I really liked this — but how to cultivate a quiet ego?
An Introduction to Zen Buddhism by D. T. Suzuk http://amzn.com/8087888766
The Benefits of a Quiet Ego
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#12Started reading, got stupid interstitial popup, left. Has anyone built a blocker for this new breed of pop-up? See also: http://tabcloseddidntread.com/
Mindfulness might help as well.
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#13I really liked this — but how to cultivate a quiet ego?
An Introduction to Zen Buddhism by D. T. Suzuk http://amzn.com/8087888766
i have zen mind beginners mind on my phone, read through it time to time, its a good book.
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#14I've come to see ego as just another evolutionary mechanism that can on occasion misfire due to the complexities of modern civilization. It's a mechanism (IMO) in gregarious species meant to maintain or enhance a member's status in the pack/tribe/group, since that status affords survival advantages.
But a lot of the times when ego is triggered today have nothing to do with survival advantages or success. Identifying this fact in itself is a first step to quieting down the ego. Identifying a feeling as not valid (just because a feeling is 'natural' doesn't automatically make it valid) can take away a lot of the justification to perpetuate it.
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#15I would pay for a social network/dating app/site for the introverted. I just do not know whether this is an oxymoron or not, but if someone figures this I would pay for it. Gladly.
An 'Anti-social network', so to speak. I too, have thought of this before. The main feature, I suppose, would be that interactions revolve around smaller groups.
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#16Earlier quoted context omitted.
What does meditation not help in these days
I'm not sure what you're driving at. Beyond relaxation, ego-issues are what meditation has always been about, in multiple traditions if not all.
Given the smugness of many meditation enthusiasts I would worry that meditation would only work to make my ego louder.
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#17I really liked this — but how to cultivate a quiet ego?
My 2cents: Dale Carnegie's "How to win friends and influence people" will always hold true. Additionally, many books on business relationships. One that comes to mind is, "What they don't teach you at Harvard Business School." Fake it til you make it is a viable self help strategy. But truthfully, I think the best thing to do is to surround yourself with people who represent the values you want to imitate.
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#18Interesting. I want to make a point that questions the premise of the article. What is wrong if people dont have a quiet ego? What is wrong with the fact that humility is mentioned 43% less. Why is that automatically bad( I am not saying it is good either)? Values of a society change over period of time, many things that were acceptable behavior in the 1900s are not acceptable anymore. In the early 1900s black people were disenfranchised, there were no laws to protect same sex partners. I am sure many of you will agree that you dont miss those laws.
Again why do we want to demonize or characterize not having a quiet ego as less superior to having a quiet ego. I do think that if the non-quiet ego is bombastic and misleads people by stating not true statements, that can be a problem.
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#19Interesting. I want to make a point that questions the premise of the article. What is wrong if people dont have a quiet ego? What is wrong with the fact that humility is mentioned 43% less. Why is that automatically bad( I am not saying it is good either)? Values of a society change over period of time, many things that were acceptable behavior in the 1900s are not acceptable anymore. In the early 1900s black people…
Let's be honest. The things the article is talking about are largely a reflection of people's demands. The type of people who are looking for self help are clearly not looking for lessons in humility. There is a type of person who would experience problems in their life from not having enough humility. Maybe the number of these people who experience enough personal problems to seek self help has gone down. Perhaps this means that our society has actually become more humble, since there isn't a demand for the value anymore. Or maybe it means that people without humility simply don't experience as many problems anymore? Or maybe a lack of humility would prevent you from seeking self help in the first place. You see these statistics could go many ways depending on how you want to interpret them.
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#20I would pay for a social network/dating app/site for the introverted. I just do not know whether this is an oxymoron or not, but if someone figures this I would pay for it. Gladly.
An 'Anti-social network', so to speak. I too, have thought of this before. The main feature, I suppose, would be that interactions revolve around smaller groups.
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