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Ask HN: How do you deal with getting older?

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Re: Ask HN: How do you deal with getting older?

#51

When I was young I told my friends that if they saw me in 20 years married and not playing music full time to go ahead and punch me in the face. I honestly thought that I would feel exactly the same at 40 that I did at 20. At that age I probably would have looked at my older self and thought that I had lost my passion, had sold out, become uncool, etc. It didn't occur to me that I would still remember everything that…

> I honestly thought that I would feel exactly the same at 40 that I did at 20.

No you didn't. That's why you told your friends to slap you.

So you're now married, live a boring life just like the 40 year olds you saw when you were 20.

Justifying it to yourself in every way possible.

Despite the fact you still long for that 'fun' past.

Grow a pair man. Lying to yourself gets you nowhere no matter how good it feels.

Re: Ask HN: How do you deal with getting older?

#53
To me, it seems lots of the "big ideas" dreamed up by the 20-year-olds seem to only cater to the 20-year-olds. I'm upper 30's, lots of kids, married a long time. Too much of the new stuff doesn't interest me. Maybe I'm just bored of it all.

I felt a little more comfortable doing what I do when I was younger, but mostly because I had tons of energy, no fear, and little to lose. Responsibility has made me move much slower. Plus, I've made mistakes, learned from them, and now fear the thought of new problems.

Also, I used to think about business 24/7. Sleep 4 hours a night. Work because I loved it so much. I couldn't keep up with the new ideas, and I had to implement them ALL or I was a mess!

Now... I need 7 hours of sleep, and I have a little fishing boat parked next to the house. I'd rather be out on the lake with my wife, or the kids, and a pole. These are the moments that make my life feel full. If I don't make the "next big thing"... I'm good.

Re: Ask HN: How do you deal with getting older?

#54
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There's an (spanish) old saying that goes: The devil knows more because he's old than he does because he's the devil. (Or Más sabe el diablo por viejo que por diablo.) HTH.

Old sayings are so much better than young sayings.

Agreed. In fact this sounded a lot better than "YOLO".

Re: Ask HN: How do you deal with getting older?

#56
> As hackers, do you feel like you can hack life and get more years out of it then the average joe?

Yeah, sun screen, good diet, meditation and exercise.

> Or do you feel lost in a culture that hails 20 year olds that are dreaming up the next big thing?

I feel there's a rift.

The market is more competitive and requires people to go to school longer to stay on edge.

For me, it seem you trade your social life, kinda, for a secured or better future prospect by chasing the money instead of enjoyment of life. So the rift I'm seeing is that there are younger people that are poor but more genuine in characters and sociable. I find myself stuck being jealous, not envious mind you, but at the same time working on this aspect of myself. I'm also using my money to buy experiences such as trying new things and creating opportunity to experience things.

As I am closer to 30, soon to be 30 this year, I find myself less risky and more conservative in actions. In term of I now rather have a secure job with better work balance life than a startup job with lots of overtime.

The next big thing for me is not the big thing anymore.

It's what is good enough to bring in passive income with minimum amount of upkeep.

It's not, oh I want to be the next google, but more of I want to create a service that people want -- at the same that enable me to work little so I can enjoy more.

Sometime I feel lost or rather frustrated, the young kid in their 20s adopt bleeding edge technology recklessly and they move on to new job and somebody are stuck with maintaining their mess. Google have Mesos or Kubernetes or Big data, we need it too!

If you young people are reading, please adopt boring technology. Or research more throughly, I guess taking a risk in adoption can pay out, RoR senior are making bank. I chose the PHP route...

Re: Ask HN: How do you deal with getting older?

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"Hack life"...please, just stop with this. Can we coin a new phrase?

"live to the fullest" or maybe just..."live" so often it seems like we're so preoccupied with 'hacking' our lives that we forget to live them at all...

True. The phrases 'mistaking the map for the territory' and 'eating the menu rather than the dinner' spring to mind.

Re: Ask HN: How do you deal with getting older?

#60

40 year olds today were the first generation to grow up with computers. 10 years ago, 40 year olds were "old" in computer parlance. The myth of the 20 year old hacker will go away over time, as more and more people grow up immersed in technology (and thus possess the necessary skillset). I would even go so far as to say that our culture's preoccupation with youth presents an opportunity for disruptive ideas/startups,…

Actually, that would be people in their early 50's. Born in '64, started programming in '77.

You're not technically wrong, but having access to a computer (let alone a personal/home computer) in 77 was still quite a niche thing for society. I don't think it started becoming a 'thing' until 81-82 at least. Of course, this is my generation, but my own experience is that the numbers bear that out a bit. Having seen schools adopt computer labs in the 80s where they had none in the 70s tells me it was not until that time that more kids were getting access to computers in the first place.

But.. by the 90s-2000s, we saw the decline of the 'program something on this' computer style - turning on an Atari, Commodore or Apple II and you immediately were thrown in to "start typing in code" mode. The rise in accessible technologies seemed to turn the next generations largely in to application consumers, not developers. Probably have the same number of hacker/developers in each generation, but because 10x as many people used technology/computers of some sort, the aura of 'new frontier' seemed to go away some. And yeah, some of that may be because I got older, but I think there was something unique about the late 70s and early 80s with respect to computers/tech and how it affected those young generations lucky enough to have access to those machines...

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