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I just lost my fifth job in six years

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Re: I just lost my fifth job in six years

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Having changed 5 jobs in last 1.5 yrs, I am finally feeling a bit better ! How? I started seeing a Consultant ! One exercise he did just changed my way I saw the world. I may or may not help you but it helped me. He listed all problems I have on the left hand side. Why I feel bad. Why I hate myself. Why I think I'm a failure etc etc. Then he wrote all good things I have. He forced me to think all good things around m…

That's a pretty good advice, I would suggest OP should take it. I have exact same problem and after doing a lot of thinking alone, (yes off time in nature somewhere peaceful helps), I figured most important thing to do is to latch on to the positive side of the things, you have to fight with yourself to think positive, It could be scary but you have to do it and believe, world is a pretty good place. And as PanJaro said, you are among 5%. What you really need is someone in your life who can tell you everyday that you are fine, there is nothing wrong with you and, what you are doing is perfectly good in terms of amount and size, there is no more requirement to do any more, just keep on truckin. What you have is already pretty Good.

One more thing that is exceptionally important is to stay away from a lot of click-bait stuff, this will always leave you sad or feeling you lack something, and negative people. Basically anything that can amplify feedback loop of negativity that you are already struggling with.

And another most important thing is. Give your mind time to sort itself out. Don't force it to think anything, just let it go a little bit. Your mind has noticed that something in your life is not right, and it is trying to figure it out, like a puzzle, that is why it is trying to take you into a cave and curl up, so it can focus all it processing power on that one thing that it is trying to straighten out and squeze the answers and conclusions for future use.

Re: I just lost my fifth job in six years

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Two years ago I gave up a very promising career in IT, after 8 years in I was in place to start making over 6 figures for the first time in my life... but I wasn't happy. I had money, things, tons of friends, could easily meet women (because of those friends, & money)... and I gave it all up. I sold all of my shit, gave away a ton or donated it to charity, what ever. Got rid of all of it. Then I rolled around to a fe…

I would love to echo that point. Living in SF is depressing because you're stuck with a hard choice:

1. Live in a nice place or 2. Have money to do things in your free time

If you choose 1. you sit in your nice home alone and bored if you choose 2. you have to either have the mental fortitude to deal with cramped quarters, loud smelly neighbors, the tenderloin, OR ride the train for 2-3 hours daily (live in the surrounding area).

Maybe live in portland? Seemed like a nice healthy place, albeit the weather may exacerbate your conditions.

Re: I just lost my fifth job in six years

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Which of these two options do you think would work better for you?

1. Working 4 hours a day 48 weeks a year 2. Working 8 hours a day for a month, working only every other month?

If you answered #1 that's part-time, if you answered #2 that's freelance or contract work. Those are obviously generalizations but the exercise is still useful.

You may want to check out UpWork or www.remoteok.io for contract and part-time jobs.

I hope this helped some.

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