as you. Personally, I find that Facebook has become my address book - while I still text people I see every day, Messenger group chats are often used instead. Plus the voice and video calls have been a great way to keep up with people further afield.…

>oh that we could all be as enlightened as you Completely agree. Not being on facebook is the new "I don't even own a tv". http://www.theonion.com/article/area-man-constantly-mentioni... As for using facebook in a sane manner, I was struggling because I rely on messages and event invites so I didn't want to block it completely (and messenger.com and app is not enough for me). But this plugin basically saved me: https…

Anything for Firefox?

Re: Study: Staying off Facebook can make you happier

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Post by icebraining »

unclebucknasty wrote: post #19
brickmort wrote: post #2

I deleted my Facebook account after realizing that every time I would go on it, the clickbait and mindless minutia would irritate me more than entertain me. between the advertisements, there would be 'you'll never guess what happens next!' posts, then political propaganda, then children/marriage updates on people I hadn't interacted with in years. At a certain point, I realized that it wasn't even fun to me anymore,…

Call them, shoot them an email, or pay them a visit. Not only can you stay in touch, it will also likely be a more satisfying interaction than browsing a feed.

Lots of us live far away from our extended families, and phone calls don't really replace seeing pictures of your nephews. Email might, but in my experience since FB came around, people aren't all that interested in regularly sending emails just for you - I'm told that I should just join FB like everyone else.

Re: Study: Staying off Facebook can make you happier

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Post by unclebucknasty »

icebraining wrote: post #142
unclebucknasty wrote: post #19

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Call them, shoot them an email, or pay them a visit. Not only can you stay in touch, it will also likely be a more satisfying interaction than browsing a feed.

Lots of us live far away from our extended families, and phone calls don't really replace seeing pictures of your nephews. Email might, but in my experience since FB came around, people aren't all that interested in regularly sending emails just for you - I'm told that I should just join FB like everyone else.

That is partly my point: I don't tend to think of replacing one-on-one interaction with a "broadcast" pub/sub model as being more conducive to building and maintaining intimate, fulfilling relationships.

Re: Study: Staying off Facebook can make you happier

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Post by icebraining »

unclebucknasty wrote: post #143
icebraining wrote: post #142

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Lots of us live far away from our extended families, and phone calls don't really replace seeing pictures of your nephews. Email might, but in my experience since FB came around, people aren't all that interested in regularly sending emails just for you - I'm told that I should just join FB like everyone else.

That is partly my point: I don't tend to think of replacing one-on-one interaction with a "broadcast" pub/sub model as being more conducive to building and maintaining intimate, fulfilling relationships.

I think you're painting a false dichotomy, though. Using Facebook as a way to keep track of your family's pictures stream doesn't prevent you from interacting with them one-on-one - in fact, it might enhance it!

Re: Study: Staying off Facebook can make you happier

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Post by unclebucknasty »

icebraining wrote: post #144
unclebucknasty wrote: post #143

Earlier quoted context omitted.

That is partly my point: I don't tend to think of replacing one-on-one interaction with a "broadcast" pub/sub model as being more conducive to building and maintaining intimate, fulfilling relationships.

I think you're painting a false dichotomy, though. Using Facebook as a way to keep track of your family's pictures stream doesn't prevent you from interacting with them one-on-one - in fact, it might enhance it!

It's definitely possible, and I'd guess it does enhance for some. But, I don't believe it's generally the case, as it's not a format that encourages it.

Instead, I believe it discourages more focused one-on-one relationship-building in favor of a bi-directional consumption model. People don't interact as much as publish and consume. Knowing what people are doing is not a real substitute for intimacy, but I think the dependence on FB as the medium tends to relegate people to the former (i.e. just keeping up).

In any case, I was responding specifically to an ancestor who stated that he/she was having trouble keeping in touch outside of FB. That makes my point: people tend to be so reliant on FB to manage their relationships, that those relationships evaporate sans FB to the point that people don't even communicate! But, of course, while on FB, people don't generally have meaningful, in-depth conversations.

That pretty much says it all, as it doesn't leave much space for real relationships. Not saying this is absolute, but that it is a net negative.

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