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Note the total lack of self-blame, or taking responsibility for one's own problems. Even the title, "No One to Rescue Me from My Drinking", puts the blame on someone, anyone, else.
That's the first thing that struck me too. Total abdication of personal responsibility, and her self-important, solipsistic attitude is found all throughout her writing.
weird that she just flat breaks AA tradition 11 "we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, and films.” The reason this is so important is that should this woman have a "slip" - which LOTS of alcoholics do - now the world, and needy alcoholics, have one more reason to dismiss AA. Try it before you judge it. AA finds u when u need it, not to be traded for a drunkalog to generate page view…
weird that she just flat breaks AA tradition 11 "we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, and films.” The reason this is so important is that should this woman have a "slip" - which LOTS of alcoholics do - now the world, and needy alcoholics, have one more reason to dismiss AA. Try it before you judge it. AA finds u when u need it, not to be traded for a drunkalog to generate page view…
> The reason this is so important is that should this woman have a "slip" - which LOTS of alcoholics do - now the world, and needy alcoholics, have one more reason to dismiss AA. > Try it before you judge it. An organization that tries to inflate its own public success rate, and then asks people to keep an open mind towards it rather than dismiss it. Ok.
Note the total lack of self-blame, or taking responsibility for one's own problems. Even the title, "No One to Rescue Me from My Drinking", puts the blame on someone, anyone, else.
But now, thinking about the story, I think maybe she meant it more as "No One [but me] to Rescue Me from My Drinking", because certainly she's taken control of her own life, and that's commendable.
Note the total lack of self-blame, or taking responsibility for one's own problems. Even the title, "No One to Rescue Me from My Drinking", puts the blame on someone, anyone, else.
That's the first thing that struck me too. Total abdication of personal responsibility, and her self-important, solipsistic attitude is found all throughout her writing.
weird that she just flat breaks AA tradition 11 "we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, and films.” The reason this is so important is that should this woman have a "slip" - which LOTS of alcoholics do - now the world, and needy alcoholics, have one more reason to dismiss AA. Try it before you judge it. AA finds u when u need it, not to be traded for a drunkalog to generate page view…
I have found that lots of aa members have a casual understanding of the traditions of aa. They attend meetings, and share about personal feelings but have little desire to learn and live by the traditions that were created out of hard lessons. The particular tradition you refer to (appropriately) is about protecting AA from the ego's of its members and protecting members from arrogance which everyone know 'precedes a…
I feel like nothing can _really_ protect you from members' arrogance if they were determined enough. The rule, in my mind, only creates a certain exclusiveness shrouded in secrecy, which as far dealing with alcoholism seems pretty pointless. If it really works then why not spread the word?
Note the total lack of self-blame, or taking responsibility for one's own problems. Even the title, "No One to Rescue Me from My Drinking", puts the blame on someone, anyone, else.
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> The reason this is so important is that should this woman have a "slip" - which LOTS of alcoholics do - now the world, and needy alcoholics, have one more reason to dismiss AA. > Try it before you judge it. An organization that tries to inflate its own public success rate, and then asks people to keep an open mind towards it rather than dismiss it. Ok.
I haven't dug up the stats in the while, but last I checked, their success rate was exactly the same as cold-turkey going it alone.
Participation in AA or other support groups (eg. SMART/Rational Recovery) is associated with substantially increased rates of continuous abstinence at the 1, 3 and 5 year marks after quitting, although there may be some self-selection bias going on there (participation rates being higher among the more motivated and so on).
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Except for when she checked herself in to AA, and then publicly wrote a piece calling herself a drunk, and admitting she'd let a disordered relationship to booze screw up her life for years. Jesus. Empathy is dead here.
And that "even if my ex had wanted to be the savior I was looking for, he couldn’t have rescued me from myself."
Note the total lack of self-blame, or taking responsibility for one's own problems. Even the title, "No One to Rescue Me from My Drinking", puts the blame on someone, anyone, else.
I could never be an alcoholic, alcohol does nothing for me except dulling the senses. But there were kids I knew, from the first drink of their lives, it made them a different, less stressed, happier person. It was like heroin (I imagine, never tried it). Point is, some people genetically have an alcohol problem. And this person is writing about it, exposing themself to potential criticism like this, and taking actio…
I think one of the common(if not primary) ways people become alcholics is when their senses keep delivering overwhelmingly negative signals and they want it to just stop.
When you feel that your life is awful in every way imaginable and you just don't want to feel anything anymore...