> Which is to say that it’s clear whatever condition the strident, proud autistics have, it’s not quite the same condition as one that leaves you epileptic, mute, and generally unable to care for yourself. I can understand the anger here, but please understand that the problem goes both ways. Some high-functioning autistics don't seem to get that the condition can be absolutely crippling, but their belligerence stems…
Yes. Also many people with ASD recognise that they're on one end of a spectrum, and while they focus on that end they recognise the abuse and maltreatment (from crooks and scammers; from abusive carers; from abusive staff; etc) and they campaign to fix those problems. (At least this is true in the UK.)
I feel the need to clarify something. In most ways, my wife is amazing. Very strong willed, clever, independent. She is the only partner I could work with as an equal. As we've worked things through for our child, she's benefitted in many ways too. Not surprisingly, my child's behaviour is like my father in law.