The big reason why Facebook depresses me is extreme narcissism.
It's created a world of self important people.
Study: Staying off Facebook can make you happier
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Re: Study: Staying off Facebook can make you happier
#82Agh, this thread is just full of people boasting about their immunity to interest in Facebook. Congratulations, you're fantastic, oh that we could all be as enlightened as you. Personally, I find that Facebook has become my address book - while I still text people I see every day, Messenger group chats are often used instead. Plus the voice and video calls have been a great way to keep up with people further afield.…
I mean, how much better are we really, sitting on HN?
Maybe a bit. We procrastinate and are motivated by karma here, but I don't feel like HN is an engine finely tuned to keep us addicted and returning. I don't get notifications on replies or when there are new stories. In fact, there are specific settings to help people take breaks from HN.
Re: Study: Staying off Facebook can make you happier
#83Value of Facebook to me has eroded over last 2 years or so primarily because of messengers such as whatsapp and privacy concerns.
I use linkedin to stay in touch with colleges, WhatsApp to stay in touch with close friends and family, share pictures etc. and I ignore most other people in my life.
Facebook remain the source of news and interesting links that people share but I am pretty sure someone will fill that need better than facebook sooner or later.
P.S. I use Facebook extensively to run ad campaigns for my apps. But I am not counting that as use.
Re: Study: Staying off Facebook can make you happier
#84Agh, this thread is just full of people boasting about their immunity to interest in Facebook. Congratulations, you're fantastic, oh that we could all be as enlightened as you. Personally, I find that Facebook has become my address book - while I still text people I see every day, Messenger group chats are often used instead. Plus the voice and video calls have been a great way to keep up with people further afield.…
> you're browsing through a catalogue of amazing experiences while you sit at home feeling a little fat. No, I think it's more than that. I have no evidence for this, but I suspect that spending excessive time on the internet will make you feel more isolated (and therefore worse overall), regardless of whether you spend that time on social sites or not. It's the withdrawal from genuine face-to-face contact that is im…
There's research showing that doing video conferencing with half body(to capture body language) and with custom tech that enables eye contact can increase trust. I wonder though why we arent advancing there, at the very least across the enterprise.
Re: Study: Staying off Facebook can make you happier
#85Also, based on the research as noted in the "Rational Optimist" one of the keys to remain happy is to simply withdraw from competition and set your own goals for happiness.
Example given is of a Doctor who always dreamed of becoming an amazing doctor healing people and succeeded but one day happened to attend a conference where many of his past batchmates were also present who were making insane amount of money by working for insurance companies. This doctor now felt unhappy and jumped the same bandwagon making even more money that before but the cost of happiness. While the example is anecdotal, the research does show that competition for social status makes people unhappy.
There is nothing wrong about Facebook and our need to use it but the fact that it might make us unhappy might be true.
Re: Study: Staying off Facebook can make you happier
#86Earlier quoted context omitted.
I mean, how much better are we really, sitting on HN?
Maybe a bit. We procrastinate and are motivated by karma here, but I don't feel like HN is an engine finely tuned to keep us addicted and returning. I don't get notifications on replies or when there are new stories. In fact, there are specific settings to help people take breaks from HN.
It doesn't need to be finely tuned, for some of us :(
Re: Study: Staying off Facebook can make you happier
#87Agh, this thread is just full of people boasting about their immunity to interest in Facebook. Congratulations, you're fantastic, oh that we could all be as enlightened as you. Personally, I find that Facebook has become my address book - while I still text people I see every day, Messenger group chats are often used instead. Plus the voice and video calls have been a great way to keep up with people further afield.…
http://messenger.com/ The best thing Facebook ever did was separate the useful messenger from the terrible main site.
It's started to lag and be very clunk for me recently (though maybe I just need to close some tabs). It used to be incredibly more responsive than facebook.com
Re: Study: Staying off Facebook can make you happier
#88Agh, this thread is just full of people boasting about their immunity to interest in Facebook. Congratulations, you're fantastic, oh that we could all be as enlightened as you. Personally, I find that Facebook has become my address book - while I still text people I see every day, Messenger group chats are often used instead. Plus the voice and video calls have been a great way to keep up with people further afield.…
It's become a circlejerk:
10 years ago having a FB account was cool. Once everyone was on FB then saying you'd deleted your account and gone off the grid was cool and all the people still using it were sheep. Now it's cool to say you're still using it and that everyone who deleted their account is a jerk for mentioning it.
We're just going around in circles.
It's a useful tool, a time pit for others but being critical of someone because they do/don't use it is pretty weak.
Re: Study: Staying off Facebook can make you happier
#89Agh, this thread is just full of people boasting about their immunity to interest in Facebook. Congratulations, you're fantastic, oh that we could all be as enlightened as you. Personally, I find that Facebook has become my address book - while I still text people I see every day, Messenger group chats are often used instead. Plus the voice and video calls have been a great way to keep up with people further afield.…
As a tangent, I've found that phone + email are the truly general options across what is anecdotally to me the Balkan social networks. I've also come to realize that everyone views their social network as obvious, and everyone also loathes to download anyone else's social network app. But email + phone is international, nobody feels like you burdened them by asking them to get a Google account, and nowadays email and…
Yep, if i want contact with people I will sms, call or email. I keep a small email list of close friends and we communicate better through this channel than any other and it's not platform dependent. All the people who don't engage through these more traditional methods I probably wasn't going to have any meaningful contact with anyway so nothing is really lost by moving away from a dedicated social platform.
Re: Study: Staying off Facebook can make you happier
#90But how fraction of the (happier) non-users have returned to Facebook?