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Here’s what Ashley Madison members have told me

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Re: Here’s what Ashley Madison members have told me

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Post by 3pt14159 »

transfire wrote: post #36

Anyone notice that the media is eating this up? But let me tell you the media also lent its support to this website. I was watching CNBC a few years ago and they had the CEO of Ashley Madison on and had a great time talking about their "brilliant business model", and how great the site was. No one seemed morally repulsed then. Well I was curious just from a business perspective (and curious how many people would actu…

You need to be far more paranoid. When Ashley Madison's parent company tried to hire me I obviously said "no", but I also became curious about their site from a different perspective (I wanted to check out their technology). But I created a one time use email address to check it out.

Re: Here’s what Ashley Madison members have told me

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Post by smtddr »

lolo_ wrote: post #25
formichunter wrote: post #2

In northern virginia, fairfaxunderground website, was nice enough to parse only information pertinent to this area. Now, everybody and their friends have searched through it looking for people they know. My wife actually found a good friend's dad listed twice...and he's still married. So, now all those facebook connection have this awkward knowledge and no one will tell the friend.

I really think you (or a mod) should edit this to not mention the site name. Regardless of what these people have done (or tried to do) let's not spread the misery further by making it easier for people to find this information.

Anyone who even knows HN exists will be tech-savvy enough to find all the sites, or torrents, providing the data without having to read a comment on HN.

Re: Here’s what Ashley Madison members have told me

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Post by Symmetry »

gnufied wrote: post #92
transfire wrote: post #36

Anyone notice that the media is eating this up? But let me tell you the media also lent its support to this website. I was watching CNBC a few years ago and they had the CEO of Ashley Madison on and had a great time talking about their "brilliant business model", and how great the site was. No one seemed morally repulsed then. Well I was curious just from a business perspective (and curious how many people would actu…

To be completely fair, internet industry as a whole is hell bent on keeping users in, rather than letting them delete their accounts. The other day, I was trying to delete my Steam account and I couldn't find a way to do that and Valve happens to be one of the most respectable company on earth. I don't know what will change attitude of our industry. I guess lot of us are still stuck with mindset of real-world brick/m…

That's one of the things I really like about Google, that they have a team that's explicitly working to make it easier to take your data out and move to a different service.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Google_Data_Liberation_Front

Re: Here’s what Ashley Madison members have told me

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Post by jahnu »

transfire wrote: post #36

Anyone notice that the media is eating this up? But let me tell you the media also lent its support to this website. I was watching CNBC a few years ago and they had the CEO of Ashley Madison on and had a great time talking about their "brilliant business model", and how great the site was. No one seemed morally repulsed then. Well I was curious just from a business perspective (and curious how many people would actu…

There are now two suspected suicides due to this.

http://www.bbc.com/news/technology-34044506

Terribly sad and deeply disturbing.

Imagine what will happen the first time a government's database of all the sites we are visiting is leaked.

Re: Here’s what Ashley Madison members have told me

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Post by LesZedCB »

netcan wrote: post #11

What I'm curious about is future changes in user behavior in response to this kind of stuff. Private data, public data and the public-private grey areas like pseudonymous posts, access restricted (FB-like) profiles and such are getting leaked all the time. Paranoia is definitely building. Awareness of how exposed people are is building. Yet, exposure is going up not down. People are posting more stuff online. I wonde…

I am a part of the polyamorous (not totally distinct, but not the same as polygamy) culture, and I think it is slowly gaining some momentum. I'm not convinced it will ever see mainstream acceptance (who knows, LGBTQ+ people somewhat enjoy that now), but I think that it's a valid way to live life and enjoy romance and relationships. I have been with my current partner for 2 years, and we have both dated other people simultaneously. Many people don't believe that jealousy isn't an issue, but to be honest, for some people it's not an issue at all, and for others, trusting your partner is much stronger than worrying about what "could happen."

Then, when it comes to stuff like this, it's not even an issue. My partner wants to hook up with somebody else? Totally, go for it, enjoy yourself. Find love in others as well. It's not that scary, and I have no fear of ever being cheated on.

Re: Here’s what Ashley Madison members have told me

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Post by pjc50 »

Symmetry wrote: post #133
gnufied wrote: post #92

Earlier quoted context omitted.

To be completely fair, internet industry as a whole is hell bent on keeping users in, rather than letting them delete their accounts. The other day, I was trying to delete my Steam account and I couldn't find a way to do that and Valve happens to be one of the most respectable company on earth. I don't know what will change attitude of our industry. I guess lot of us are still stuck with mindset of real-world brick/m…

That's one of the things I really like about Google, that they have a team that's explicitly working to make it easier to take your data out and move to a different service. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Google_Data_Liberation_Front

.. and delete it from Google afterwards?

Re: Here’s what Ashley Madison members have told me

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Post by venomsnake »

If you get caught red handed (or offend someone, or stuff like that) - never explain, never complain and under no circumstances - apologize. Neither of those things will help to improve your outcomes. And the people writing often break all 3 of them.

You can go on offensive though (also known as the half Trump).

Basic rules of maleness.

Re: Here’s what Ashley Madison members have told me

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Post by vezzy-fnord »

DanielBMarkham wrote: post #4

Immediately, somebody should begin a study on the impact of this data leak. Millions of cheaters exposed? What will be the increase in counseling? Divorce rate? What percentage of folks will carry on like nothing has happened? It's an incredible story. I'm not sure the English language has a word to describe this: watching millions of people go through marital pain all at the same time. It's not a train wreck -- you…

I am reminded of Stalin's quote

Tucholsky's quote.

Re: Here’s what Ashley Madison members have told me

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Post by Avenger42 »

hyperpape wrote: post #91
bradleyankrom wrote: post #56

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I know the sample Troy showed may not be representative of the whole, but I think there are a lot of users, outside of tech, that aren't aware of the breach. There is a comment somewhere -- maybe it's from the article, I can't remember -- expressing surprise that the AM home page doesn't acknowledge the breach at all. I would imagine that they are still receiving signups from folks who aren't following this story.

They are still receiving signups: https://twitter.com/matthew_d_green/status/63482830938637107...

Mike Masnick of Techdirt also got signed up post-breach: https://www.techdirt.com/articles/20150820/16523632021/day-s...

Re: Here’s what Ashley Madison members have told me

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Post by roymurdock »

cousin_it wrote: post #103
roymurdock wrote: post #83

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I'm not trying to be mean. I'm pushing OP to reflect on why he holds some of the viewpoints that he does. I'm also not trying to imply that OP does not have enough friends. Just that he might get a broader picture of women in general if he had more female friends. I read your edited comment about how that made you sad. A lot of things on HN make me sad - there are many unnecessarily mean, rude, snarky comments posted…

Fair enough. Sorry if my own comment was unnecessarily harsh.

No problem. See you around HN :)
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