So $44600 is considered a low wage? I'm earning 3 times less than that and I have 5 years of experience and graduated from the top university in my country. I'd work for half of this salary if somebody offers me relocation!
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#242Earlier quoted context omitted.
Remote diagnosis of people is not advisable. It's good to be aware of these facts, sure. Reading a one sided three paragraph description is not sufficient evidence.
One central reason for why psychopaths are having such a great time in the world is that we keep giving them the benefit of the doubt. In general, it's good to be "rigorous", but in this case, it's not.
I'm not comfortable in general about the idea of labeling people based on their neurological makeup, unless one is in a therapeutic/psychiatric setting.
In a relationship or work setting, people should be mainly judged by their actions. Hurtful things should not be ignored and people should be made responsible for their actions. I agree it's good to be aware of typical pathological personality types so people who end up in relationships with them have some framework to work with their problems and even identify a bad case and leave.
Sure, taking advantage of people is a thing that comes easily to psychopaths. But there are lots of other personality disorders and ways to act like one.
Was the CEO actually lying or just trying to squirm out of an emotionally uncomfortable position for as long as possible? The situation sucks for the OP and there are absolutely horrible employers, even psychopaths out there - but really, there's not enough data to make those claims even if you are an experienced therapist or a psychiatrist.
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#243Earlier quoted context omitted.
Made a throwaway account just to post this. I'm a well-respected professional (in a different, though connected field) with many years of experience and I earn a hair over what the blog poster earns. I just can't be sympathetic with the desperate tone -- yes, I get it, other devs earn more money, and a Ruby pro can probably get upwards of 70 or 80k. But making it sound like you're on the brink of poverty with 40k? Yo…
>But making it sound like you're on the brink of poverty with 40k? He's living in a trailer with a wife and 4 kids, one of whom's severely autistic. At $44,600, his family is at 137% of the federal poverty level.
Why the hell did he make four kids though? It's not necessarily a well thought-out action is it?
He should have not had any kids until he was stable enough, let alone four. With his previous job at a factory too?
Not. Smart.
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#244Earlier quoted context omitted.
> If I were in his position I would have made sure that their name are public and known to prevent others from being exploited. I respect and agree with your points, but do not agree 100% with this advice. Exploiters are the default. (Just the higher up you go, the nicer face they show you. Because you can hurt them more.) I only agree with this advice if you can do it without suffering serious blowback. I try to car…
That's a valid temporary workaround to an institutional problem. And of course, someone with family in a dire situation needs just that, not to be a martyr for whatever is "right". But generally speaking, I wonder what solutions rather than workarounds would be, or at least small steps towards them. In the end, I see no reason to believe that exploitation doesn't just waste a whole lot of resources and time, while al…
Oh yeah 100% agree with you!
I think the solution is "activism" but most people don't actually know what it means. (We associate it with screaming people or individual actions.) It's just about solidarity: teamwork. People learn how to act in teams under a boss. But not the arts of self-organizing, consensus [1], how to treat your teammates with respect [2], sharing knowledge/confidence to both lead & follow, etc.
[1] Starhawk writes good books on consensus meetings.
[2] Respect's often ridiculed as "political correctness": not using slurs; remembering that not everyone can afford a nice laptop; certain things can suddenly trigger painful memories and therefore create obstacles to lucid decisionmaking; etc.
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#245Time to get your game face on. I'm a CEO, we're hiring but not in your skill area. Having interviewed a lot of candidates lately and looked at many more, I wanted to give you my 2c on getting into extremely hirable shape fast: Update your LinkedIn profile as someone has mentioned already. Sweeten it up, get a great looking but professional profile pic up there, get kudos from friends, etc. Do the online profile clean…
I guess beggers can't be choosers, but you're describing an employer I would never work for. > Remove any controversial political views or disparaging remarks about previous employers. If a person keeps their stupid political views to themselves while at work, it's really not any of their employers business. As far as disparaging remarks go, if it's an awesome company to work for, there shouldn't be anything to worry…
Yeah, the fact that political views are an issue for this CEO is a sign that I'd never want to work with this CEO.
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#246Earlier quoted context omitted.
>But making it sound like you're on the brink of poverty with 40k? He's living in a trailer with a wife and 4 kids, one of whom's severely autistic. At $44,600, his family is at 137% of the federal poverty level.
Why the hell did he make four kids though? It's not necessarily a well thought-out action is it? He should have not had any kids until he was stable enough, let alone four. With his previous job at a factory too? Not. Smart.
I'm sick of everyone shaming the guy for having 4 kids. It's not like he can reverse time and stop them from being born. So saying he can't afford kids only serves the purpose of making the guy feel bad. Besides, you don't know enough about his situation to criticize his decision to have children.
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#247You don't have what it takes to be a software developer. Please, do yourself and everyone else a favor and stop trying to be one. Why? Pick one. It's like the other poster here said: you're doing it all wrong. If you ARE a programming fool (like me for example) go out and find a new gig. Move it! Move it! That's what I tell myself. Then I get my act together and make it happen.
"go out and find a new gig. "
Isn't that exactly what he's trying to do?
"If you ARE a programming fool (like me for example)"
You must have a huge penis.
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#248I'd suggest the following, active twitter account completed Linkedin profile active github account active website (Github Pages allows free static hosting) For a remote job search, sign up for a free RSS site (I recommend https://newsblur.com/ ) and add some remote-only feeds, https://goremote.io/rss https://jobs.github.com/positions.atom https://careers.stackoverflow.com/jobs/feed?allowsremote=True Other good remote…
ecliptik, great list todos and remote hiring sites. Thanks for this.
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#249Well, that sucks for you, and you're stupid for putting emotional baggage online. Its not you boss' fault that you felt entitled for double pay, that you didn't communicate properly, or that you have 4 kids, these are things you just have to deal with now and learn from. Yes your boss was a dick, deal with it.
If you want a job fast use linkedin and recruiters to your advantage. There's loads of recruiting companies that are waiting for people like you. Getting a job with some IT skills is very easy, don't expect a well-paying job as a junior ruby tester though and make it clear to recruiters what you need.
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I guess beggers can't be choosers, but you're describing an employer I would never work for. > Remove any controversial political views or disparaging remarks about previous employers. If a person keeps their stupid political views to themselves while at work, it's really not any of their employers business. As far as disparaging remarks go, if it's an awesome company to work for, there shouldn't be anything to worry…
It's not so much "fake" as presenting one's best face in a professional context. Most of us present different faces in different contexts every day. I often pick my nose, scratch my ass, tell rude jokes, love wearing sweatpants, and don't have a problem with embarrassing-to-most sexual conversations. Do I engage in these things on a first date as I might on a day to day basis with friends? No.. I dress up a bit, smel…
Ah, but the problem is that everyone in the business world has already agreed what "your" "best face" should look like.
If you present a pretty good face that isn't the expected one, it won't work-- frequently they want the drone.